If a woman chooses to remains a virgin until she marries.Does it turn into a disadvantage?

Question

If a woman chooses to remains a virgin until she marries.Does it turn into a disadvantage?

I'm 29 and i plan to wait until I marry. Many of my friends claim that this is a disadvantage cause men hate that. They claim most men want women who have had "experience" Why is it men will hate that a woman plans to wait until she marries. Second, does it make a woman a so call target( meaning men will think she is naive and want to run to her and try to con her or use her to get what they want). When should a woman tell the man she sees that she plans to wait until she marries?

Answer 1

You don't marry a person for sex. You marry them because love the person. Sex is a benefit of getting close to someone. Waiting is a good thing. Once of my male friends told me that most guys prefer VIRGINS. He used the analogy of a newspaper, most people want a newspaper that hasn't be wrinkled and used by everyone whose had their hands on it. They want a nice, clean untouched newspaper.

I know how you feel. I'm running the same race as you, but I'm a bit younger (I'm 22). If a guy gives you trouble about being a virgin, you don't want him anyway. He is compromising your beliefs. But when you finally get that man who loves you and respects you, you'll will be glad you waited. I know I will be.

Peace to You!

Answer 2

Hello, I am a 37 year old single mother of two boys ages 12 and 10. It doesn't make you naive, it make you a young woman that knows what she wants and does not mind waiting to find that right one or build your career up. I married young and my husband was my first at the age of nineteen. I now have two divorces under my belt and my kids are from my second marriage. I'm back in school trying to get my RN Linceses when I should have done this first. Take your time and enjoy life if that special someone is in to you, he will respect your decision and not pressure you. Don't think he won't be getting it from elsewhere because he will, just as long as he does not flaunt it in your face and respect you when you two are together. B-4 you finally give up your virginaty, make sure he gets tested and ask him not to get offened but you are not ready to die of AIDES! CONDOMS are even better especially if you are not ready for kids. GOOD LUCK Tell him after the first date 2 see if he likes U

Answer 3

In my own opinion, it's not a disadvantage. I'm 20 and I have the same conviction, to remain a virgin until I marry. My male friends don't see it as a disadvantage, in fact, they think otherwise. To some men (the players), they see such a kind of woman as a challenge, and yes, they will try their way for her to defy her stands. It's up to the woman to hold her grounds. You can tell the man you're dating about the matter if the two of you happen to talk about the private issue or if you're already too comfortable with eath other, you can say about that matter anytime. I admire your conviction. ^_^

Answer 4

Yes it does turn into a disadvantage for the other man if he can't respect your decision. It is a sacred thing, lose it to the one who really deserves to have you. Don't worry about what others have to say, listen to your heart and always follow it. A woman who has faith on herself will never become a target or no man can con her. Also, wait until you know your relationship is strong and your partner will understand your feelings. Don't be disappointed, be strong and wait for it.

Answer 5

My way of thinking of my virginity is this- im staying this way till im married, but if im with the guy im gonna marry, why wait? I find it respectable and hard to be a virgin these days. On one hand, people respect that your upholding old fashioned values, but on the other- they think its interesting and appealing to touch the untouched. I told my current bf that after about almost a year dating, were long distance- and he feels the same- no pressuring into it and were both in college, so it might have reprocussions that would hinder our future( unplanned pregnancy, ect). But I feel that you should tell a man your intentions when the relationship gets to that point of when futures are discussed- not on the first date when your trying to get to know someone. But I do keep my virginity a secret, because I feel if i expose that side of myself- I will get guys who want to dirty something I value very highly. You choose what you do with your virginity. But one thing is very true to me: when I get married, I want to know that the man I marry will value me as an equal as a life partner as well as beneath the sheets.

Answer 6

Hello, my name is Erik. 1st part of your question:
"...cause men hate that." I wish I wish I wish I wish, I pray to God that I could meet a smart & pretty girl that is saving herself for her True Love. I have other male friends that want this too, even though they will not admit it to strangers. I will because it makes perfect sense to me. I do NOT want to boldly go where all the other 'guys' have gone before. Plus, a girl saving herself for her Love shows how intelligent she is. You can be a very 'sexual' and sensual person and still be a virgin.

I do not go to church, but maybe once a year. I have my beliefs. But this is something that makes total sense. I am not waiting for a piece of paper or the minister to say, 'you're married'- I am just waiting for the one that I am going to spend the rest of my life with.
I have gone through HELL because of this, but I am STILL glad that I have done so. Even though I am getting quite "old" and the heart-ache is raging.
(I write a lot of songs!)
So to end my ramblings about the 1st part of your question- 'do guys hate that?'- only moronic idiot little boys or guys named "Paulo".
(place laugh track here)

2nd part. "Maker her a target... using it as a con?" Heck no.
3rd- "when should she tell him?"- when ever it feels right. I would like to meet a girl and have her tell me the 1st or 2nd time... we talk. I live in Noo Joisey where goils give themselves away to the 1st bidder, and the girls always say the same thing,
either: A: "I just wanted to get it over with, what's the big deal."
or B: "I THOUGHT I was going to be with 'him' faw-evah."
(I am moving).
Take care. If any girls are reading this and you are saving yourself for your True Love- thank you for being smart and understanding and having deep feelings. The great films, songs, stories are written for you.

Answer 7

not all guys see it that way. My husband knew from day one that he wasn't going to get any until after we were married and he respected that. He actually saw it as a way to make me the way he wanted in that "area". Everything I know he taught me. Now, my side. It wasn't hard at first to have him be my first and only, but now, I have this problem where curiosity is getting the best of me and I want to explore. That is really the only downside I have expreienced so far. (sorry this is a long answer.)

Answer 8

it depends where are you living, in America and Europa it may looks disadvantage. but in India and in UAE it is the basic Honor for a girl.
if you are 29 then you should merry soon, cause of age factor.

Answer 9

Be honest with this person that you intend to wait till marriage. Don't worry about what others think,it just means you suffer from a severe case of decency.

Answer 10

Well, if the girl remains a virgin and has sex with her partner for the first time and she hates it, then she's kinda trapped in the marriage isn't she?