she is soooo mean i cant stand her HELP
2006-07-20 14:47:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you should put your personal feelings aside..for your father.. afterall that is his wife.. As hard as it may be..try to be polite to her ....
2006-07-20 14:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Katfish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can certainly say as a Step Dad myself with a very poor relationship with my step son, my thoughts are most kids are resentful to their step parents because of the split of their parents. I think it's important for you to step up to the plate and try and make the best for your step parent. Being a step parent has to be one of the most difficult things I have ever come across. Within no time, a step parent has to immediately be experienced and always has to be the person to be responsible for everything. It's tough. Sometimes I despise being a step parent and wonder why I would ever have wanted to be one. I can only give you the step parent's perspective. Cut her some slack man. You more than likely will be in the same boat one day, so work on getting a relationship with her and be nice.
2006-07-23 20:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by gw_subscribe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost back off on your step-mom. She might know that you hate her and as a result she feels that you are trying to break her and your dad up. If she makes your dad happy, then step back. When you get to your dad's greet dad like always. Go over to your step-mom and say hello to her. Ask her if you can give her a hug. While you are there, ask her if there is any way you can help with the dinner, laundry (even if it just folding and putting away), cleaning up (picking up your stuff). She might be stressing over all she has to do. You do not have to do all these things, just one or two would be nice. Your dad will notice that you are trying and so will your step-mom. Who knows she may end up being a friend to you.
2006-07-20 21:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but with a user id like the one you have I think I might be on the side of your step-mom. Give her a break, she loves your dad so she can't be all bad. Being a step-mom is not all it is cracked up to be. I know, I have been there. What I am saying is try to look at it from her point of view. Just give her a little kindness and see how she responds. You have nothing to lose and possibly everything to gain!
2006-07-20 21:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Avoid her, but you have already committed yourself that you hate her, so avoidance is out. We can only avoid people whom we don't hate.
2. Ignore her. Yes, why not, since you hate her, try doing that. Agreed that she is sooooo x ooo mean. But is it this mean only to you or is this the opinion of almost all the people around her. Like, um, your dad? See if you find someone who thinks she is less mean., spend a few minutes with that person, (during which time please keep your hatred aside and just listen) and if you are 50% convinced that she is not a total evil, just visit your dad and ignore her.
3. Don't ignore her. True she is mean, so mean. As some others have correctly pointed it out, she still is the woman your dad has married. Your hatred is very understandable. But can we try to simply be with your dad and for few minutes make him know that its okay and that this lady who is so mean is still not hated because of him. Imagine the happiness which will flood your dad's heart. Yes there is no reasoning involved in this case. But since when reasoning can help us make someone happy. In this case your dad.
Good luck in your endeavor:)
2006-07-20 22:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by qualittee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a stepmom myself, I understand. My stepdaughter (just about 10) really doesnt like me either, a few weeks ago she told me that I was meaner than evil! Neither of her parents ever really "parented" her, she did whatever she had to do to get her way, and I am not a push over mom. I have a 12 yr old son that knows that I follow through with what I say. I dont know if your stepmom is like that, you didnt really explain a whole lot, but you do need to respect the fact that its the person that your father loves and that is as far as it needs to go. If you want to talk just contact me and I will talk to you about it from a neutral side.
2006-07-20 23:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by dnmhbk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tolerate her for your fathers sake. I mean it's not like you have to live with her. If your going to see you father, go, and enjoy the time with him. Don't let this lady make you unhappy, eventually it will affect your visits with your father, and that's not fair to him or yourself. If she gets to be too much, then next time invite your father to lunch on a day you know his misses will be busy and cant join you.
2006-07-20 21:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by nflgal42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that must be hard. I do know from experience, about wicked step mothers. But, you have to go. That's your Dad and you just need to grin and bear it. You are the better person and I'm sure your Dad wants you to visit.
2006-07-20 22:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by BronzeSiren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r going there 2 visit , right ? so y not b polite 2 her . u will get good marks fm ur dad . if u hv been polite all along n if something nasty does happens in future n u hv 2 ' fight back ' ur dad will understand dat his present wife sucks .
2006-07-20 21:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she needs to chill and discuss with her the virtues of your yahoo name. I'm sure in time both of you will learn that you share more than you think, like batteries and interchangeable heads.
2006-07-20 21:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by Handy but Perplexed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up, and be nice. Just think of it this way: You love your Dad, right? Well, the best gift you could ever give him would be to get along with his wife.
2006-07-20 21:52:14 · answer #11 · answered by yo_grl28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋