It seems that every time she dose find a really good friend their family moves away and she looses them. This has happened about five times now and she is devastated.
I feel so sorry for her! What can i do to help her cope with this difficult situation?
2006-07-20 18:44:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Juat assure her no matter how many friends come or go there is always someone left out there needing her as bad as she needs them!!!
Plus that u are her best friend reguardless so if she ever needs one your the one who will always be there!!
2006-07-20 19:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
1. Share some of your own experiences. Help her learn that she is not alone. Also, make sure she does not think she is somehow at fault or a part of why any of them moved.
2. Encourage new activities. Help her find a new interest - perhaps playing on an organized sports team, singing in a church choir, or Girl Scouts. This regular exposure to girls her age outside of a school setting will help tremendously.
3. Suggest play dates with friends she mentions. Do not talk about a best friend. Instead encourage multiple friendships. When one is lost of five the impact is far less than if it is one of one or one of two dear friends.
4. Realize some of the pain of loss is due to her age and developmental issues.
2006-07-21 09:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to let her know that these things happen sometimes, but penpals are great. Encourage her to email and write to her friends, she might even learn a few things from her friends about where they live. Try getting her into a group activity, that way if one or two people move there are still lots of kids for her to be friends with. But while she's adjusting, you can be her best friend - she'll learn that at least one person will never leave her.
2006-07-21 01:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by peach_campbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe encourage her to befriend a group of girls rather than just one, this way if someone does up and move, she will still have the support of the rest in the group. She could join out of school activities in something that interests her and could meet people this way as well as in school. She could also keep these friends that move away as penpals so she won't loose them entirely.
I hope she finds a good true friend to carry through life with her. Good Luck.
2006-07-21 01:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understandable but this is life. With emails and like it is easier for her to keep in touch. Tell her she can't give up because of a "what if" senario because she may miss out on the best friend of her life. It is hard but the reality sadly is that people move a lot. Try and encourage her to make lot's of friends rather than one so if it happens again she still has friends to be with
2006-07-21 04:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if when her mom/dad) talked to her about it, and at the end of the talk said that you would spend 1/2 hour each day with her (at the same time each day? -probably better if she knows when it's coming, and can count on it.) just being her friend - reading, drawing on the same picture, talking on walkie-talkies, starting a puppy-walking business together, (activities that don't need you to be "the parent"). So that way she will always have a friend that she knows will never move away.
(Then I think she will eventually find secondary friends.)
2006-07-21 09:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by sincere12_26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that she is going to have tons of friends in life, but that not all of them will stick around (as she has experienced). But tell her that it's better to have friends and be a friend than to be a hermit inside because you are scared of losing people. Also tell her that as she gets older she will find friends that will be with her for life! She is still young and has yet to experience high school/college - where many lifelong friendships develop.
2006-07-21 01:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being an 18-year-old kid myself and know how it feels like to lose every friend to move to a different state/country...
The pet idea is not bad.
But I'd try to stay in contact with the old friends through phone or mail. Or having a new pen-pal.
2006-07-21 01:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kiri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her into group activities this way she will have to get to know other kids her own age and make friends with them, even if she doesn't want another best friend right now, she will at least be social, get her a pet to be her best friend for now, then when she finds a great friend again from an activity that you put her in you will feel goood!
hope you try this for your child will stay social instead of going into a cocoon like my sister did
2006-07-21 01:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by wohooalicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her life is filled with goodbyes and hellos. The fact is if you don't say goodbye to somepeople you cannot say hello to other people. Help her to see that the more people she meets the more she'll learn from them and have an opportunity to give them something too. It is really hard to lose a friend, but with the technology today, she is bound to keep in touch.
2006-07-21 01:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by keb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that stinks :( I felt like that when all my highschool friends left, 10th grade, only about 2 of my friends stayed at my high school lol. The best thing I can tell you is tell her she will find a new friend :/ Help her find some friends who you know are likely to stay for a bit.
2006-07-21 01:47:10 · answer #11 · answered by angelbabe3009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋