I stay home with our little son all week right... in the evenings when my husband gets home we have exceptional family time together. Now sometimes on his day off " I wanna take off " and be childfree for a moment while he takes care of our son and our home. He gets kind of mad. Should I feel bad?
2006-07-20 15:09:54 · 17 answers · asked by smilingontime 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nope your job is harder this his, your a stay at home mom, u look at the same walls every day have hardly any contact with the outside world.. U deserve a day off.. and unless u can find a babysitter while he's working, then no u shouldnt feel bad.. he should want to spend time with his son one on one because he doesnt get to see him as much because of work.. Now i wouldnt make it an every week thing, because your husband is tired to from working and im sure he'd love to spend a day with both of you just relaxing.. But dont feel bad for asking once in awhile.. if u dont get out u will go stir crazy, and become very depressed.. but to benefit him i would see about possibly getting a babysitter on a day that he has to work to go blow some steam since he is having such a problem with it.. Sometimes i wish guys could walk in our shoes for a bit.. they wouldnt be able to be a house-husband.. my husband was laid off from work for 4 months and he thought it was great for about the 1st week.. then he was so bored, and he was so sick of doing house work ect.. that he couldnt wait to go back to work..
2006-07-20 15:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you need some time off plan it in advance but only make it for a couple of hours don' t take up his whole day off. Your husband deserves a couple of hours child free also. Your husband should go some place alone for a couple of hours too. Also this is a good opportunity for you both to go some place with your son or spend time together on a project at home. You also need to get a babysitter sometimes so that the two of you can both go somewhere together. Equal balance, consideration for the other person, and compromise make a marriage work.
2006-07-20 15:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ann S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. You two should be spending time as a couple also. But you should look into having a family member you trust maybe take your son for a day during the week so you also get time to yourself. You're just as important, but also remember the strongest families tend to be the ones that have the couples with the romance factor still there.
2006-07-20 15:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Tygirljojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It's hard to be a stay at home mom! You NEVER get a day off. Your job is 7 days a week 24 hours a day and you deserve alone time too. Or just time away from your child.
2006-07-20 15:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by ******* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't feel bad about this. He needs to understand that you need time away from the little one. If he fails to understand maybe you could have someone you know take him for a few hours or something. And if you can afford it take him to respectful daycare for the day.
2006-07-20 15:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He should be there helping you. I think you should trade off days. I mean I can understand him wanting to "relax" on his day off, but by choosing to be a father and husband...that "relaxing" ship sailed port long ago.
See if you can't come to a compromise. You trade off parts of the day he is off....he gets up with your son, so you can sleep in. He gets the afternoon to piddle around the house...and do whatever grown men do.............................
YOU DESERVE TIME OFF AS WELL! Mommies never get a day off...................as an adult now - I thank my mom for all she did for me!
2006-07-20 15:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he want? Ask him. Do you not deserve some time alone too? Maybe get your hair or nails done or something that you do? That is not nice. Tell him from me.
You should sort the time out somehow. Discuss it so you get time off and he gets time off and both of you are happy.
Make sure both of you have time off too. Take your kid to granny's.
2006-07-20 15:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by crazy s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could take time off while he is not home - get a sitter(one that you trust) and give yourself a break. When he realizes you have to pay for a sitter, he may change his mind. or if he doesn't change his mind, maybe you could take turns sitting for a neighbor's kid and they sit with yours some other time. then you would be free (for a little while)
2006-07-20 15:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by bonbon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! He needs to understand that taking care of ya'lls son is a full- time job, and you deserve a break too.
2006-07-20 15:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by ilovedusomuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel i am a stay at home mother for over two years now . u should get a break away from your kids , my husband give me a break , just this past sunday he keep them all day for me , and your husband should keep them for you ,
2006-07-20 15:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋