I met this guy in the 10th grade and now I am going into my sophmore year in college. He is two years older than me. I moved from him a couple years ago but we remained (really close) friends. He met my grandparents/gaurdians but wont meet anyone else like my mom, dad, or even my stepmom. He wont even talk about it. I love him so much but is it really worth it.
2006-07-20 16:56:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. By refusing to meet anyone important to you he is telling you that what you consider important is really not. Let him go, as painful as it may be and find someone who likes you and all that comes with you. Your family matters.
2006-07-20 17:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Whom have you met in his family? You should ask him why he doesn't want to. If he seems honest and gives you a reasonable answer then it can be fine. If he avoids and doesn't even want to talk about it then maybe you should explain to him how important it is to you and how you feel it is not worth staying with him then. If he simply goes away after that then I'm sorry for you but you've done what was best and faced the truth before it hits you like a ton of bricks. I would never recommend staying/loving someone who hides things from you. You need to feel comfortable with each other. Good luck!
2006-07-20 17:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, seems weird. Ask him why he won't meet-- not as a way of attacking him, but because you are curious about this. There may be some sort of issue where he had a bad experience in the pastl, or maybe afraid they won't like him. But if you want to be with him for life, he has to be willing to be a part of your life and that includes meeting your family. If he still acts strange, break up with him. You are young and there are many other guys out there for you to find and have fun with.
2006-07-20 16:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hugo Reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's NOT worth it...friendly advice from a man in mid-40's,it may come to a point to where he may try to have you to not to have anything to do with your family.I have an older brother and his wife has turned him the same way...I believe it's a psychological thing and it is NOT right for him to do that to you.Also I know that you both are young,but he is more than likely immature and more than likely females mature mentally faster than males.Also it's not right because of your family ot you.If someone is mature and really and truly cares about you,THEN they should want to meet your family...trust me it will NOT BE WORTH IT!!
2006-07-20 17:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is his reasoning???
maybe there is a reason. why are your grandparents your gaurdians????????? has your family treated you in a way he doesnt like? and maybe he doesnt want to meet em for a reason of such?
it may be worth it, but ask him! and hey if you love him, what anyone else thinks of him doesnt matter ! GL
2006-07-20 17:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by xxxbabygmelxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a couple? well, there are possible reason why he is avoiding to meet your parents, but i all i can advise you is to ask him what he really feels about it. Communicating is the best way to know what's in his mind. Goodluck!
2006-07-20 17:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by HisAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yours parents are always going to be part of your live and you love the , right ?
I can tell you now that it is going to bring problems with you and your parents because they will always want the best for their daughter.try to tell him that it is very important for you that he meets them, and if he doesn't want to then, I don't think he cares enough
2006-07-20 17:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by Susie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u serious abt. him? cos if u are, then at one point or the other he will have to meet ur parents. why don't u talk to him as to why he doesn't want to meet ur parents. maybe he's just shy or afraid about meeting ur parents. talk to him before u make any decission.
good luck!
2006-07-20 17:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little strange. I would ask him straight up if he has a problem meeting any of those people.
2006-07-20 16:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by Bugs Malone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is bizarre. If he plans on marrying you, he'll need to meet them, right? I'd give him an ultimatum. Tell him he needs to meet them soon or he's gone.
2006-07-20 17:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by stowchick01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋