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I am a flight attendant mom with two small children who is catching flack for traveling...is this wrong?

2006-07-20 17:10:55 · 34 answers · asked by tieastk 1 in Family & Relationships Family

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Not necessarily. It depends on a lot of factors.

Does their Dad stay at home with them? Do you pay them sufficient attention when you are at home? Do they know you love them?

Ask yourself this: Would you consider a man who worked as a flight attendant or pilot or other "frequent travel" job to be a bad father?

You have to earn a living, if this is your best option, and if the kids are well cared for when you aren't around, then this alone doesn't make you a bad mother, any more than being at home all the time doesn't make a child abuser a good mother.

2006-07-20 17:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by Liam 2 · 1 1

I think a happy mom is a good mom. If you love your job and have made arrangements for your kids to be taken care of while you are doing the job that is good. I would however spend as much time with your kids when you get a break from all the traveling. If you are happy, then you will treat your kids better. A lot of professional women are away from their kids. Make sure when you are home they get quality time with you and you should be fine. Just a thought.

2006-07-20 18:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 0 0

Well I think if my mom traveled a lot it would bother me too, but on the other hand that is also something that is keeping all their wants and needs available to them. Maybe when you aren't traveling you should do some extra special things with them that they will be telling their grandchildren about. But no you are NOT a bad mom because you still love them and make sure they have everything they need.

2006-07-20 17:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 · 0 0

Not at all, that does not make you a bad mother. Just the fact that are worried about being a bad mother to your children is proof that you really do care for them and about how they see you as. I'm sure whenever you are able spend time with them, they would cherish it and take pride that you travel the world as they grow older. But do make the most out of your time with them, for time is precious. And keeping them a priority won't make you a bad mother.

2006-07-20 17:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Verie 2 · 0 0

i like the answer thqt expresses that all of us do undesirable issues. that is so genuine, we are all sinners and proceed to do undesirable and selfish issues. this does no longer make the damage bypass away, and easily preserving that he must be forgiven does no longer make your heart gush with forgiveness. yet the reality is, you've each accurate to be indignant and also you've were given each accurate to withhold forgiveness because the international sees it. I recommend, it is not sufficient that your Dad cheated on your mom... you also experience cheated, accurate? Justified anger and justified damage may be as undesirable as unjustified damage and anger, perchance even worse because there is no set off mechanism that could signal you to understand even as , "sufficient is sufficient." Does this make experience? actuality is forgiveness is one of those blessing to the single being forgiven and to the single doing the forgiving. Jesus stated in what we call "The Lord's Prayer, (12) And forgive us our debts, as we actually have forgiven our borrowers. (13) And lead us no longer into temptation, yet furnish us from the evil one. Do you be conscious the benefits in this prayer, or a minimum of the known for forgving and forgiveness. it is, we are asking God to forgive us interior a similar way that we forgive. So in a word, by using withholding forgiveness, that is making use of you loopy, "figuratively." (Your no longer going loopy....) for the reason that i do not comprehend, indexed the following are some questions that could be good to understand. what's the situation of your Dad on the prompt..., nonetheless interior the affair? looking for forgiveness from you/ from mom? nonetheless in Sin? How is you mom... bitter? Forgiving? word: this tips is often valuable for you mom. Bitterness only festers and grows. it is the devils stronghold..., that is gripping. Prayer and forgiveness releases this stronghold. I pray this enables, that is a heart situation. that is dazzling how one persons sin continuously spills over and causes a lot havoc. genuine heart felt forgiveness through Christ is the only treatment. A prayer has been despatched ahead for you, your mom and your Dad. advantages! God cares!!!

2016-10-15 00:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

It all depends. Is your career more important then your children? When you are home do you spend quality time with them?
If your career is not more important then your children, which it shouldn't be, then if you feel this way look for another job.
If you spend quality time with your children and they know you love them. It should not be that bad. I got out of the military after 11 years so I would not leave my children.

2006-07-20 17:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jedday 4 · 0 0

You have to support yourself. As long as your children have adequate care and you love and support them, no one should say anything about your frequent travel. It's not like you're traveling for the heck of it. Travel is part of your job. I'm sure you spend as much time with your kids as you can.

2006-07-20 17:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by Werecatwoman 3 · 0 0

You're a bad mom if you're doing crack or smoking weed or beating on your kids----having a good job to provide for your family doesn't make you a bad mom---and it's not always about quantity--it's more about quality---when you're home spend quality time with your children---it's what you do with them when you're home that counts --not how often or how long your home---I remember my folks both working when I was growing up---but I honestly couldn't tell you how long they were gone or what shifts they worked--all I remember was the time they spent with us kids and all the fun times we had---your children will be happy --if you're happy---good luck

2006-07-20 17:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by suepooh 2 · 0 0

It depends - do you NEED this job, in order to take care of your kids, and have someone who can care for them as you would, or do you just do it because you like having a job?

If you don't need the job, then quit. If you do - see if there's a way to transfer to a job where you'd be able to get home more often, or find a different job.

2006-07-20 17:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0 0

No, of course not. You are earning a living. I don't see why that'd count as being neglectant (provided you have someone to watch the kids.)

Just make sure the kids know you love them; that really is a big thing these days. "My mommy doesn't love me." is a big one.

Maybe you could take them on a plane and show em your job

2006-07-20 17:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by I think... 6 · 0 0

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