I have a hectic time with baby and chores, she never offers to help seems when she comes she just wants to interrogate me on goings on and never actually spends one on one time with the baby.... When I do have some quiet time during the week I want to cherish it on my own or do something I would like to do.
She is very persistent and insists on comming over during the week "to visit the baby". Unfortunately I don't deal with conflict very well, Is there a nice way to tell my mother-in-law to just bug off? Why can't she come on the weekends like everyone else? I mean its more convenient. I want to say it without making enemies, if you know what I mean. I have tried to suggest it but she is so very persistent.
2006-07-20 20:33:46 · 7 answers · asked by Sarah 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i moved four hours away from mine and she stopped coming over
2006-07-22 05:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you're very busy during the day and to only visit you on the weekends or the evenings, unless she's there to help you because you don't need the distractions. Good luck.
2006-07-20 22:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds familiar. i stopped answering my phone and answering the doorbell. and when i knew she was coming i would leave. she would then cry to her son and say why is she hogging the baby or why can't i come when i want. he finally got sick of her to and put his foot down. now she comes once in a great while and when i'm not home:)
sometimes enemies are best, not that that is the way you want to go, but to prove a point that's what you have to do. going on for 11 years now and 4 kids.
2006-07-24 19:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you would like to have more alone time with your baby ..and could she visit you once a week..There is no reason for her to be over there that many times unless she is helping you but you said she isn't so just tell her..Tell her you don't mean to hurt her by asking this ......and she doesn't need to be asking alot of questions about things that are not her business.
2006-07-20 20:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can tell u there is no easy way from experience. My husbands parents are deceased but he does have 4 sisters. They were always stopping by unannounced after the birth of our daughter and one actually invited herself to move in when she was fighting with her boyfriend. She was the same way always interogating me and telling me i was doing things wrong. being stressed from having a newborn and my husband never getting up with her, I just went to stay with my mother for awhile as I desperately needed the help and I did not want to ask my husband to have to chose between me and his sister. Well needless to say it all came to a head and my husband asked her politely to leave and after 2 years I am still referred to as the B**ch. You just cannot win in this kinda situation.
2006-07-20 21:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need your space i take my daugther to my moms house on fridays night and let her stay until sunday night, if she really wants to see the baby your mother in law should be happy with this, try it if you want it might work. good luck
2006-07-20 21:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by zoesmom20 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
make the babys father tell her to bug off
2006-07-20 20:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋