is it possible to subconsciously take revenge?

Question

agenst the oposit sex
you know like a person who treats the oposit sex with complete disregard for there emotions ,after haveng ben hurt in a relationship
or to run every time a relationship starts to get serious
with out realizeing it

this comes from the after thought like hours or days later "why TF did i do that

Answer 1

Yes. It is possible for someone to disregard the emotions of others after being hurt themselves. It is also likely that the same person may avoid relationships in order to keep it from happening again without being aware that of what they are doing. However, It is easier to avoid relationships unconciously than it is to unconciously, disregard the feelings of another person. Usually, one has some awareness that the other person may have feelings for them, they just do not wish to or are not able to deal effectively with those feelings.

Answer 2

We do all sorts of things at the subconscious level. With someone who has been hurt, the person acts with inappropriate paranoia or tendencies for withdrawal from relationships, not because they overtly intend to do so, but because it is a deeply conditioned response to an intimate situation.

I had a friend who had been raped while her parents watched. She expressed an attraction to me, but withdrew in anger when I would not join her in sado/masochistic love-making. She literally "ran" out of my apartment, leaving her gloves, coat, and umbrella.

Most people "run" because of fear-based feelings. When she got angry with me for what seemed like no good reason, I realized that she feared genuine loving intimacy. I think this is why people flee from a relationship.

For me, it's frustrating when I get into a situation like this. I've been in several similar scenarios since my divorce. At first I felt like the women were afraid of me, or considered me to be a threat. I took it personally as disregard for my wishes and feelings. Now I'm not readily hurt when a woman "dumps" me without explanation. I chalk it up to past conditioning. Then I can go on without feeling like the anger or rejection has been directed at me personally.

Aren't relationships fun??!!!

Answer 3

Oh yes my friend, totally possible. And it happens a lot actually. I gotta admire your bravery for daring to look into this largely unknown and uncharted territory within you. All the majic can start now.

Right...right below the surface that we usually live in is this vast ocean of feelings, thoughts you didn't know were lying there. You start to see it, look into it...and you can get a better understanding, a better handle on everything. Not the slave, but the conscious participant. In the that calm stillness you can find a clarity that also holds immense power. Right there...just below the busy, crazy surface of life where most of us dwell...

Answer 4

I imagine so. Lets take for example your first girlfriend. Lets say that she had blonde hair. Lets also say that she broke your heart. So, after that point on it is possible that you may be apprehensive about blondes. It happens. That is just something that people have to overcome in their day to day lives. If it is a serious problem I would suggest seeing a psychologist.

Answer 5

Their own behavior will do the 'revenge'. Everyone gets theirs.

Now if you think bad thoughts toward them, that is on your own karma instead. Just do your best to forgive this individual no matter what, avoid them, and go on.

Answer 6

Oh you realize it, quit blaming it on something you can't control! People are so good at that, "it wasn't intentional crap" when they know good damn well it was

Answer 7

only if you're a psychopath

Answer 8

uh, no.