Ok, im 13 and i feel unloved by my own paretns, but a year ago i met these people and it feels liket hey were meant to be my parents, im at there house all the time, is there anything ican do and is this normal, and can it be possible that i just got the wrong parents?
2006-07-20 18:02:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
God gave u ur family for a reason. He put u exactly where u r for a reason. Figure out what it is and make the best of it. These new friends are important also. Hang on to them and enjoy ur time together.
2006-07-20 18:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Intense. I sure wish I had adults I loved and could depend on at your age. It's absolutely normal to want to be around people who take an interest in you and genuinely care about your well being. The questions I have for you are 1) is it just a feeling that you are unloved by your parents or is there genuine neglect/abuse happening at home? 2) how aware are the people you hang with about your feelings? Do they know how bad things are at home? 3) IF you feel unloved because your parents don't seem to have time for you, it might be a good idea to ask them if you can all sit down and talk. If they aren't abusive and they're just really busy at work, then telling them you really need them to be there for you might do the trick. Of course, I'm a realist and I sense that's not the case....but hey, it IS something you need to consider. If you don't feel comfortable facing your parents alone, then maybe the adults you do trust would be willing to talk to your parents with you. I am working on the assumption you have sane parents who aren't total nutcases or drug addicts.
Now, if your parents are genuinely abusing you, AND these people are willing to take you in there are a couple different ways of doing things. The easiest way is to see if your parents will grant guardianship to these people. If your parents are as sick of you as you are of them (gosh that makes me sad...you seem like a great kid!), then this approach might work out well:D If that isn't the case or if your parents go ballistic and order you not to see these people any more, then it might be time to get DCFS involved. You may end up in the foster care system, but I think that if these folks are willing to step up to the plate they can get at least temporary guardianship over you.
I wish you could wait another ten years to learn that some of the best families in the world aren't biological; they're made out of bonds when people come together and supply one another with the love and support they need. I commend you and your adopted family. You may even decide to let things be and stay with these folks all the time. They obviously don't mind. Good luck. I'll be rooting for you!
2006-07-21 01:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thirteen and starting to feel that you want more freedom in your life. At that age your parents don't know anything and they are always on your back. But when you reach 20, your parents mean the world to you and you are always calling and asking them about a recipe or for money! Is this normal? Yes it happens all the time. Besides if they are your parents then they must have done something right. Wouldn't you agree.
2006-07-21 01:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sorta know how ur feeling. i was the last child of 5 kids and came by suprise. my grandmas pretty much raised me til they werent able to anymore and then i lived with 1 of my brothers. my parents were in their 40s when i came along and i guess were all babied out even though i was the only girl they ever had. i am 29 years old today and now have kids of my own but still am not close to my parents at all. i too was like u and was always at friends house. i cant really tell u what to do about it. just remember how it felt to have parents like that when u one day have kids of ur own. b a better parent than they were. its hard because u have no one for advice, but somehow it comes within u to do whats best. good luck in everything. and remember it will get better one day. i promise.
2006-07-21 01:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by kimmy209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the new couple good people? Are your parents good people? If the answer is yes to both, you are probably going through a normal process. At your age people start becoming more independant from their parents, and wanting input from others. It is very common at your age to feel your parents don't love you even if they do. You are transitioning from childhood to adolescence, and it can be very difficult. So it is really good that you have some other adults that you feel comfortable with.
2006-07-21 01:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, almost everybody goes through a stage of feeling unloved at home. What it usually comes down to is this: When we are teenagers, and finding out who we are, we tend to make some really rash decisions, like going out with the "nice" boy that nobody else understands (HE says). They *know* that boy, because they dated him or in some cases they WERE him and they KNOW he's bad news. Because they want you to have a phenomenal and wonderful life, they try to warn you away from dating the loser. Since you are angry that they don't trust your (inexperienced and flawed) judgement, you feel unloved, when the exact opposite is actually true.
If you are honest with yourself, you will take a good look at what you tell people about your parents and realize that they aren't what you say they are, except in your head. You got the right parents. You got the ones who love you enough to tell you the truth, even if you don't like it. I'll bet your parents agonize over you. I'll bet your mother cries herself to sleep when you don't come home, because she loves you and worries about you. You don't care now, because you're young and it seems like your parents are gonna be breathing down your neck and keeping their noses in *your* business forever, but when your parents die, you'll never have another chance to take advantage of the wonderful advice they're giving you now, that you don't want. Spend some time with your parents while you still have them. I'd give everything to have more time with my parents. You have the chance to be with yours now, and you're blowing it. Unloved?? You wouldn't know love if it bit you.
2006-07-21 01:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by rainbeauclown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, im soo sorry that you feel this way. keep these "dream parents" close though... God puts certain people in your life for a reason.... also if you feel ok with it, try to talk to your parents and let them know how youre feeling. alot of the time, parents have NO idea how they are making you feel. They may just not be paying close enough attention.... let them know... it could solve some of your problem.
2006-07-21 01:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start with at the age that you are at right now, a lot of things will seem wrong, you don't have the wrong parents, maybe you should ask them this and see how they react, there is a lot of things that can seem wrong but learn to speak to your parents and if you have them both you should feel lucky...I think you are going tru a face, now if you dont get any reactions from your parents then speak to a counselor, a professional that can help you...but I am hoping by you telling your parents this would solve your situation...Hang in there!
2006-07-21 01:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by ivygery4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you got the wrong parents but i do know if i were to look on the net and see that my daughter has asked a question like this i would feel sad that she could'nt come to me so try talking to them 1st and try involving your "meant to be parents" and your real parents in different activities you enjoy.
2006-07-21 01:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by Niinnaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most times i feel unloved by my parents 2 but love them any way
thing will come out in ur hands
to day or next week
somehow
2006-07-21 01:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by Q'uetta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋