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iv been with this guy for a while and hes the sweetest guy and treats me like i wish all men would treat women (true gentleman whos opens doors and pulls out chairs ) before i felt liked i loved him , but not all the way if that makes any sense to anyone. but latly especailly after a talk about how we feel about each other, i feel like i do love him i cant stand to be with out him and he makes me a happy better person. but when i start to think about it i start to second guess myself. am in love? am i just scared because i think into thing more than i should. am i scared that what if i say i love him but then i fall out of love and cant take it back? how can somting like love mean so much to me but i dont know what it is?
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2006-07-20 16:06:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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READ IT CAREFULLY THEN YOU WILL SURELY KNOW WHAT IT IS ....
Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self-love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.

The concept of love, however, is subject to debate. Some deny the existence of love, calling it a recently invented abstraction. Others maintain that love exists but is indefinable; being a quantity which is spiritual, metaphysical, or philosophical in nature. The views that love does not exist or is indefinable may underlie the fact that approximately 13 percent of cultures have no word for love. [1] [2] The remaining 87 percent attempt to define this abstract concept and apply it to everyday life. Love is one of the most common themes in art and often times is an excuse for " bad art". Some psychologists maintain that love is the abstract action of lending one's "boundary" or "self esteem" to another
Overview

Love has several different meanings in the English language, from something that gives a little pleasure to something for which one would die. And in contrast to the definition at the top, frequently people use the verb "love" to indicate want or desire for themselves as opposed to for another. For example: "I love that lamp," does not refer to desiring wellness for the lamp, but rather to the desire for the lamp. The word also frequently indicates elevated appreciation or admiration: "I love that artist," An individual might state.

Cultural differences make any universal definition of love difficult to establish. Expressions of love may include the love for a soul or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, and love for the respect of others. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. Love is essentially an abstract concept, easier to experience than to explain. Many believe, as stated originally by Virgil that "Love conquers all", or as stated by The Beatles, "All you need is love". Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of 'absolute value', as opposed to 'relative value'.


Types


Courtly love – a late medieval conventionalized code prescribing certain conduct and emotions for ladies and their lovers
Erotic love – desire characterized by sexual desires
Familial love – affection brokered through kinship connections, intertwined with concepts of attachment and bonding
Free love – sexual relations according to choice and unrestricted by marriage
Platonic love – a close relationship in which sexual desire is nonexistent or has been suppressed or sublimated
Puppy love – romantic affection that is not "mature" or not "true." The term reflects a bias that love between youngsters is somehow less valid.
Religious love – devotion to one's deity or theology
Romantic love – affection characterized by a mix of emotional and sexual desire
True love - love without condition, motive or attachment. Loving someone just because they are themselves, not their actions or beliefs in particular.
Unrequited love – affection and desire not reciprocated or returned

Scientific views

Throughout history, predominantly, philosophy and religion have speculated the most into the phenomenon of love. In the last century, the science of psychology has written a great deal on the subject. Recently, however, the sciences of evolutionary psychology, evolutionary biology, anthropology, neuroscience, and biology have begun to take centre stage in discussion as to the nature and function of love.

Biological models of sex tend to see it as a mammalian drive, just like hunger or thirst. Psychology sees love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. Psychologist Robert Sternberg created his Triangular theory of love and argued that love has three different components : Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Intimacy is a form where two people can share secrets and various details of their personal lives. Intimacy is usually shown in friendships and romantic love affairs. Commitment on the other hand is the expectation that the relationship is going to last forever. The last and most common form of love is simply sex, or passion. Passionate love is shown in infatuation as well as romantic love. This led researchers such as Yela to further refine the model by seperating Passion into two independents components : Erotic Passion and Romantic Passion.


Cultural views

Although there exist numerous cross-cultural unified similarities as to the nature and definition of love, as in there being a thread of commitment, tenderness, and passion common to all human existence, there are differences. For example, in India, with arranged marriages commonplace, it is believed that love is not a necessary ingredient in the initial stages of marriage – it is something that can be created during the marriage; whereas in Western culture, by comparison, love is seen as a necessary prerequisite to marriage.


Religious views

Love, in the form of subjective devotion, seems to have been originally understood as the proper response to idealised objective natural forces (pagan polytheism). Later religions shifted the emphasis towards single abstractly-oriented objects like God, the law, the book, and the church (formalised monotheism).

Alongiside these two objects of subjective human love (mono and poly), there a third view which recognises a state or truth distinct from (and often antagonistic to) the idea that there is a difference between the subject and the object (pantheism). Love is reality itself, of which we, moving through time, imperfectly interprete ourselves as isolated part.



Definitional issues
Dictionaries tend to define love as deep affection or fondness.[3] In colloquial use, according to polled opinion, the most favoured definitions of love include the words:[4]

life - someone or something for which you would give your life.
care - someone or something about which you care more than yourself.
In common use, care refers to a mental or emotional state of predisposition in which one has an interest or concern for someone or something. To care for someone, may also refer to a disquieted state of mixed uncertainty, apprehension, and responsibility; or a cause for such anxiety. Caring for an object, such as a house, refers to a state of attendant maintenance; or may also refer to a state of charge or supervision, as in under a doctor’s care.
friendship - favoured interpersonal associations or relationships.
union
family - people related via common ancestry.
bond.

2006-07-27 21:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by vishal 3 · 2 0

I respect anyone who speaks a language with a non-native accent because it means they took the time to learn a new language. My family is from Kerala, India and I don't speak the language (Malayalam) fluently, but whenever I try people are encouraging about it. I've seen tourists try to use a few phrases at restaurants or while shopping and Malayalees (aka people in Kerala) think it's great because they're speaking Malayalam to them, and the tourists think it's great that Malayalees speak English to them. But I don't know if it's like that in other states in India. And in America, which is where I live, it all depends, but generally foreign accents are often made fun of and I think that's rude. Oh as for a recommendation on a new language, well, since you know Spanish, how about trying Italian or French since a lot of the words have similar roots?

2016-03-27 01:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well i have been in love a couple of times and u know when u just want 2 be around them and do extra stuff like buy new clothes new hair style etx. believe me you'll know

2006-07-20 16:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by ozkanjr 3 · 0 0

Love is an universal feeling that has no words to describe it or maybe it has many explenations that at the end you don't know what it is!!!!!

2006-07-20 16:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Janey 3 · 0 0

Love....Well if you really are in love you wouldnt need to ask others what they think. You would just know it. and true love only comes once. if you lose that person youre screwed. Youre only in love once...some people are neer really in love. Youre really lucky if you are.

2006-07-20 16:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......

(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.

2006-07-21 16:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0 0

u sound sooo in love with him sweetie..and u should let him know.don't let a guy like that pass u by ;) Good Luck lool keep us up dated hehe

2006-07-20 16:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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