About 20 minutes ago I was making out with my boyfriend...well things were getting a little heated up more than usually, I dont know what I was thinking and was kinda pushing a little too much against him and so we started to really kiss and he well was doing a few things, but nothing that I was thinking were going too far till he was starting to ut his hand in front and was about to go up my shorts and well...I think you get where that waws going...so I suddenly stopped kissing and I think he got the hint. I know it is not his fault, but mine as well, but as soon as I walked in the door I ran to the bathroom and was crying and wanted to take off my clothes because I felt so ashamed of myself...right now I am bundled up in long clothing...sweat pants, shirt and a sweat shirt. He has called twiced and texted twice, but I wont respond or call back.
Is it normal to feel this way? I know my limits but how do I keep myself from doing stupid and regret it? I'm a teenager so dnt be mean
2006-07-20 16:14:29 · 24 answers · asked by HideAnotherMistake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He texted me saying he was sorry that he went too far and never will happen again...
Also...how come we do get caught in the moment???
2006-07-20 16:20:56 · update #1
THANK YOU ALL SOOOOO MUCH!!! I didnt know when I stopped thst it was a good thing...Im glad I didnt do something that made me uncomfarotable and I texted him how I feel...now I am just waiting for a responce...thank you all again!!!
2006-07-20 16:35:49 · update #2
It's okay! You have nothing to be ashamed of and you have done nothing wrong. It is good that you are so responsible, and that you stopped when you felt uncomfortable. It is completely natural for your body to want more than what you are ready for, and it is also completely normal for you to feel things are going to far. It is better to stop than to go too far - you would regret that WAY more and you would feel MUCH worse. The fact that your boyfriend stopped is good, it means he respects you. The fact that he has called and texted you is even better - he obviously cares for you and is worried about you. The most important thing for you now is to be upfront and honest with him. Explain exactly how you feel - that you are attracted to him and liked how it felt, and that he does physically excite you - but that you are not ready to take it too far yet and you don't want to tease him but you don't want to do something you are not ready for. I think he will understand, and he is much more likely to accept it if he knows why you reacted the way you did than if you ignore him. At the moment he probably thinks he did something wrong, and he could be feeling really terrible. So just let him know exactly how you feel and he is sure to accept it. If he doesn't accept it, that is when you will need to look at the relationship and decide if it is right for you - it is okay to say no, and you should never do anything you don't feel completely comfortable with. Good luck!!! Cheer up.
2006-07-20 16:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by miss_behavin 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You weren't ready for that. You can tell him exactly what you have told us strangers.
You got carried away. If you can not talk to him (is it normal) text him back, in simple words I am sorry, I got carried away, can not talk now, plz forgive me. I will call you when ready to talk.
This is a beautiful opportunity for the two of you to explore how much do you care about each other. Take it easy, you have done nothing wrong and it seems he understands too.
Do not let him hanging, at least text him back, he has no clue as to what happened.
One thing leads to the other, you are exploring something new. That is why most parents are terrified on their kids dating. You had no intentions of going that far, it just happened
2006-07-20 23:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this fuss because you were turned on and he almost put his hand in your shorts? And now you're throwing a big dramatic fit about it?
Get over yourself, girl. If you want his hand in your shorts, let him put it there. If you don't, calmly tell him that you don't want to go that far. If you the two went further than you mean to in the heat of the moment, stop, take a deep breath, let him know that you don't want to go that far now, and then get back to what you were doing. But don't panic and start treating him like he tried to rape you -- he was trying to make you happy, and he stopped as soon as he figured out that you weren't OK with it.
2006-07-20 23:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by Roger D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I kno you feel ashamed but don't, you stopped!!! Feel proud that you had enough strength to get out of an uncomfortable situation. Just tell him that things got out of hand and you really didn't mean for it to get outta of control, but nothing happened so don't feel bad. Just tell him that your not ready to go all the way, and he should understand since he got the hint the first time. Sometimes our bodies take control of our minds, our brains have to speak up in certain situations and yours did. Bravo girl!!! You have the willpower to do anything, and I think you will not be in another situation like that if you don't want to be!!!
2006-07-20 23:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chelly Belly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm also a fellow teen who has fargone the EXACT same situation. Dont worry, this feeling will come to pass. The only thing I think you were freaked out about was just the "concept" of what you two were doing. And plus the thing to keep in mind is that when you're all "heated up" like that your brain really isn't thinking logically. You're pretty much running off adrenalin and what your BODY wants you to do, not your MIND. Dont feel ashamed ok? :) Just remember that you just need to calm yourself down and try not to freak out. You may feel idk, used or something but trust me he didnt mean you ANY harm. So please please please please please call your poor bf back and tell him that you just got a little freaked out today that's all. It wasnt necessarily him its just that you woke up for a second and really realized what was going on. Tell him how you feel. It would really suck to lose a relationship like that over something that the two of you could have simply just talked about. If you're too embarrassed to call/talk to him in person, just txt him back and try to explain. Just be yourself and let him know your limits ok? :)
Good Luck!
Message me if you need further help ok? :)
2006-07-20 23:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Viola Dragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you glad you did the right thing. You should not be ashamed but instead, must be proud of yourself. And learn from it. But do not misjudge your bf's action. He might not be totally at fault for it. So when you see him again, talk to him honestly about what you think and you wants. There's no wrong in just kissing. It is how you control your emotions and urges that matters. Well, if you decide to finally give in...then that's totally up to you. Ask yourself, are you ready for it or its consequences? Then, decide. :-D
2006-07-20 23:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by cernad06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to get things going... getting hott... and getting into the mood. if you've never done something like that then ya... you might feel unconfortable. it's okay to be upset. but just because you let him do something doesn't mean your dirty. if you don't want him to go that far then tell him. he shoudl understand. if you want to keep from doing those things then you have to back off before it gets too hott and if the mood is right but u just don't want him to go farther. tell him your just not ready. if he loves you then he will understand. and text him or call him back. he's probally really upset and might think that he made you feel bad or hurt you. just let him know how you feel.
2006-07-20 23:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Terra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. You should feel comfortable and confident on how far you want to take these kinds of things. You need to tell your bf why you freaked and how you feel about things when it come to this subject. Don't be embarrassed or scared, it's your life and your body and you handle them as you see fit. I hope this helps you out even a little bit. ^_^
2006-07-20 23:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you probably should let him know that your uncomfortable with doing certain things. and if he truly cares about you, when you tell him that, he will understand and back off a little. you shouldn't keep him in the dark as to why your upset--he needs to know and understand. as you said--you know your limits. you need to let HIM know your limits, so that way you don't do anything regretable...don't be ashamed of anything! you didn't do anything wrong...tell him how you feel, and things should be fine....
2006-07-20 23:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me. You have feelings and desires and at the same time you don't wanna go to far. I would talk to him asap and explain it. Whatever you do.. don't be ashamed what you are going through is normal part of life.
2006-07-20 23:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋