I had been with my boyfriend for about 3/4 months..in the beggining everything was perfect, then things started getting worst until came to this place. All my friends says that he doesnt love me and he is just playing with my feelings, but I know him and I can't stop loving him. He is a nice guy, but he always makes me cry and feel bad (as I am feeling now)
So, I figured it out that I have to try to stop loving him. But I already tried but I couldnt.
Could someone help me figured out this problem
2006-07-20 17:13:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All my friends says to me to break up! But when i go in front of him I just can't do it! Its pretty hard for me..
I know a lot of guys that likes me and wants to date me, but i dont feel anything for them.
Whenever I remember our moments together and I listen to sad songs I started to cry and feel REALLY bad.
Everyone is telling me that this guy is driving me crazy, and if I dont break up with him quickly I might get into a depression or something
I need help
2006-07-20 17:28:22 · update #1
The problem is that I think he never takes me seriously. I bet that as he know that I cant dumbed him, he thinks that he can treat me the way he want because he knows that I love him and I cant dumbed him.
2006-07-20 17:34:18 · update #2
The problem is that I think he never takes me seriously. I bet that as he know that I cant dumbed him, he thinks that he can treat me the way he want because he knows that I love him and I cant dumbed him.
And this feeling that I feels just torture me and drives me insane!
I cant stand with this feeling anymore, but I also don't know how to dumped him
2006-07-20 17:35:05 · update #3
A guy who loves a girl will refrain from making her cry or feel bad and the reverse is done to you by your bf. That means that your friends may be right when they told you that he is just playing with your feelings. No offense meant.
With that, you have to end your relationship with him which I'm sure will not surpass the test of time if there is only one who loves because the other does not. Love only thrives and lasts when the two persons are really both in love with each other which is not true in your case.
After ending your relationship, go out often with your friends and look around you for there may be many men out there who are just waiting for you to be free fromt he bondage of your relationship with your bf. You deserve someone better. Let Destiny do the work of finding your Mr. Right. I'm sure, with Destiny, true love will find its way to you. Good luck.
2006-07-20 17:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, man. Been there. Read over what you said, you think he's "a nice guy," but "he always makes me cry and feel bad."
Okay, let's agree he's a nice guy. Maybe he is, but the effect he's having on you isn't nice. As a friend once told me when I was trying to stop loving someone who hurt me, "She's not a bad person, but she's bad for you."
You don't have to stop loving him, but you do need to love him from afar until you find you can be around him without being miserable. You want something that isn't going to work out, which happens to us all, but why torture yourself?
It's time to tell him, "I think we'll just be happier if we give each other some space." Then make it stick. It isn't up to him if you see him - it's up to you. It's okay to tell yourself that you love him, but the relationship just isn't making you happy, so you have to move on.
Keep busy. If you start to think about him, distract yourself - homework, work, a hobby, singing along with music, anything reasonably healthy will do if it gets your mind off of this. In time, it really does get better, especially if you try to meet new people and do new things (learning something new occupies your mind - you can't think about him and, for example, learn to paint at the same time).
Remind yourself that what you're going through is normal, almost everyone's been through it, and you'll get through it, too. Give yourself credit for being able to love someone, and know that you will find the right person, who returns your love in a healthy way, at some point - as long as you're available, and not focused on a past relationship that didn't work out. Good luck!
2006-07-21 00:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby or something you really like to do. Make some new friends. Start learning to do something that is really hard for you; something that will take a lot of concentration. Volunteer to help some little kids--like big sisters of america, or take lifeguarding and become a lifeguard. Keep REALLY busy. It takes time to get over someone. And it takes three weeks to form a new habit and three weeks to get over an old one. He's a habit: Break it!
Stop seeing him. Stop talking to him. Stop thinking about him. Every time you start to think about him do something else, think something else.
You can do it.
Another tactic is every time you start to miss him, start thinking of all the times he makes you cry and all the things about him you don't like. Also rehearse the reasons you wanted to stop being with him in the first place.
One other thing helps a lot: Take a nice, long trip. Getting away from where you guys used to go together, etc. is very good.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 00:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Einsteinetta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can someone be nice , when he always makes you cry and say bad things to you. This guy surely playing with you; he doesn't love you, he's just using you. Bet you are young, and at this age love can make you do stuff you won't do in rightstand of mind. Just try not to think about how much you love him, but the other way "How much does he care for you?" if you don't like your answer you know you will get over him, love yourself more and you will be fine.
Cheer up.
2006-07-21 00:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by lonely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety, u cant just turn your feelings off. its not just that simple. if it were there would be a lot less hurt. the only thing that will help you is time. as hard as it is and as much as it hurts u need to leave him alone. he obviously only brings u down. i have been there, and its not worth it. u deserve better. i know it is hard but its best. it will just take time. and when u finally get over him, u will realize that u really didnt love him as much as u thought u did. even though u think u cant live without him, u CAN! and u will. he dont deserve ur love. i let someone i loved for 2 yrs and have a baby wit go. and it wasnt easy by no means. but i am so much happier. so much!!! it was worth it. u can do it, i have faith in u. u just gotta take that first leap, then its just baby steps from there. Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-21 00:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get OUT while you still can. Just imagen yourself feeling like this for the rest of your LIFE. You must love yourself very little in order to take all his crap.
2006-07-21 00:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by eli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down every negative thing about him, about the relationship, and things he says and does. Keep it out where you can see it, make sure you know it well. Share it with your close friends. Soon enough you'll realize he's an ***.
2006-07-21 00:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by stowchick01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is making you cry he is obviously not that nice. Just stop seeing him and the feeling will go away eventually.
2006-07-21 00:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by peluchitagonzalez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz dont hate a person u luv, and u cant also.
see and dont indulge ur friends in ur relationship.. as u knw ur bofriend better.. and not ur friends.u can tke suggestions.. but u should knw wher to draw the line..
see u can never ever hate a person u luv .. u can get angry at him u can ignore him. but u cant hate him.
its better u sit with him and let him know ur affection..
dont wait til its too late.. and ask ur friends not to be too nosy.
2006-07-21 00:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by ram k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please talk to someone from a battered women's shelter...domestic abuse only gets worse...real men don't make women cry...if you learn about the cycle of violence and brainwashing you will understand what is happening to you.
Try to get out before it gets any worse...don't pretend it isn't happening...it is and it will get worse the longer it goes on.
2006-07-21 00:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by partout250 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋