I just found out that I have an older sister, something my Father never mentioned...?

Question

I am 31, my sister is 38. I feel so robbed by not being able to know my sister! How should I approach this situation with my Father? He & I are not very close anyway, and I am so ANGRY with him, I could seriously go through life and never speak to him again...HELP

Answer 1

Take it from me.......I know this. My birth mom found me when I was 28. She had a line on my birth dad, and I called him 6 months later. He had never said a word to my sibs that I might exist. When I called him, (there was a long talk before), he actually handed the phone to my little brother, who was 21 at the time, to have me EXPLAIN I was his sister!

The 60's was such a different time. Don't stop talking to your dad, and definately try to talk to your new found sibling. The way my birth dad handled it, I have had such a hard time connecting with my little sis and 2 lil bros. My birth mom had been so open with her kids, that we have a great relationship today.

Go ahead and get p.o. at dad. But try to talk to your new found sib. It is not to late to connect!

Answer 2

First thing i would do is to find out how to contact her! Leave your father out of it. Don't turn such wonderful news into something negative! Remember he did the same thing to your sister. Establish a relationship with her and when the two of you feel comfortable, then confront your father. You don't know the circumstances. There cuold be a reason.

Answer 3

adults have Meany reasons why they don't talk about the past like..embarrassment ,quarrels that come with a new family,disagreements,conditions of in-com,family unwelcome gossip..sometimes you will be visualized by the wiles of ingenious from a man or women all of this is life rough unknown road ,we all suffer by making a mistake in deciding what road we take ,then we have consequence that come with it....as for you in the other hand you are doing the same thing by being judgmental ..your life is your ma stake and his is his..try not to be so negative and be more positive and try to find you new sister and enjoy what you have left..do your own research by finding out wear she was born go to the hall of records and look for info..ask your grand-parents or every now and then ask your dad little questions at a time and log it down the past will always come out in the open.......good luck.......

Answer 4

of course you are angry.

How about waiting on the father part of this? You aren't that close anyway, and he probably isn't going to be able to say anything that makes you feel better. he may not even understand your anger.



for now, why don't you find and get to know your sister ?

Answer 5

talk on your mom and notice if she will make valuable that this individual is largely your cousin and not some stranger who handed off to confirm some own recommendations approximately you. then you definitely might desire to ask your mom if people on your father's component have undesirable attributes (like utilising different individuals), as a results of fact that there's a rationalization why your mom left your organic and organic father. when you get all of this out of how, proceed with warning and arise to doing any "favors" at present, as they have no real to ask such problems with you. be careful and good success.

Answer 6

You definatly fee betrayed. Have you asked your dad why he kept her a secret? He might of thought is was for the best for all concerned. Forgive your dad. go for a run or chop wood, anything that will get rid of your anger. Let him know you are disappointed, but because you love him so much and you are willing to forgive him.
Hon you just have one dad and one lifeto live. Get to know your sis and forgive dad and be a happy family

Answer 7

meet your sister.