my friend and her man have been together for 3 years! He rescently lost his grandmother and now he is about to lose his mom. My friend went through the same thing with her grandma. She feels like he's not in love with her any more! All she does is cry any more and she wants to make things work with her and her boyfriend! I've given her advice on what to do and so has her mom. IS there anything else that i can tell her? I want to be there for her as much as possible and be able to tell her things that are going to help her with her relationship. What more is there that I can tell her? I don't like seeing her upset all the time and I miss the old her.
2006-07-20 15:35:50 · 8 answers · asked by dragonblueicethrower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all you can do is what your doing now and that is be there for your friend. she is lucky to have someone like you during these hard times.
2006-07-20 15:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this 'man' is going through such a troubled times -- making the relationship work is going to revolve around
comforting him
being there for him
and GIVING HIM SPACE
The last thing that your friend needs is to smother her man with "pay attention to me" sentiments. The two most important women in his life are leaving this world -- she should be there when he needs her, and back off when he needs to be alone.
If she's not sure about it, ask him. Guys will tell you when they need space, when prompted. ^_^ Good luck with that, querida.
2006-07-20 15:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Hatake Seraph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling her that it is going to take him some time to come to terms with his own feelings about his Mother and Grandmother. It is not that his feelings for her have changed. His emotions are on Overload at the moment and maybe he just can't quite sort them out.
2006-07-20 15:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by rune1972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that sweetie :( I think u should tell her to give her man some space to hurt and deal with it ,guys us ally just wanna be alone at times like these ,not like us we just wanna talk about it,Jus tell er to let him knows shes there for him and jus leave em alone for a while I know its hard but its for the best , if he comes back gr8! and if he doesn't ..well she'll know . it shouldn't take more than a week but it might, jus let er be patient and pray for him.Good Luck :)
2006-07-20 15:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's in love with his her, but you can't expect him to act the same way after such a loss. I suggest she just stick with him and be there for him. He will appreciate what she has done and hopefully he return to his old loving self.
wish her luck.
2006-07-20 15:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately this is the time for her to maybe be left alone. somethings you just need to get over by yourself. Just let her cry and be sad... soon enough it will pass... give her some space but keep reminding her that you will be here for her.
2006-07-20 15:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by Momo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must find someone for them to talk to. A professional, as this may go deeper than any good friend can fix!
2006-07-20 15:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a good friend you are . I think you've done all you can do in this situation. ( which is certainly more than I would do )
2006-07-20 15:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋