I'm gay and my parents don't know I'm gay what should i tell them,they are religious?

Answer 1

You should sit your parents down and tell them straight out. It's going to be hard, but you'll feel better once it's out in the open. If your parents really, really love you, they'll accept you for who you are, no matter what your sexual orientation it. They MIGHT freak out first, or ask weird questions, but give them time. Although it's not really a big thing, because our world is kinda screwed up, people think being gay is a big deal. Let them know that you're still the same person and that you love them dearly. Being your parents, they have the right to know that you are gay. :)

Answer 2

This is a hard question to answer as its different with all parents whether they are religious or not. Well first of all, how old are you? It is definately not the best idea not to tell them but you have to make sure you're ready before you do. If you think you are ready and you want to tell them, try to plan it out. How against gay people are they? If its really really bad, be prepared for whatever they might say. It might suck to think about, but in the most extreme situations, making sure you have a place to stay before might be a good idea. I don't want to scare you. Most parents won't do it but if you think they might... Some religious parents will try to "get you help" or might tell you its a phase and you just havent met the right person yet. Some will get emotional. There is almost always some kind of crying involved whether it goes good or bad.

Now, what exactly you should say is up to you. I'm not an expert and theres no "best way" to do it.. I've had friends who have done it through a letter. You probably wont want to do it on the phone. What might make it easier is deciding which parent you're closer to or might take it easier and telling them first.

Well like I've already said, theres no best way to do it. Just make sure you're ready before you do. One thing that I can say is that if all goes well, you'll feel alot better about yourself(Even if you think you're happy now...)

Ok well again, make sure you're ready and good luck!

Answer 3

I'm not gay, have no gay friends. However, I am a mother and quite frankly,sometimes things are better left unsaid. I adore my son - his love life is nothing to do with me, really. He's not gay, has a girlfriend. I just accept what he tells me - ask no questions, be told no lies. Sometimes if you bring things up, people have to deal with them and if they're not ready, it can be a tremendous shock. Hurtful things can be said, relationships ruined. They might be supportive, but why don't you wait until the penny drops? You don't have to hide it, be discreet. Ease yourself out of the closet. And drop hints - wear a pink shirt, sing Liza Minelli songs, say things like: Marriage isn't for me etc etc. Perhaps after a while, you'll be able to talk about it comfortably. You actually don't owe anybody anything, other than respect and affection. It is up to you, but go carefully.

Answer 4

Wow, some of the people above me are pretty stupid. If gay was a real thing, you could get gay pregnant, eh? I like cake. I've never gotten it pregnant. Even while having casual cake with no protection. And is all gay sex officially adultery? That one bewilders me. If she had said sodomy, it would at least make sense despite my disagreement.

I say this is a judgement call for you. They're likely going to find out at some point, so don't think you can hide it forever. However, if you're still living at home and think they might react poorly, it's perfectly appropriate to wait until you've moved out. A lot of people wait till college age or later to come out.

Answer 5

Please don't listen to people who are trying to tell you that being gay is 'unnatural' etc. It's actually perfectly natural. If you overcrowd a cage with monkeys, some of them will become gay.

People being homosexual is nature's way of telling us that there are far too many humans on this planet and could we please stop reproducing. It's like natural contraception to prevent further over-population and is completely natural. Well done, you are doing your bit for humanity!

However, many, many people do not see it this way and have ridiculous, small minded hang ups. I don't think that you should tell your parents that you are gay. I don't think that you should tell them anything.

Just carry on and do what you want to do, go out with who you want and live with who you want. Your parents will probably be in denial about it anyway. Don't shove it in their faces if you want to maintain a good relationship with them. If they then deduce you are gay and choose to disown you, let them. You are not responsible for breaking up the family, they are. You didn't choose to be gay, you just are and that's absolutely fine. If your parents can't se that, it's not your problem.

Answer 6

Some people are gay and some are hetrosexual. just like being left handed and right handed. It is beter to share the fact that you are gay with your Parents , because at some stage they may discover it and will be disapointed you could not confide with them. Initially they may be disapointed that you are gay, but this will generally pass. Parents do accept your feelings and are supportive to their offspring. They will feel you are approaching matters in a mature manner if you confide in them

Answer 7

be true to yourself

however, u should try considering what's realy right.. i mean although i'm an open minded person.. i myself am religious..

u see.. have u ever thought of it this way.. first there were only man and woman right? now there are gays and lesbians..

gays are men who are incorporating female attributes whether physical or through emotions.

lesbians are women who are incorporating male attributes..

which boils down to... they just fall on to 2 genders.. male and female..

i'm sorry.. i guess i'm making it worst for u.. but don't u just love freedom of speech?

anyhow, to help u at least a little.. well, there's no other way of telling them but just by telling them. that's the path u took so that's how it should be. there's no easy way of telling them and convincing them that it's practically normal.. coz i'm tellilng u from their point of view it's never gonna be normal for them or even right.

point to reconsider.. try thinking if this is really right....

Answer 8

Hei hei hei! Don't ne gay! Love girls for this you are a man !If you are a girl love a boy! and tell your parents that you are gay explain them why you are gay and im sure they will accept this! But you need a lot of courage to tell them this!!!

Answer 9

how old are you and is it your parents business, and if you are not in a relationship. why say any thing, but again the age. Do you need their promission or what. IF they LOVE YOU THEY WILL LOVE YOU, if not they will LOVE YOU From a distance... Always remember you are the same person that you ARE and WILL BE moments before you reveil your personal life and the moment that follow. They just know more about you. that has been you all along.
Hang in There.
again I say If THEY DON"T LOVE YOU MOMENTS AFTER THEY FIND OUT, THEN I DON'T TRULY THINK THEY LOVED YOU BEFORE THOSE MOMENTS.

Answer 10

I have a friend who is gay and his parents were super religious (is dad is a preacher!!) he told them during their fav TV show and was just like "Mum, dad I'm gay" and apparently no-one has spoken about it since, but everyone knows...