I just dated this incredible girl and we had nothing but an awesome time together. She used to date this guy (who was also her first boyfriend) who was controlling and verbally abusive. They broke up about 3-4 times over. Her friends and parents hate him. She would tell me how she hated the things he did and how she couldn't be his friend. Now we've broken up and they're friends, however she isn't dating him nor really hanging out with him. She's basically shut me out of her life, although she really wanted to be friends and still hang out. I still get the feeling she really misses me (she has to!) but we haven't talked in almost 2 weeks (except brief text message).
I want to ask her if she wants to go to coffee or get cheesecake. If she starts acting like she doesn't want to Im gonna tell her "I just wanna be your friend, im not picking up on you. Im (kinda?) seeing someone anyway". I know it sounds bad but I know jealousy is a strong emotion. Would it work? (Details are good)
2006-07-20 20:32:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you truly just want to be friends, there is a possiblity of it working. She may need more time to deal with all of her emotions. But lets be honest with ourselves, who can resist cheesecake? yum. Maybe (at first) make a rule that you guys don't mention details about the people the that you are seeing, to help with the jealousy issues. How does the person you are now seeing feel about this? Goodluck, and try not to be discouraged easily, she may not seem like she wants to be friends at first. If so, give her some time and then try again.
2006-07-20 20:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to trick someone into getting back with you.? Why are you broken up? Maybe ask her to talk-women love to talk over coffee and cheesecake-over what went wrong and if there is anyway to repair the damage; because without her you have a big gaping whole in your life. If that doesn't work- she does not want to be with you!
Best of luck
2006-07-21 03:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by moniiluv17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs and needed the time to get over a bad relationship....give her this time to do this. Sounds like she is trying to not be attached to anyone, which is a good thing for her in order to make a good decision for her next relationship. The jealousy theory is a game......it could backfire. I don't think she needs anymore controlling, she needs respect.
2006-07-21 03:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what will work? Don't contact her again and let her miss you. Disappear.. and if she truly misses you, she will come back to you. If you make the first move, she won't appreciate ur being gone. so no matter what, just dont do anything. if she doesnt do anything, then consider the relationship done. and dont cry over spilled milk, honey. go find urself another one :)
2006-07-21 03:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her first bf was abusive and you aren't she might be scared a little and feeling a touch lost and doesn't know what to do. Perhaps she was told by her bf not to talk to you anymore and she's always been told what to do so she doesn't know what else to do but to obey him even though she, in her heart, doesn't want to. He may be controlling her again.
2006-07-21 03:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by peach_campbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you still love her or miss her...best thing to do is just be a nice guy and give her space...one thing that will work is if you ignore her...it will eat her up inside..jusst tell her hi when u see her make it brief...you will see in no time she will come around
2006-07-21 03:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by liltexas36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont do it when a girl wants you she will call you, you must give her a challange to get you allways thats why she keeps going back to nutso. now here is what you!... send her a text msg saying thanks for the fun times together i will not try to contact you anymore have a great life. never sweat a girl! the more you sweat her the more it pushes her away.
2006-07-21 03:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is ignore her and she may come your way....that usually works for me......she became friends with this X and that is because they can talk without an argument now
2006-07-21 03:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not call her, do not contact her! Let her be the one to instigate. This is one of those tests women do. She will call you in 2 weeks, saying,"why haven't you called". (the sex will be great, trust me)
2006-07-21 03:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what's the question??? you know what to do...just do it buddy! that is definitely going to make her jealous! and yes find some other girl..why do you wana make your life complicated? cheer up! n good luck!
2006-07-21 03:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by pinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋