I broke up with my boyfriend about three days ago. Even though we dated for a year and a half, it was a friendly break up, feelings-have-changed sort of thing. We've gone bowling once already just as friends because we've always had a Wednesday bowling night. I brought my sister and her friend along, but it was still fairly tense all night. We were friends before we dated and my question is: Can we ever just be friends again and how can I make our relationship as comfortable as possible? I do value his opinion and his friendship, so I don't want to lose him.
2006-07-20 20:31:46 · 12 answers · asked by Grace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you can be friends, but it will be very guarded for a while. It might take some time. If there's tension, then wait longer next time before hanging out -- 3 days is really not enough time at all. Maybe just call or IM for a while instead. Eventually things will get back to normal. I'd give it 2 or 3 months.
Fair warning: Don't have any random romps in the hay just for the hell of it -- or the convenience of it. Those can stir up feelings that neither one of you wants the other to feel -- because it's usually only one who ends up with the baggage and it won't last anyway. I know friends -- male and female -- who have made this mistake and have regretted it b/c they have to try to get rid of the ex AGAIN and it's always worse the second time around.
2006-07-20 20:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mister_Shhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one year in a relationship is not bad, try 4 years and then breaking up. Thats what happened to me. Me and my girl had a clean break, and I always asked myself could we still be friends without being awkward? Yeah you can if you don't make it awkward. LIke you said as long as you value his opinion and friendship, he will do the same to you. keep in contact with him, but still move on with your life. I hope that helps you out.
2006-07-20 20:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could work but it would take time. from personal experience I have learned that until both of you are completely OK with seening the other with another person will it be OK and it will become a friendship once again
2006-07-20 20:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by gilgler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going from "INVOLVED" with someone, and then going from just "involved" can be quite difficult.
As time passes, (being friends again) you will both remember what your friendship and relationship is to eachother, just the way it used to be.
And, the awkwardness, will go away, and you will be back to a normal friendship.
Good Luck, (I see you back with him) (its OK it happens)
2006-07-20 21:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by two_skrus_luse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both still can be friends if this guy does not care aboutthe past, from what i see, the most important what do u think about this friendship?willi it last?or might it be the second chance for your both ?if the answer is no ,yes you both can be friends or soul mate.
2006-07-20 20:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the guy...if hes a total jerk about those kinds of things...then no...but wit mi bf...he wuz really nice and i just didnt like him anymore and i told him....and were still friends...but wit mi other friend...i told him i didnt like him anymore he threw a temper tantrum (no joke) and kept texting me i hate u ur an ******...he left me 20 min voicemails tellin me i wuz an idiot 4 brakin up wit him....but we were best friends first
so it really depends
but nuthin will ever b EXACTALLY the same anyway
2006-07-20 20:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes pepole get along better as friends then they did in a relationship u can still be friends
2006-07-20 20:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by eyes_kitty_green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did this with me x and i just talked to her about it and i just said u wanna still b friends and stuff like that and she was like ok and a while later we got back together! hope this helps
2006-07-20 20:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can still be friends..me and one of my ex's are the best of friends...just takes time tho...it will work out fine you just wait and see
2006-07-20 20:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by liltexas36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is talk to him & find out how he feels about your breakup. Then yes you still can be friends.
2006-07-20 20:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by scarlet pimpernell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋