i dont know if i'm askin a question or just stating a problem but lately i've been really worried about losing my boyfriend of a long time he tells me all the time he wont leave me and he loves me and i believe him but i've been having a feeling that hes gonna be taken away from me all these other chics are tryin to hook up with him and he thinks its funny but i hate it i admit these chics are way prettyier than me and thats what scares me i'm afraid they'll take him away from me and i just being paranoid or real?
2006-07-20 16:31:55 · 16 answers · asked by Jessica R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ooo hun thats is completly NORMAL trust me. i thought the same thing i love my fiance and he loves me to death but he KNOWS hes hot and i was scared just like you...all these girls were DROP DEAD GORGEOUS! i thought ...
you have to realize in his eyes you are the prettiest girl to him. he loves you no matter what. and when you tell him this and he just laughs it off thats a GOOD thing. that means he thinks your over reacting and he thinks thats it funny of you to think that ...that means he faithful.
don't concentrate so much if he'll leave you because honestly i don't believe he will...thats just my opinion since i've been in your shoes (and most of my friends as well) just concentrate on your lov. try to talk to him seriously and tell him that you ger jealous and ask him if he would please cut it down or just not talk about how this girl said or did this or whatever
good luck girl
2006-07-20 16:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by PuertoRicanLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being paranoid. If you don't get control over this your boyfriend will eventually lose alot of respect for you.
Why are you feeling insecure? Is he flirting or gawking at other females in your presence? Is he not giving you much attention or complements you enough? Has he cheated before?
Has someone in your past abandoned you?
He may be helping to triggers these feelings you have to keep you in check. If he's not doing anything wrong, then you need to take a good look at why your confidence is so low.
Just like he can get someone else so can you. Work on stop depending so much on him for emotional security. People will come and go throughout your life. No one person is meant to stay forever.
If your boyfriend is quick to be lured away by new pretty face then you are not losing him, because he was not yours to begin with.
Go out and get a life of your own and don't worry about him. Find something to do that does not center around him (dancing class, book group, art class, etc..) If he loves you he's not going anywhere!
2006-07-20 23:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about how you feel about the other females. Looks are not everything, it is how they treat a person, this not only applies to females but males as well. It is hard to deal with a male when he thinks it is fun when he has all these females going crazy and drooling over him. But it is not very funny to the one that is suppose to be his girlfriend. But all you can do is try to show him what he has with you. And the sad thing is, if you "give it all you got" and he still goes to one of these ******* that knows you two are together, he wasn't worth it to began with, and he will do it to her as well. If he cares about you at all, he will stay with you. But he really should tell these little ****** to hit the road,or where they should go, that he is not interested in anything they have, that he has something at home that is better than they could ever be as they are acting like what they are,******. I know the feeling that you are having all to well and it is real!!!!! Good luck!!!
2006-07-20 23:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessica, you are being very real with your feeling! It is not okay to wonder daily, if he is with you or not. If you have to ask yourself that question so much, then maybe you need to reevaluate your concept of this relationship. Is it worth all the confusion, and your answer is NO! You can't continue to worry about losing him because if you do, what then. Find what pleases you Jessie. Get into something you like that excludes him, and have fun doing it. Then maybe you will not feel so needy of him. Independence. Men don't deal well with needy and desperate. Good luck girl!
2006-07-20 23:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cassey P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Girls, Ladies, Women.... We all have this problem at one time or another. First off if he leaves you for someone else, say see ya, cry and go on. You must think of yourself as deserving him. For some reason you don't think you do. Think positive. Or maybe in the back of your mind you know you want out? hmmm.... We are taught to think we need to be with a man. You can survive with out them. With them is more fun I know. But nothing builds self esteem and beauty then a confident woman. (No not stuck up.) Your boyfriend is with you and likes who you are. Don't push him away. If he's flaunting these other women in your face.... Squash him.....
2006-07-20 23:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they can take him, then he's not yours. You have to have a back bone honey, looks are not everything. Look, m en are visual so they will look, but if he goes for another girl, then you gotta shake it off and roll with it. Live your life because no matter whose prettier you have to know that you have inner beauty. Any girl who would work to take a man from his woman, does not have that kind of inner beauty going on. Its better to roll alone then it is t obe with some man who doesnt even really love you. So let him go if he's gonna go, but dont accuse him and dont plague him with your insecurity, REAL men really wanna know that a woman can trust them, otherwise they know that they are unworthy of you and they will settle for little manipulative girls who get what they want cause they are deceitful. (Not that I have had much experience with this sort of thing....shrugs)
2006-07-20 23:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by strong_beautifulqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real, and if he is hooking up with other chics will you drop him or accept the inevitable?
It can be hard to handle but that's the way it is. You need to decide what you will accept when you find out.
2006-07-20 23:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by bankshot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to anyone, other than your boyfriend, that you can trust about this? To me, it sounds like you have a self-esteem issue. I, too, went through this in my teen years. Then again, I was abused pretty bad by my ex-boyfriend....it was more of a fear of being alone.
If your boyfriend really loves you, he will stick by you. Heck, he may even go to counseling with you to work on your insecurities. Good Luck!
2006-07-20 23:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obsessing over something that you cant control is not good. If he tells you that he's not going anywhere then you either gotta trust him on that or not. But if you don't trust him and keep nagging him about it, you could send him into the arms of one of those pretty girls that you are talking about and then lose him forever due to your lack of confidence, self-esteem and paranoia.
2006-07-20 23:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say that looks is not everything, if he leaves you for someone who is better looking than you, then he is just an empty person who does not care about who you are.... If you have not seen any thing strange from his end, then you should be ok
2006-07-20 23:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋