I don't want to do anything without my parents permission because i don't want to hurt them.But I also can't cheat my BF feelings because he told me that he can't live without me.I am extremely in a condition of perplexity.In one side my parents and other side my love.I don't think a life without anyone of them.What i have to do in this situation?Help me.
2006-07-20 18:08:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old are you? You have to abide by their wishes, till your older. If he's a good guy one, he'll wait,.. two, once your parents get to know him it will be ok.
2006-07-20 18:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be frank.. firstly assess your situation.. where do you stand as of now... are you in high school.. or are you in college? or have you already graduated..? because i believe its necessary to build yourself as an individual... to have a firm grounding of what you want... i believe both the ends can be achieved... but, in due course... you need to have patience first... take the guy... believe me... but then i hope his integrity of character and his understanding of your situation is not a matter of question..
because both of you will have to give... if u choose him, your parents might be upset... but then hey.. they're your parents eventually.. if you prove yourself that the decision you made was correct, i dont think they'll remain upset for long.
when you love your parents so much, they surely do love you back the same.. so they are willing to forgive...
its like choosing the lesser evil.. either live without hurting your parents and chucking the BF altogether and having that constant pang everyday throughout your life that you could be his, or stick to him and let there be some tension amongst your parents (obviously for not a long period) and strive to prove the new found relationship to be true.. its very possible..
so eventually the second option is best suited.. dont you think so?
2006-07-20 18:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sis had the same problem and she eventually ended up marrying him she was more concerned about his feelings and eventually stopped even calling our mom. A while later my mom became ill and then died and all my sister could say through her tears was that if mom would make it she would call her every day. Mom didn't make it and the *** my sis was married to had no sympathy and my sis finally saw him for what he was and divorced him {she was almost 23 then}. If only she didn't waste the last 3 years of my mothers life fighting about him.
Our mom has been gone almost 10 years and my sis and I still talk about it and how much she regrets the time she wasted on him, but she is now remarried to a man my mother would love as much as we all do. Please do not place a BF { or GF for that matter } in between you and your family it will only bring heartache for all. I remember my dad telling me when I was getting married "you went through a lot of ******** before you found this one" I was just happy he was around to know it.
Try to think about the lifetime your parents have invested in you then ask yourself what do they see that I can't, try to see it through their eyes. Then thank them before you can't.
2006-07-20 18:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by NotSoTweetOne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents, thats always a good one. I married a women that I loved and her parents did not like the idea at all. But we have remained married for thirteen years and after the first year the parents started to change their mind. I think parents are just worried about you and want whats best.
2006-07-20 18:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling on this one. And think about this . . . (and I'm not trying to be harsh or anything), but . . .
Parents will leave this earth (sad, but true).
Your children will leave home and start lives of their own.
The only person that will be by your side for the rest of yours/his life will be your husband, friend and lover.
Is this the one who will rock in a chair with you and hold your hand when everyone else leaves? Only you (not your parents) can answer this question. They'll come around eventually. It'll be hard, but they'll support their child forever.
2006-07-20 18:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by missTy_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm an person, so I get excitement from my mothers and fathers comments and their wisdom. in the event that they had a valid reason to not settle for the guy I enjoyed i might think again what i'm doing. The key-word is valid. My mothers and fathers appreciate and believe my judgment. they'd not be cavalier approximately that.
2016-11-02 11:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get them to all sit down and talk about the issues that they have with eachother...if that doesnt work then you need to make a decision...trust me your parents will always be there for you no matter what...you're their child and they know that you are bound to make mistakes...but what you will learn is that guys come and go but fam is forever...i had to learn that the hard way...if you wanna stay with the guy, stay...but if you care about what your parents think then you're gon lose out on a lot of your life...that doesnt mean dont listen and dont heed their word...just take their advice into consideration and formulate your own opinion...
2006-07-20 18:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by klee0926 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i totally understand. i mean when i had this guy, my parents didnt like.......... i wanted to completely ignor my family....but i realize that they are only looking out for me. And the guy and i are now back together but my parents still dont approve.........i understand what they say. But like u on one hand i want him to be happy and on the other i want my parents to be happy. so i suggest you sit down with them and have them talk and u listen then try to explain to them how u feel and how he makes u feel, that way they will see what makes u happy ....as well as talk with his family about the situation.....then have the familys talk together with the two of u. Dont be afarid to speek your oppinion on things.And make sure that this is the guy worth all of this.
2006-07-20 18:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by lollipop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a difficult situation in which u have to decide firmly, what u want? either try to convince ur parents nd if they dont listen then see ur future with that boy, if u feel he is financially sound to support u , from good family background than go ahead with him.when parents see u happy they will reconcile with u
2006-07-25 15:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
il's ,very critical situation.t think you have to test your love .becuse when during the love both say that i am ready to do every thing for you but after the marred all finish.and the person who love you and it's taake responbility to take care in whole life.so you have to talk with your parents he is able to keep happy me in every situation.
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2006-07-20 18:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by tej 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋