I recently gave up homosexuality for God, and I was doing good. Then I had a dream about having sex with a man, and he was a hot one. Why would God let me dream such a thing? I am hard as a rock now, and just want to ejaculate over my dream, but I do not want to hurt Gid. What should I do? This is eating me up inside.
2006-07-20 20:58:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Dreams are the product of subconscious things on your mind. Since you were associated with homosexuality till recent times, your mind didn't have enough time to erase all the temp files and cookies. You have to fill your mind with the things of God like reading the Bible and some good books and having Bible studies etc with a good group. These activities will replace all the waste material in your subconscious mind and you will stop having useless dreams. Its not a guarantee, but if you let your mind be under the influence of God and spiritual things, the less ignoble thoughts and dreams will not trouble you most of the time. Remember 1 Cor 10:13. Its a safety fuse in the Christian life.
2006-07-20 23:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by sunilbernard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't make you have dreams, or not have dreams. That's not his job. His job is to get you to behave, and be good.
God also didn't make you a homosexual, just like he didn't make you a heterosexual. That's not his job either. Unfortunately, he also didn't give you the ability to choose what you are to this day. While you will always be able to make changes in your life to change the core of who you are if you try long and hard enough, even your sexuality, you can't make it happen overnight, and you can't do anything about the circumstances that made you homosexual. All you can do is decide what is right for your future.
If being homosexual does not feel right in your relationship with God, then it's not right. If you can be comfortable being homosexual, and feel that God will accept you that way, then that is the right way.
I believe your conscience can guide you. Intuition is a wonderful thing. I think it's God's way of helping us.
Here's a few things you SHOULD NOT believe:
1. God didn't make you homosexual. He doesn't decide your sexual preference. That's not his job.
2. You didn't decide your sexual preference. No one has that ability. Sexual preferences are developed so young, you're not able to decide a sexual orientation.
3. You're not responsible for who you are attracted to up to this point. Every person is a product of their environment. There is no recipe for becoming homosexual or heterosexual, but every tiny piece of your existence up until now influenced you into becoming who you are.
4. Your sexual orientation IS NOT set in stone. People are attracted to different things for different reasons, based on their experiences. We make friends with those we connect with. We make attractions based on our experiences. The human mind is a powerful tool that controls the rest of the body. While you did not have a decision in why you are homosexual, you do have the opportunity to change who you are, if you know yourself well enough, and if you want it bad enough. Nothing is set in stone.
Things you SHOULD believe:
1. You DO have the ability to change who you are. Even at your core. Even with something so ingrained as sexual preference. Nothing is more powerful than the human mind.
2. You need to do whatever is right to keep your piece of mind. If that means being homosexual because you feel you're betraying yourself by being any other way, then be homosexual. If that means being heterosexual because you feel you are betraying your faith, then be heterosexual. What is ultimately important is that you are doing what you feel is right.
3. Know that you are not responsible for urges, dreams or desires.
4. Know that you can control, contain, and even change urges, dreams and desires. Your mind can do anything. The dreams will change when the urges change. But, who knows, every once in awhile, you may still have a dream about a guy. Every heterosexual man does too, whether he wants to and whether or not he admits it.
5. Behavior patterns take time to change. Changing your core starts with controlling your actions, and serving your true beliefs. Eventually the subconscious, where urges and desires come from, will be reprogrammed, just like it was programmed the first time.
Ultimately, do what is right for you, and "Be Good".
2006-07-21 04:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by soontobeit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy, I 'm really happy and impressed by the thought that you have given up homosexulatiy. Look, you don't need to be disturbed that you had such a dream. God did not show it to you. We dream what we think about during the day. Listen, if you are a Christian I can tell you that you need to remember what the Holy Bible says, "The path to heaven is narrow and few are those who find it...even fewer are those who find it and walk on it." This is what perserverence is all about. You may get tempted like mad but you will never regret any sacrifices you make for God. Listen learn to be silent and pray to God and He will help you. I know it is very difficult. We should stay away from the occasion of sin b/c it can catch us like wild fire. Remember "Gold is always tested in a furnace". Like the purest of Gold in a furnace, is your love (For God) strong enough to endure?'' These words are from a beautiful song.
I know what you are going through. I myself am in the same boat as you..No I'm not homo but I have such ugly thoughts that invade my mind but I'm trying really hard. Look, if you really want to know what it means to fear God, I suggest that you read the prophecies mentioned in the Books of Daniel, Amos, Ezekiel and Revelation. You will come to know what God is going to do with all such people who are wicked and practise unlawful sex.
So don't be afraid. We are living in the End Times and Satan will stop at nothing to get you to do wrong. He will convince you that you are right..that there's nothing wrong with unlawful sex coz everyone is doing it...i mean most people But remember my friend..it will cost you your soul. So be brave go and read the Bible. You will be relieved. I wish to get a feedback from you after you read my answer.
2006-07-21 04:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Shirs G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a Christian, but according tp my religion,the best thing to do is give up on all desires , including sex n marriage, but I haven't done that n so haven't 95 percent of the followers of my religion. Maybe everything God asks us to do , is perfect. If u give up everything , that's like becoming God urself.U are going through a confused state, wiz part of life. This is a phase where u will struggle from within and after months , u will come up with the correct true answer.
And I am confident that ur decision whatever it will be ,will lead u back to ur homosexual ways.Donj't run from urself , if what ur doin is not wrong , just go for it.Research says that homosexuals, are biologically made to be so, but some turn out to be normal, the rest do as they r designed to be.
2006-07-21 04:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Vio Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You clearly are attracted to Males and that is your sexuality.
Do you want to suffer for the rest of your life or do you want to live a happy life - after all we are living for maximum 70 - 80 years from which we will be sexually active may be till we are 60.
You should follow your instincts and be with the person you prefer than suffer for the rest of your life. I personally don't believe in God because God is a creation of Mans Imagination !
2006-07-21 04:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by R G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I really am proud of you for giving up homosexuality but God didn't let you have this dream as becoming a christian we are going to get temptations and trails but we need to overcome them. remember God wont give up anything we can't bare. I know it may be hard for you because this is your weakest sin. But stand firm and ask God for strength. I will be praying for you. God Bless
2006-07-21 04:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jc Warrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask God. There will always be the temptation but he will always provide a way out. As you read his word and talk with him, then this carnal desire will pass you by and you once again enjoy the peace you have in your relationship with the Lord. Dear God, strengthen this young man as he has given his life to be of service to you and has repented of a most difficult thing, but you have told us that with you all things are possible. Guide him at this moment, to not give in to the fleshly temptations, but to turn to you for strength and endurance. Amen.
2006-07-21 04:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by dph_40 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes u think that God gave you that dream? Don't be quick to blame God something you ain't sure of?
Being tempted is not a sin; giving in to the temptation is.
2006-07-21 04:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kurakat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your homosexuality is made by your mind only. Just stop to think so much about it. Do all you can to replace this thoughts with other, more positive.
It is good that you you care so much for God.
Try to understand that all is just a trick of your mind. He just want something he believes makes him feel good when actually on long run it will bring you both only pain and misery.
2006-07-21 04:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by PINKO P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not held accountable for our dreams. Even great Christians of the past like St. Augustine had problems with sex dreams.
Go take a cold shower and get over it.
2006-07-21 04:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Dysthymia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋