She told me secretly that he is sterile, but she wants a baby really badly. She said she would tell him she had gone to a sperm bank, and it would be our little secret. Do you think I should do it? What if the baby come out really looking like me a lot? Could I just say I had donated to a sperm bank, and it was coincidence?
2006-07-20 16:06:49 · 26 answers · asked by Jeremiah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No No No!!! That would be dishonest and you could loose your friend even if you squirted in a ziplock bag and she punched a hole in it and squeezed it in her (kidding-I'm assuming you don't intend to have sex with her???)
But no, that would be wrong. Maybe discuss it with your friend and he would be honoerd. If you two are that close maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing. If you were willing to sign the appropriate ppwk to make it legit, maybe it wouldn't be a big deal to him...it may even be cheaper than going to a sperm bank for implantation.
If I had to chose between my very best friend of whom I love or a total stranger, my best friend would win by leaps and bounds. If this is his only alternative if he really can't, give it a shot. Of course SPELL it out that you don't have ANY desire to lay his wife AT ALL....you just see the need and want to help.
And do it out of love...(for your friend, not his wife (joking).
2006-07-20 16:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by cinimon_s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man thats hard! If you want to help your best friend! do what you must! but screwing your friends wife! Thats harsh! Sperm banks arent totally dependable! cost money, contracts and load of paper work!! But tell her to lie! say she did go to a sperm bank! BUt not really!! You just masterbate and let her take it in! It would be really awkward if you fornicate her! because when you see her the next day! its really going to scare you!! and in 9 months! You are going to have nightmares if that baby comes out looking like you!! Just sleep on it for a while!! He should at least know something! Just leave you out of it in the story!
2006-07-20 16:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by vaiosoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys really need to be honest and upfront about what you want to do. This situation cannot be taken lightly at all because you are dealing with the rest of your lives. Once a child is born into this world, it's not just until they are 18 or 21, it's forever. Therefore, to avoid possible feelings of betrayl and sorrow, let your bestfriend know about what you want to do. He is your bestfriend so i'm pretty sure that he wouldn't have a problem with fulfilling his wife's need for experiencing motherhood and your need to help out with this situation in anyway you could. The bottomline is, do not do anything behind his back or you both will regret it.
2006-07-20 16:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria X 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, now, are you that dense. Don't put yourself in that sort of uncomfortable position. Now, is she asking you to give sperm through sex or by artifical insemination.
Either way I would say NO if the husband is not involved. This sort of dram can cause major drama betwenn you three relationships and their own.
Think of this: what if they seperated and she was desperate, she would slap you with a paternity suite and now you're in hot water.
Just don't do it. The coincidence bit would be a HUGE seethrough lie and you'll get your *** kicked from here to tuesday.
2006-07-20 16:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dahlias 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your playing with your life.. If that is your BEST FRIEND!! What level is your respect for him? How do you know he is really sterile? She could be lying regardless of the fact how can you come inbetween the trust of friendship over a woman that wants a child.. Let them work the shyte out.. tell her to talk with her husband, she's not on the up and up all she is thinking of is herself and wanting you to **** her.. but it appears you like her more than the friendship you have with your friend.. If she wants to get or have a baby tell her to go to the bank with her HUSBAND!!!!
2006-07-20 16:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He Impregnated My Wife
2016-12-17 16:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the wife needs to talk to her husband about that....
If you do impregnate her then there might be the chance that YOU end up loving the child as your own even though according to the "secret" it would be theirs....And plus if the dude is your best friend maybe talk about this with him. NOT THE, "hey can i knock up your wife" but about their options as a couple....
Remember that communication is important to any and all relationships.
Good Luck! :)
2006-07-20 16:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Viola Dragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a decision you, her, and her husband. And not be discussed lightly. You must remember though, you are responsible for child support if something should happen, because you will be considered the biological father with a paternity test. You ready to pay out your a@s, because set ups like this never work.
2006-07-20 16:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Genivieve G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally i think she just wants you , and you gotta make a choice if you really wanna do that or not , hows ur best friend going to feel if he ever found out the truth , wouldn't that just kill you? so before you decide you better think of how you'd handle the worst case scenario and think on it hard
2006-07-20 16:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any way you look at it this is not good. It would be so wrong of you and your friend's wife to even consider something so immoral and something so disrespectful to your supposedly best friend. This is definitely not OK.
2006-07-20 16:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋