What is your opinion about same sex couples adopting?

Question

What are some reasons that you are either for it or against it?

Answer 1

Not acceptable. A child needs a loving mother and father. Research through the past 30 years has shown this.

Same-sex parenting deprives children of a mother or father. The most loving mother in the world can’t teach a little boy how to be a man. Likewise, the most loving father can’t teach a little girl how to be a woman.

A homosexual man can’t teach his son how to love and care for a woman. A lesbian can’t teach her daughter how to love a man or know what to look for in a good husband. Is love enough to help two gay dads guide their daughter through her first menstrual cycle? Unlike a mom, they can’t comfort her by sharing their first experience. Little boys and girls need the loving, daily influence of both male and female parents to become who they’re meant to be.

These are the same problems that are occuring in single parent homes. The same problems that are increasing gang membership. The boys are looking for a "father".

Answer 2

I have always believed that anyone should be able to adopt and that everyone has the same rights. I still believe that but please take this into consideration. The pain that the child may experience could be great. All children experience pain growing up and are teased for things, if the couple is strong and can effectively communicate the child's self worth than I think it could work.
Being a teacher, I have had many students with same sex parents, or parents who have divorced and then one chose to have a same sex partner while the other did not.
One beautiful young girl, was so nervous, always worried and did not enjoy life. Both her same sex parents were very wonderful loving people and had only the best intentions for their daughter. However, she was always bering ridiculed and made fun of. It truly damaged her self esteem and she was not happy because of it.
Another boy, had his father dying of aids. He was a great speaker. A great presenter. One day he refused to speak. When asked why he started crying and said, " My father is bringing his boyfriend." I don't want to see the looks of the people as they look at them and then look at me. It hurts too much. My dad is great and so is his friend. People just don't understand."

Answer 3

Your question seems fair and open to all opinions so I will give you mine. I feel very strongly about this and my "personal" opinion may meet some oposition. I welcome the challenge!

Same sex couples should NOT have children in that relationsnhip. The "adult" decision to have a same sex partner reflects a sexual preference for THAT individual and a same sex relationship does not include creation of a child or the interest of a child.

Procreation is a debatable thought but NOT part of your question so I will leave that out.

Parenting a child is to give them an example of a relationship of both masculine and feminine so as not to cause an identity crisis. There are manly things that ONLY a man can teach a son. And the feminine wiles of a woman are unique to a female that ONLY a woman can tell her daughter.

A child is a canvas of learning, of teaching, of creating a person with self worth, value and understanding. A child shouldn't have to seek THIER identity or sexuality, but a child that knows he is male, and she is female.

YOUR sexual preference is your own...............

YOU may have had years to decide................but a child? Especially a child that you have NO idea what type of household they were raised in?

You have no right to adopt a child that may be from a Mohter/Father relationship and bring them into a same sex partner relationship.

If you truely loved and valued the well-being of a child then you would not confuse them...............

Answer 4

I'm for it. I don't believe that the sexual preferences of parents affect the sexual preference of a child. I've found that the same sex couples I know that have adopted or that want to adopt are stable, loving people in long term, committed relationships which is exactly what you look for in any adoptive relationship. There are so many needy children in the world, I can't imagine why anyone would want to keep a child from having a stable, loving family and home, be they gay or straight. By the way, I'm heterosexual.

Answer 5

They should be allowed to adopt as many kids as they can afford. There are too many kids in the foster system to worry about if the couple is two men/women. Plus, there is no reason why same sex couples wouldn't be capable of raising a healthy happy child.

Answer 6

Why not?? There are so many unwanted and unloved children out there who need a safe loving secure family, why shouldn't a same sex couple have the joy of a child? Everybody gets what they want, the couple gets to shower all their love onto a child and the poor child gets a loving family - how can happiness and loving be wrong??

Answer 7

I have nothing against same sex couples, however re the adoption issue, well I am undecided, but heavily leaning towards No at this stage -

Human nature (not just society) dictates that offspring fair better and learn better and are better adjusted by having a male and a femal parental influence in their life.

Answer 8

You know what? If a same sex couple can go through the adoption process and prove they are stable and capable of raising a child together, more power to them. There are some heterosexual people who are popping out babies and are letting the kids raise themselves.

If two people can prove they are capable, it doesn't matter if they're man/man, woman/woman, or man/woman: they deserve it! AND, they should be able to get married too. Gay monogamous couples are generally more stable than non-gay monogamous couples.

Answer 9

i say why not? as long as they are loving and can provide a stable home why shouldn't they be able to? love is love no matter what form it comes in. And there are so many babies/children out there that need loving homes and so few that qualify to take care of them. i don't understand the big deal. There are single parent homes out there, no parent homes, siblings raising siblings, grandparents, neighbors, friends the list goes on and on and on, if a same sex couple can provide for the child then that is all that should matter.

Answer 10

I wholeheartedly approve. Every child deserves to be loved. And if a couple is willing to love, take care and provide stability to a child I don't see why anyone should disapprove. There is no such thing as normal parents. Just because you have a mom and a dad doesn't mean they are normal. Besides nowadays kids end up having 2 moms and two dads anyway. It's called divorce. And for those who love to quote the bible:

Matthew 7:2

1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.

2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured unto you.

3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

JOHN 4:7 "Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God."

Do not judge. That is God's right, not yours.

Answer 11

It is absolutely wonderful. There are SO many children in this world that need a loving home. I don't understand people who are against it. They rather have the child grow up in the system and then be dumped than to have a chance and grow up in a loving home.