i was mad at first but wanted to help him he is only 18 and is a great guy he treats me so well.but some how i have managed to get myself caught up in it all and he brought it to my house one night i was drunk i tried it and he gave me it everyday since then i hav now been on it 5months and have tried 3 times to get off it but he has came to my house with it and i went back on it he is adamint he never ment to get me habited up and he really wants us both to be clean to stay together should i stay or go ??
2006-07-20 16:38:10 · 13 answers · asked by nichola h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN AWAY AS FAST AS POSSIBLE... you deserve better!
2006-07-20 16:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you about me first, I had a smack habit for 5 years after a so called boyfriend introduced me to it (not meaning to get me smacked up of course!) i lost my house my 2 year old daughter and basically messed up my whole life for the needle, i ended up working on the streets of glasgow to pay for my habit, lost touch with the guy who for the record is now dead. Luckily for me i have been clean fo nearly 4 years now it took alot of hard work and guts but with alot of help and a methadone prescription i finally done it. You and your man are never going to make it as a drug addicts first love is allways going to be there drug, you and him will just become a habit and using partners and you will only ever manage to get yourself clean by breaking away from him and every other asscosiate you have who is involved in drugs, i had to stop seeing people i'd known for years and it was probably harder than any other thing i've had to do in my life, It was so worth it though the first day i woke up and was able to get back to sleep without having to inject myself first. There is definatly a way outa this if you've got the courage, the easy option is to stay with your man and let your habit get worse and worse the hard option will take some time and your gonna have to work hard but your life will be so much better for it, trust me. The last thing i wanted to do was reply to you and sound like i was preaching so i hope i havn't came accross like that, i dont even usually reply to theese questions it's just your story sounds so similar to mine that i thought by telling you what happened to me it might help. I'm 26 now have a little boy my own houuse and a new man infact lifes pretty great i'm even going to college to become a drug counciller (might as well make my old habits work for me!!) If there anything i can do to help or even if you just want to chat i'd love to hear from you to find out what your gonna do all the best and good luck whatever you decide ailsa xx ailsa_sturman@yahoo.co.uk take care of yorself
2006-07-21 00:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by ailsa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Get out and get clean NOW! You cannot stay in this relationship. Look , Heroin is such a demon. As long as you 2 addicts stay together, you will remain addicts.
5 MONTHS! I will pray for you, but I know until you really hit rock-bottom, (and even then, you might not change), this decision will be a struggle.
Get away from him, and use every ounce of strength to get clean. NOW!
2006-07-20 16:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by MOI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In an addict/alcoholic mind 2 things are happening.
1/ Denial of his/her state of being an addict ( he/she can stop at any moment) False.He/she is totally powerless towards his/her addiction.He/she knows it ,deep inside.
2/ So as to get a relief from the mental torture which is powerlessness he/she will try to attract people around him/her so as to diminish his/her guilty feelings.( If you do it then i can do it.)
This is pure insanity and addictions a very severe illness/decease.
It must be dealt by highly trained Counsellors/Psychologists.
Most of the time the sick person must follow many months of treatment in a specialised clinic.
It is very , very important you see a Psyco.He/she is the ONLY person who can help you.
Good Luck.
G.
2006-07-20 19:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by d260383 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hon, i think that you need to check yourself into some kind of facility that specialises in the treatment of heroine addiction. going cold turkey can be brutal and very painful. and i think that you need to take a step back from this guy. you need to deal with yourself first before you can help him, how old are you anyhow, do you live with your parents or by yourself? i think that you need to have some family member or pastor or someone trustworthy to talk things over with and be there for you as you come off that stuff and even after. As to whether you should stay with him or not i don't think so. i think that he needs to value himself enough to see that he's hurting himself and needs more help than you can offer as you are in the same situation. drugs are illegal and VERY dangerous, the drug itself and the person (s) it is bought from. you need to very careful. I'll pray for you. all the best.
2006-07-20 16:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by diva anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. You're way too young to get yourself caught up in this web of self destruction. Never make excuses for other people's bad habits. Just because he's a "great guy" doesn't help you at all. If he's so fcuking great, why has he exposed you to this danger?
2006-07-20 22:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by tedious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, show him the door & mean it! he obvously doesn't care about u else he wouldn't of let u even try it. get rid of him, get clean & stay clean. i found out my bloke was taking heroin when i was 6months pregnant with his child. i never tried it but my straight head showed me that he'd never change, soon he got violent and beat me through my pregnancy and 4 about a yr after. then i met a nice bloke who let me and my child stay at his flat 2 get away from my x and i've bin happy ever since. so my advice is get rid of him.
2006-07-20 20:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should.He was not thinking of you when he brought this stuff to your home. Also was you drunk everty night when he gave it you, what is going on in your life that you feel that you had to take it, or was you taking it to please him at the time.You have to think of yourself.Look deep into yourself and get the strengh to sort out yourself first.You will be glad of it in time to come.I wish you the best in your journey to becoming clean
2006-07-20 19:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by thensteadxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should stay with anybody who has tendencies to use heroine. You should go out and meet people who don't have these issues.
2006-07-20 16:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now u r choosing between ur future and ur boyfriend of course choose ur future and go away from him may be if u go and he is loving u he will stop too but at first better to u to leave him to avoid loosing ur self and ur future
2006-07-20 16:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun but i think that if you want to get clean you may have to remove yourself from his company at least until he gets clean himself. personally i couldn't regard someone who encouraged me to do drugs as someone who loved me. if he does love you then he will respect you a: if you get clean and b: if you don't take him back until you have proof he is clean also. then maybe you would have a chance of a healthy relationship. just please get yourself sorted out, as you are your main priority!
2006-07-20 16:50:00 · answer #11 · answered by Kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋