I am at work and having a discussion with the two men I work with. They have asked me why women always prefer the "bad guy". I have answered it to the best of my own personal experience, but I would like some other opinions.....Thanks!!
2006-07-20 18:18:14 · 20 answers · asked by lilonemunchkin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because society and films show them that and they end up hurt by them and hating those guys.
2006-07-20 18:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mark W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two categories I think need distingishing: 1.Bad boy/girl abusers: I think women and men get attracted to "bad boys" or bad girls because thats what they've been programmed love is and they are caught in this love/hate trap cycle of abuse. It may also be becuase they have low self esteem. 2. The "bad boy" rebel, isn't actually REALLY a bad boy but has an edge, shows his male sexual energy which can come across as arrogant, confident, sexy, ruthless, risk taker and someone who doesn't care. Many women get attracted by these types but if you are not one of them then thats ok!! What your friend may of meant was that she isn't attracted to you. Be a bit mysterious, don't give away that you fancy someone immediately. One thing is certain with girls: for the right ones looks aren't important, if looks are important then they are only looking skin deep! don't put it on a plate for them then theres no challenge, but show your interest subtley. GOOD LUCK don't listen about the too nice thing, really you can't be too nice but don't be desperate or suck up to'em too much, the wrong girl could walk all over you!
2016-03-16 02:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will take a while...
The good guys try desperately to acquiesce to the needs of women, but the problem is that WOMEN don't even know what the f#@! they want, so when they tell us, "I wish guys were more sensitive," Good guys everywhere ditch their harley jacket and try to be sensitive. Then the ladies wonder, "where are all the real men?" and we rush out to the store, "Hey, Frank, turns out she wants a bad boy, can I have my bike back, please?"
Dammit, you women have us running back and forth between the sports bar and the christian bookstore, trying to figure out how to please you--- and shut you up!
but the issue is that you want both...
From age 2 Mommy read books with Princes of only one sort of name: Charming, Dashing, Handsome, Valiant. It's been ingrained into your memory with every repetition of, "happily ever after" that you would find a guy who would not only fit the bill, (be perfect), but also accept you with all your many flaws and imperfections, and those are unfair expectations.
The truth is that you want a sensitive guy who cares but still hates chick flicks and knows when to tell you to back up every so often. You don't want a guy to be okay with everything you do, because that makes it seem like he thinks you're perfect when you know that you're far from it. What you want is a focused, intelligent, Godly man who will accept you as you are and try to better himself for you, but you have to tell most other guys that, because they don't know how to discern all of this from--"I want a hard@$$ or I want a sensitive guy or I want a skater or I want a prep or I want a rich guy or I just want to be loved."
In reality, the guy wishes it were that easy to please you, by reading Shakespeare and talking sweetly or by lowering his tone and sounding apathetic, but there are only a few of us left that can truly understand as much without SOMEONE telling us (zero). If he doesn't read the Bible, (like me), or have a father giving him Godly advice on how to be a man, then the percentage of a chance of you finding what you want in him is a whole number less than one.
Guys just need direction, and the best source of Godly direction is the Word.
find you a Christian guy.
slyguy_hzleyes@yahoo.com
2006-07-20 18:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good guy is NOT a challenge! They are predictable, which also can mean "boring." But in my opinion, I wouldn't want a complete bad guy, either. In order to keep my interest, a man has to be a non-comformist, he has to posess (and demonstrate) compassion and sensitivity. He has to look unique and different from the average man. So, I guess a MIX of good and bad, is the ideal guy. Just my opinion! :)
2006-07-20 18:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because bad guys have so much confidence and carelessness, some women find a need for the bad guy to take control and be the one to take that extra step. It's really a matter of dominance.
2006-07-20 18:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huum
i often wonder my self "for instance guys that have been in prison for awhile ". how is it that some woman can over look the fact that if he been locked up 6+ years that his odds for man on man contact have sky rocketed
his masturbation numbers rival that of the new york state lotto.
not only that how does he forget the 45 to 80 cavity searches hes Had over that period of time.
And this is a turn on to some woman ?
2006-07-20 18:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it's because woman have the mothering nature by instinct. "Bad Boys" always seem like they need someone to take care of they and some one to love them and it'll make their life all better. It's just the nature of a woman to be that way.
2006-07-20 18:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
bad guys are just more exciting because they have more confidence in thierselves. they know they're hot so they act out on it. its sexy. i go both ways. bad guys are nice but i love good guys. they don't have that cockyness about themselves. they care about other people and think farther then thier penis's
2006-07-20 18:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what defines a "bad guy"? one that beats the crap out of you? one that is a thief? or just appearances? b/c i would like neither A nor B but C is pretty ok.
2006-07-20 18:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you by experience is the trilling, exciting,adventurous, mysterious way they carry themselves...Because they are wild, know how to use their sex appeal, they are usually good in bed and they make sure that in that precise moment they are with you they are passionate and will take your breath away even though it is usually only for that moment...eh a lot of women love this....Let me know what ya all think!!!
2006-07-20 18:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by ivygery4ever 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋