my current boyfriend of 8 months still talks to an ex girlfriend on almost a daily basis. except, when we are together. he never accepts her calls when I am with him. he will just put his cell to voice mail. I have expressed concern about their situation before. he says they are friends. but he was living with her up until 1 month before we started dating. I asked him if she knew about me, and his response was " well i am sure she has a clue, i mean i am never available anymore." that was upsetting to me because I feel like he doesn't want to talk to her about it, or is hiding something. also when he has social parties at home, or if we go to his friends homes for card parties, she never shows up. is this normal behavior? it is hard for me to deal with, and I am not sure how to bring it up again without seeming over jealous. please help.
2006-07-20 15:43:54 · 14 answers · asked by chwylvr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That sucks. I'm sorry you have to deal with such crap. I was also in the exact same situation, dating for 8 months, still talks to EX, blah blah blah.......I would tell him that when he wants to get real with you and "let go" of his back burners, then you will get real with him, until then...bye bye...Harder said than done, but whether you willing to admit it or not he's keeping her on the side in case you two don't work out. Any man will tell you that and the ones that won't are liars. Only cheaters hang on to their past.
2006-07-20 15:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Raquel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to back off the relationship some and accept that he still has feelings for this ex, before you get hurt. I Think you already know this and just want to confirm it with us here at yahoo.
Tell him you just want to be friends also, ignore some of his calls, and tell him you have other plans sometimes.
If he truly cares about you, this will open his eyes up some (maybe) and set his priorities in order.
You sound level headed and not the jealous type, but you are beginning to get your feelings hurt. Ask yourself if he IS truly worth that.
Good luck...........
ps if that don't work throw his cell phone in the toilet............
2006-07-20 15:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not over his ex. If I were you I would be jealous too. He's been dating you for 8 months and he's keeping it from his ex?!? If he'll hide things from her he'll hide things from you. He will probably end up cheating on you, if he isn't already.
He needs to grow up and figure out what he wants. Until he does, I suggest you find someone who's into you and ONLY you.
2006-07-20 15:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad sign that he never tells her about you. He may still have feelings for her. He still wants her in his life, I'd watch out.
Tell him if she still has feelings for her. If not, then tell him he has to tell her about you, or there's going to be a big problem because that's not cool.
If he can't let go of his past, you should let him go. There's plenty of guys out there who know that ex's are in the past, not part of the present.
2006-07-20 15:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up is hard to do but he is trying. he does not jump to talk to her he stays by you when you are there. but when you are gone he talks to her. he lived with someone and is use to having contact with someone 24/7 so he can get lonely and she could be a friend. She does not go to parties Good she gives him room and she may not want to see him with someone else yet but she knows he is with someone and she does not want to make herself or you two uncomfortable. Maybe sometime soon he will sence you are ok with thier friendship and talk to her in front of you but you are showing him and us by this question you are not ready yet
2006-07-20 15:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by G L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah you hvae nothing to worry about.. in fact.. his response wasn't a defensive stance. plus, he doesn't think that her knowing about his other relationships isn't any of her business. she might be real clingy and is trying to not totally ditch her. It's totally OK to be friend with your ex. you have to have faith in him until he proves you otherwise. if you don't you are going to turn into a paranoid psycho g/f which guys HATE
2006-07-20 15:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i does no longer call them decrease back, in the adventure that they are fairly in contact over it, they're going to call you and ask why did you call? And, only clarify I left my cellular telephone...and the lady suggested she changed into attempting to stumble on out who owns this cellular telephone by ability of the old contacts. I only under no circumstances erased your huge variety incase you ever tried to call me and so i comprehend the large variety.
2016-11-24 23:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
myself i think he is still in love with her and either one of them wants to let go / first of all he should tell her its over and tell her he is with you i dont think he will or he would have done that when you started dating second i would dump him cause it wont change and no you are not over jealous there is better ones out there that dont have anyone on the side you deserve better / good luck
2006-07-20 15:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by jeannette_burnard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, if he's keeping you a secret from one of his close "FRIENDS" then I think some thing is not right. I mean if he really likes or loves you then he should be proud of letting people know that you're his girlfriend.
2006-07-20 15:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Adriana R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Master Yoda says: Stained with evil the dark side is, flirt with evil you should not
2006-07-20 15:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by BigDaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋