2006-07-20 16:27:49 · 5 answers · asked by peluchitagonzalez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I imagine that it would largely depend upon the child and what the child's strengths and abilities are and what expectations the mother has for each of the children. Also, the ages of the children would probably come into play.
For example an older child would be expected to be more mature and responsible than a younger one (generally speaking).
I don't think that mothers do this intentionally, but they know their kids strengths and weaknesses better than anyone else, and they react to them accordingly.
I have a 26 year old and a 13 year old. The 13 year old has Asperger's syndrome (part of the Autistic spectrum of disorders). He is brilliant in school and gets wonderful grades. I never have to make him study or do his homework, he does it on his own. His older brother was "homework resistant" to say the least. Getting him through school was like pulling teeth.
The 13 year old, because of his Asperger's syndrome, has absolutely no clue about tact and socially acceptable, polite behavior. These are the things that are hard for him. His older brother was always full of charisma and everyone loved him wherever we would take him. He always knew, instinctively, how to act in any social situation.
The two are totally different, and they are both precious to me, but I treat them very differently because of who they are and what their needs and strengths are. So, there are allowances that I make for the 13 year old that I would never have considered for the 26 year old when he was younger. There are also things that I would allow the 26 year old (when he was 13), that I would not consider for his younger brother.
Also, there are things that mothers learn from experience, and by the time the 2nd, 3rd, etc. come along, they have learned things that they might not have known before. So there may be alot of reasons why mothers make allowances for some kids and not others.
2006-07-20 16:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Oblivia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I give my children an allowance (and they are only 8 & 6) ... but they have to do chores to earn it. It teaches them responsibility and that money is not freely given to them. I also make them put aside a portion of it into savings, and I don't allow them to blow it on whatever they feel like buying on their 'payday.' Instead, I encourage them to pick something they would really enjoy and save two weeks to buy it.
2006-07-20 23:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,because of the love they have on their kids.Some mothers think,that allowance may spoil a kid where as some mothers might think tht allowance might make the kid happy,so whatever it is ,its only the love,care and affection of the mothers.
2006-07-20 23:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by jammy456b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people think that their little angel can do no wrong
Probably something to do with admiting fault/failure in themselves
2006-07-20 23:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by DrPepper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each and every child is different as is every mom!some are more mature and make better decisions than others!
2006-07-21 00:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by cyndi b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋