Guess what I saw today?

Question

I saw my ex-girlfriend with another dude! She left me with no explanation and I have to see this! Why, are women so cruel? I mean, I didn't treat her wrong or anything! I just wanted to know why she left me, is all. I can't think straight. I didn't even have the energy to confront her about it, besides, if she's happy wit him - then so be it. I'd go lay down but I'm at work. This is very depressing. Has this ever happened to anyone else? Or, am I the only one?

Answer 1

Something similar to this happened to me when I was younger. I was married, and I thought that meant that my husband and I were united as one. Imagine my surprise when I went to dinner with my mother, and saw my husband there with another woman, it was horrible! I was floored, but my mother managed to make a big ugly scene and that made me feel worse. He and the woman were sitting real close and sharing a bottle of wine and they were kissing and holding hands...so when he told my mother that things were not what they looked like, my mother went nuts in a real nice restaurant!

I think I was in shock over the whole thing. After he left, (with my foot print on his pants), some of the people who I thought were my friends came and told me that he had been cheating with multiple people the whole time we had been living near my folks (about 2 years!) I could not help thinking if they had really been my good friends as I had thought, they would have told me when they first found out he was such a louse! I totally sympathize with you.

All I can say is try to guard your healing heart and don't just jump on the first woman that comes along now. Rebound relationships are very seldom gratifying. You seem like a nice person, and there are some women out there that can be good ladies too. Give yourself time to recover from this kind of a hurt. Don't waste your time with anything to do with her anymore, she could not be honest with you then, she would not be in the furture. Some women are real "b" words.

Oh you all probably think that we do not know that and that we would be unwilling to acknowledge that about our own kind our gender, you know like we should have some kind of love of our fellow woman. NOT TRUE. Not with some of us. I see it this way, it took a whore to go out with MY husband as I later found out some of the women he had been with were childhood friends of mine! It takes 2 to tango, and 2 to "accidentally have sex". Can you tell me how 2 consenting adults can accidentally have sex? it ain't no accident, they KNOW what they are doing and who they are hurting, and they do it anyway.

The best revenge is living well. When they do see you back in the dating action, let them see you looking good, handsome, confident of the real lady on your arm. There are still some good and beautiful women out there that would appreciate a nice man. Take some time to recover, and do some good things for yourself as you recover. There is nothing wrong with you (in this instance) your woman, just like my 1st husband is a dog.

Chin up now, and better times are coming.

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear the "choc".
However it does happen to everybody, men and women from all over the world.
It is hard to see your EX, with another man, especially, when you still have feelings for her. (or him if women read this)
She might not of been trying to be cruel to you, (unless she flaunted her new man in front of you) of course it would not matter, because it will still feel the same way, whether she did that or not.
Its going to hurt for a while, but you will soon be back to your normal self and enjoying life again. (you are strong and will overcome)
Good Luck.

Answer 3

it shouldnt matter, she obviously doesnt love u. go on without her and find another woman. play the field 4 a bit. have fun. let her do the same. u know shes not comming back and sometimes it happens like this, at least u dont have 2 wonder if shes comming back, and now u have some closure. and women r not cruel sugar, ur just hurtin. whats done is done.

Answer 4

Yes almost everyone has gone through this and it is crushing. The quicker you wipe her out of your mind and move on the happier you will be. If she is like that then she was never worth it. Don't dwell on this my brother or you will go crazy. Millions of other fish in the sea out there. You will find a much better girl!

Answer 5

Dude she is abitch ******* your better off with out her!!...
I will tell you why she left you, Because your to good for her and that made her feel bad, She likes to be treated like shitdude. So move on to someone better who has respect for her self. And she will love the way you treat her.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

yes
trust me dude it could be worst
no kids ,no marriage
its not something you should be depressed about

its actually an opportunity
dont take the same road i did if you cary the pain to long
it will destroy you .
good luck man be well

learn to love yourself as well

Answer 8

Yep its called LIFE!!! Everyone don't mean good they just pretend to be good. Be thankful you could have proposed to her and had kids all before you found this out.

So get down on your knees and give God his thanks, he knows what he is doing. He has something better in store for you. He just had to knock her out of the way so you could see it.

Answer 9

Simply do this: MOve on with your life and look for someone better than her. Its not your lost, its hers. Forget about her, and always bear in mind that TIME really heals all wounds.

Answer 10

Shes obviously a tramp and is going to do the same thing to that dude. Forget about her.