I am a nineteen-year-old college student and am seriously involved with my boyfriend who is a twenty-year-old college student. We have even talked of getting married someday. Our relationship is very close and we talk about everything, and he is very wonderful and supportive. I feel very committed to him and would really like to have sex with him. We have tried twice, but it hasn't really worked out because my vagina is too tight. I am pretty sure the problem is just that it needs to be stretched more, because I have been to the gynecologist and don't have any infections. He says that he is okay with whatever we do and that he loves me no matter what, but I still feel guilty about not being able to go all the way. How do I get over this guilt? I will be leaving college for the summer soon and we will be separated for awhile and I want to make sure that our relationship is as solid as possible before I leave so we have the absolute best chances of surviving the summer!
2006-07-20 16:25:49 · 20 answers · asked by SineB_NaD 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
if your relationship is based on love then why are you worried?? Sex isnt everything. Trust him......until your proven otherwise. If he really loves you, then things will work. Feeling guilty for not having sex with him is ridiculous....love and sex are two different things. They go good together, but they do not have to exist together. Good luck.
2006-07-20 16:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by AstonishingAries<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..first, if the relationship doesn't survive only because you haven't slept with him, then you don't need him. If you're 'talking marriage', then surely there's something more there than just sexual attraction - which would mean that theoretically you guys would survive a summer apart. So, in a way this summer will be the test of how strong your relationship is and whether he's a person you want to pursue marriage with.
secondly...the vagina stretches on it's own to accommodate any size penis..(think about this: we're able to give birth to a child with a head the size of a cantaloupe, aren't we?). So...if you are feeling that you are 'too tight', I take it to mean that penetration has not been easy...which means that most likely you're lacking foreplay and lubrication - both of which ready your body for penetration. I'm not saying go out and try this right now - but in the future, trying a little KY Jelly wouldn't hurt - and not rushing into intercourse, but taking time to enjoy the foreplay would also help. There's no rush to 'get er done'...honestly..
2006-07-20 16:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by kansas8099 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ypou are thinking about getting married someday, then wait till it happens. I think it is beautiful that you guys feel such a strong committment to each other, but college is a time of change and a few months could change everything, so don't do anything you will end up regretting because nothing ever goes as planned. I would say just don't fret about it. If its meant to be then it will happen and if not then it won't, but there is someone for everyone and I'm sure that if things don't work out that it won't be too hard to find a new boyfriend. Just don't put so much pressure on yourself or him and take things slow and relaxed and everything should be fine for you all for a long time.
2006-07-20 16:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still young and you have your whole life ahead of you if he doesn't stay with you because of not having sex then it wasn't the right relationship for you. A relationship isn't soley based on sex even though most people think it is if you truly love someone you are gonna love that person no matter what. Waiting is the best thing you can do see if its really what you want!!
2006-07-20 16:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel guilty about not providing sex to both of you, but sex isn't everything in a relationship. A couple could be prefectly content without ever having sex. It's the love that makes a relationship, not the pleasure.
I don't know what to tell you about your vagina, as seeing how I've never had sex but you could always ask a friend or your gynecologist about it.
2006-07-20 16:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you stopped to think , maybe the problem isn't that your vagina is too tight, maybe you are not ready for sex yet. This could be your body's way of saying, you should wait. Just a thought from some old woman. But please think about it. If the two of you really care for each other. the two of you will still be there when the time is right.
2006-07-20 16:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, if you feel this insecure your relationship must no be as great as you made it out to be. Sex isn't everything. People date and up until they get married without having sex and are commited to each other. Anyway what is keeping you and your bf apart during the summer? You or he can always visit the other. There's phone calls and email. Heck you can write him letters if you want.
2006-07-20 16:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex has nothing to do with whether your relationship will stay intact over the summer. It won't 'solidify' your relationship. If you're that committed to him, going 'all the way' can wait a bit longer. Don't worry about pleasing him. He says he loves you no matter what -- that's rare! Trust him and don't fret. :)
2006-07-20 16:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by buffy fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Darwezzy. So many young people think that you have sex and then try to build a relationship around it, or that sex is some kind of relationship super glue - that it bonds you together.
Your relationship sounds fine. Stop rushing things.
2006-07-20 16:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋