make a long story short. i was seeing this guy for 4-5 years about 2 years ago. i have been with other people after him but it seems like i always find myself back with him when it doesnt work out with other guys, why??? is it cause i know he'll be there cause i know he really loves me still. is it a comfort thing, due i still have something for him deep inside. please help, i need answers here. going out of my mind.
2006-07-20 16:08:01 · 7 answers · asked by sweetness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when as soon as im with him i think to myself is this what i really want or not. then i leave..
2006-07-20 16:14:29 · update #1
Before my husband and I got marry no matter what situation I found myself in I always turn to him for advice even though at times we weren't together. Maybe you go to him because that's who you feel comfortable with and know that no matter what goes wrong he'll always be there for you because he loves you and want you to be happy.
2006-07-20 16:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by shabana0903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same thing with a guy I dated on and off for 4 years. I think it's partly because we know there's no commitment and we have the freedom to come and go. Also knowing we have a safe place to fall if it doesn't work out. We were good friends and had great sex now and then. But every so often would drift apart,date others, then drift back together. I ended up marrying someone else because in the end it was more than friendship that I wanted. You need to think long and hard about how you really feel about your friend and then if it's love you're feeling have a conversation with him as well. Best of Luck!
2006-07-20 23:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the saying.."Old habits die hard"....well I think that is what your guy is to you. He is a comfort zone..a safe resting place till you find someone else. He's a habit...one that you haven't the courage to kick yet. And that's not being fair to him at all.
If you need to end up back with him, then go that route, but as friends only. (If he is willing). I'm assuming you do like his character as a friend? That would be the fair thing to do and you could still have him in your life. But be upfront with him too. Tell him that you don't know what you want at the moment, and would like to remain friends. And also be upfront when you do see someone else who may interest you.
The only other option is to "kick this habit". It's not a healthy one for either of you. I doubt very much that you have something deep inside for this guy, otherwise you would be clearer about what you feel and not always looking for something else.
Hope this helps in some way.
2006-07-20 23:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Wise Wench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly I have the same kinda relationship with one of my really close guy friends and up until a year ago I couldnt figure out why I kept going back to him... Well I figured it out... He was familiar, safe, comfortable and I didnt have to worry about getting hurt with him... well I just know that thats what makes him one of my best friends... I mean he just always there and despite the fact we have had some major blow outs that were usually my fault he still accepts me and greets me with open arms.... I think you may go back to your guy for some of the same reasons. Hope this helps some...
2006-07-20 23:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by bookwormforever16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything in life is truly a choice. To be or not to be like Shakespear said. You have your own answers, look within and you will get the answer you wish for.
2006-07-20 23:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now I am just guessing but maybe the reason you keep ending up with him is because you still love him.
2006-07-20 23:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by Cordy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because you are looking for him in other men - and when you don't find it, you end up back with him.
2006-07-20 23:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by sct72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋