I have a lil story, um so there is this guy who came to my workplace, and asked what my name was and he told me his name, next time i worked he stopped by and apologized stating he lied about his name, instead of being more annoyed, i said it was cool it and gave him a free lemonade..ever since then we talked and saw each other, and we always hanged out and i started to like him. I never thought that this type of person actually existed. He would indirectly express his feelings and obviously he deeply cared about me...well, there was this one night where he said, " I like you and Im attracted to you" and he leaned in for the kiss, but you know what i did? i leaned back and i dont know why, i wanted to kiss him, but he caught me off gaurd and that was my impulsive reaction, i guess i got scared and i have been thinking a lot about it, and i just cannot come to a conclusion...does he like or is just lust?
2006-07-20 18:46:29 · 13 answers · asked by Roseangelic 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not sure that it is ever really possible to tell the difference. Unfortunately, the easiest way to tell the difference is probably through hindsight. After you have finished a relationship with someone, you will sometimes come to the realization that you weren't really in love with them and that is was only about lust from the start. I don't think it usually works the other way however.
2006-07-20 18:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by colton369 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is what initially attracts two people to each other. You see someone, they look good, you want to spend more time with them. Whoa! Back off a little! Take your time and get to know the other person.
Love grows. It gets deeper every day. It never happens at first sight. Love is patient, kind, forgiving, honest, and any other positive adjectives you can think of. How do you know if you are in love? You care more about what happens to that other person than you care about yourself.
Be careful, though, because that other person should feel the same about you. Love isn't jealous, or spiteful, or abusive, or possessive.
2006-07-20 18:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ereshkigal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a deep attraction based on respect, admiration and a solid friendship with someone of the opposite sex.
You will need to give the relationship a little more time before you will be able to decide if he really cares for you or just wants to have sex with you. If this guy is simply lusting after you, he will want to get you into bed soon. Sounds like you're not ready for any physical contact with him yet anyway...and that's okay! That should not be a requirement to hold together your friendship with him. If he really cares for you you, he won't mind waiting to have sex...hopefully until marriage.
2006-07-20 19:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by steves_wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you leaned away theres something in your subconsious that is telling you somethings not right. I mean, did you ever find out why he gave you a false name in the first place? And some people are very patient so no matter how long this has been going on it very possibly could be lust. Trust your instincts. They may save you from some bad situations.
2006-07-20 18:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Deja Vu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:)) The "love" you describe is only "romance" basic once you're courting, minimum primary jobs, no toddlers, both have time, both attempting to seduce the different. you could keep that in marriage. it is purely maximum individuals do not realize they only needed romance, no longer the reality of a kin and marriage. the marriage only will change into tougher even as each and every individual is watching for the "romance" to keep itself up. The lust is when you pick neither dedication nor pick romance. they purely pick to sleep with it on their words and agenda. even as they bore of it or if it starts feeling too very equivalent to a "relationship" or worry they are going to be out of there.
2016-12-06 01:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by gonzalescordova 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love comes from the heart and lust is just in the mind. Wait for love, because lust will leave you in the dust
2006-07-20 19:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love gives; lust takes.
See how easy that is?
There is no way anyone can give you a valid answer regarding a relationship over the Internet. You don't know what's going on in his mind, neither do we.
2006-07-20 18:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Left the building 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with JT much, but this time - yup, he's right.
If you're a Christian, read Corinthians 13 in the Bible - it tells you exactly what real love is. Then try to figure out if he matches the description - and do you?
God bless!
PS: Always go with your first instinct. Trust it.
2006-07-20 18:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never spend your time alone with the men. any couple is vulnerable to falling in the trap. LUST is INFLAMMABLE. you can never stop the fire by pouring petrol on it. Lust CAN NEVER be SATISFIED ONLY INFLAMED.
Love is secure only after a marriage commitment. "the greatest gift what a partner can give to his or her partner is virginity"
2006-07-20 18:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something that builds up, makes better, sweet and cares for others.
Lust is something that tears down, destroys, bitter and only cares for self.
2006-07-20 18:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by mike i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋