We both believe in God and living righteous but there are a few others things that we don't agree on. I think it might be a problem but he just says the Lord will work it out. I know God will but why let the issue go until a real problem arises. I love him but I'm not going to stop believing the truth and do what I think is wrong for him.......So what should I do????
2006-07-20 16:49:29 · 23 answers · asked by HeArtBr0Ken... 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well my wife is a Christian and I'm a Pagan. We've been married for 20 years and have a great relationship.
The key is to honor and respect each others beliefs.
2006-07-20 16:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Pablito 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...a minute. You could be asking some serious red flag questions.
Are your core beliefs the same? What does he want you to stop believing that is the truth? How long have you been together? Are these new issues or have you waited until now to address them?
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
It's important to be equally yoked with your life mate. If you have some of the same beliefs but some very different ones too...it can be an issue.
I speak from experience. Marriage is hard enough in this day and age. Why add fuel to the fire? You think it's an issue and he dismisses it with, "God will work it out." I sorry honey, I don't agree. ((I'm not saying God can't work it out. God can.))
You are not married and you need to work it out now. If things aren't right, right now...they won't be after you get married. Getting married doesn't solve problems...you just get some new ones to go with the old ones.))
This is something the both of you need to work on. Have you taken it to your Priest, Bishop, Pastor, Minister, etc?
Ephesians 5:21-31:
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Wives and Husbands
22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
Many times the above passage is miss-quoted. Everyone sites verse 22 and stops there. This passage is about compromise and submitting to one-another. It's also about him taking the leadership role in the household and in Spiritual matters. We as Christian women are to submit to his leadership...BUT he is NOT to abuse this position. Control and manipulation (by either spouse) is unacceptable.
Please pray about this...not that your will would be done, but God's will would be done. That he would guide your footsteps and remove any scales from your eyes so that you would know the truth...and the truth would set you free.
Grace to you and God Bless!
2006-07-20 16:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pablito is right. My husband is Buddhist and I'm Pagan. We've been together going on 5 years now. You have to trust each other and talk things through like adults and not let anything come between your love. When you love someone, truly love them, then nothing is impossible between the two of you!
A little example of this is something that happened to me about two years ago. I lost my right foot in an accident at work. It made me feel less of a woman and less of a mother. I was moody and very emotional for a while. But through all of it, me and my husband never stopped talking things through or loving each other. It has made us stronger.
Give him his 'thinking' space, but don't give up on him or push him. Trust in your God and your love, and let this bring you closer to each other!
2006-07-20 17:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by lilbitadevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not expect God to sort things out for you. We are responsible for our own lives regardless of our personal faith and need to deal with things responsibly. Praying or "let the Lord work it out" is a lazy way of not dealing with your problems and handing them over to God. Believe me, God has better things to do than reconciling the faith between husband and wife.
If the difference in your beliefs is concerning you this much, you will have to deal with this sooner or later. May as well deal with it now. Talk it over with your husband and if he just keep on saying that the Lord will sort things out, he is obviously not interest in having a functioning marriage with you...
2006-07-20 17:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mikael Svanstrom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can be married with two different beliefs. If you want to change his faith to yours, show him Biblical verses showing him why you believe what you do (the worst thing you could possibly do is point out why you think his faith is wrong, because that will 1) make him thing that you're against him as a person, and 2) make him less likely to attempt to reconcile your religious differences). You can pray to God, asking the Almighty to help you and your husband out. And I can help you further if you tell me what religion you and your husband follow, if any.
2006-07-20 16:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nowhere Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible, however it may become difficult when children get involved. I have a Catholic friend who married a Baptist woman, there were a lot of disputes over how their 2 children would be brought up. The marriage almost ended, but he decided to bring them up Baptist, but now he has upset his family and church. Please think about it and get counseling before you attempt to get married. You need to discuss this issue, don't jump into anything that you are not 100% sure about. Pray about it. GOOD LUCK! and God Bless
2006-07-20 17:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by chulita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who is an ardent Christian married to a non-Christian, it's somewhat difficult to be together and have different beliefs. For example, what church will you go too? And what will you teach your children? Remember that the Bible says that two cannot walk together if they are not in agreement.
Please pray on this before you get married, and wait for God to give you an answer.
2006-07-20 16:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by Godisgood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're headed for a divorce before you even hit the altar. Marriage is about compromise, at least a successful one. If you are NOT willing to budge, you'll be right with the Lord, and right along side the 10's of thousands of other divorced mule-heads.
2006-07-20 16:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jack Meoff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what i understand, you're both Christian --- just of different denominations...(or something to that effect?!?!)
I think you need to 'grow to learn' to respect each others ways/acts of worship...And remembering that it's the Holy Spirit who convicts us, take assurance in knowing that if your partner is truly doing something outside of God's will, then the Holy Spirit will make him know. (so if it's a habit, or something --- Just pray for him...)
Your differences of opinion shouldn't stop you from marrying. All it means is: both of you need to be more open to the moving of the Holy Spirit, and less focused on 'trivial things'...
Worship is true worship, if it's done with honorable intensions, sincere heart, and true devotion to God.
Seeks God's will for your life.
2006-07-20 16:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by redglory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They placed non secular ideals aside long sufficient to fall in love. in simple terms shop appearing a similar approximately it after marriage. do not stress one yet another to transform, that must be a private determination. If it particularly is fairly a controversy, the couple shouldn't get married. yet, lots of couples stay in solidarity each and each having their very own separate faith.
2016-11-02 10:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋