2006-07-20 15:07:28 · 24 answers · asked by dawn l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you are not ready to be married.
2006-07-20 15:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it depends on what you are thinking. If you wishing you were still with him, then yes it would be wrong to go ahead with wedding. Sure you're not getting married to get back at him for something. If so you are messing up the lives of your fiance, yourself and the exboyfriend. Work it out before you get married.
2006-07-20 22:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Passing thoughts of those from your past are completely normal as long as they don't interfere with the present. I am very happily married, but every now and then I still hear a song, drive by a certain place, etc. that reminds me of someone I used to date. That doesn't make me love my husband any less-- really, it makes me appreciate him even more! Just as long as you are 100% faithful, all is well! Congrats on your upcoming marriage!!
2006-07-20 22:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by jobug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on we all have issues with dreams we can't control!! How real is it...Is there a chance with the other guy? How would you like it if you saw your boyfriend on TV with some hottie? Keep your dreams to yourself!! If you don't make it an issue there won't be one!! To answer your question? If your thinking about another guy and ther is still a possibility you could be with them then of course its wrong ! How would you feel if your fiancee was thinking of another women!!
2006-07-20 22:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you need to question if your relationship is stable and if its not then maybe its not worth staying.You need to answer your self what are you missing now in your relationship that you use to have,can it be fixed,do you want to fix it, if you answer all these questions and the outcome isnt good then you need to do yourself a favour and leave the guy you are with its not fair to him or you.If you are not happy in this relationship then you never will be and you need to find that happiness.If you stay all it will bring is grief and yelling and screaming matches for no reason it will just happen cause you will pay attention to the things that you are not happy with. You will always find faults and always be misserable.You need to reannylize your life.
2006-07-20 22:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by sht4brains4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's justified, as since you would be finally settled, where no more other men in your life, it is a big step and allot of responsibilty.
Last minute jitters. go ahead think about your whole life as that is where it end and a new one begins'
However if you are having second taughts, better to speak up a head of time so no one get hurt in the end... Good Luck.
Peace be with you..
2006-07-20 22:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Arun M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about a guy you once dated then you are not ready for marriage yet. Think about it some and do some soul searching, Ask yourself, "Is this the guy that I really want to spend the rest of my life with?" Good luck.
2006-07-20 22:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by smokey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually that's normal! pre-wedding crap...thinking back over your life..am i doing the right thing? wonder where "so and so" is and what they are doing. would i have been happier with "so and so" instead of fiance.....just relax..everyone does this. marriage is a huge step, and sometimes overwhelming. re-evaluating your past is part of the process of moving forward with your life. just as long as you don't act on any feelings..and you just keep it in the "what if" place you'll be okay! eventually you will work through your confusion and feelings, and realize it was a needed process before accepting your future.
2006-07-20 22:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is perfectly normal. You are making such a huge commitment you can't help but think of old flames, even if it is one special one that meant very much to you. If you can't get him off your mind, you may feel relieved to call him and chat about this major time in your life. He may help ease the tension. who knows, you may feel better about your upcoming marriage with the consent of someone you once cared about! Just don't let it interfere with your fiance!
2006-07-20 22:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Smarty Panties 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess it depends what you are thinking about him. If you are remembering what a wonderful man he was, I'd say, get over it. IF you thinking how lucky you are you and he aren't getting married, and you are marrying the man you love, then that's good.
2006-07-20 22:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT THE SOON TO BE HUSBAND AND MAKE SURE THAT YOU'RE MARRYING HIM FOR THE RIGHT REASONS. IF YOU ARE, THEN YOU WON'T THINK OF THE OTHER GUY. IF YOU CONTINUE TO THINK ABOUT THE OTHER GUY, MAYBE YOU SHOULD POSTPONE YOUR WEDDING. TAKE IT FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS WALKED THAT WALK, DON'T BE HASTY! TIL DEATH DO YOU PART IS A MIGHTY LONG TIME. GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-20 22:20:23 · answer #11 · answered by popcopgoldieoldie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋