I don't know about this one....
2006-07-20 14:27:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am happy with the answers so far....It is my soon to be mother-in-law who thinks they should and I think they have helped enough and should be getting served
2006-07-20 14:31:21 · update #1
Thank you all for agreeing with that, they will not be serving just to let you know. They were asked to and came to me to see what I wanted and I told them definatly not!
2006-07-20 14:35:12 · update #2
No, that would be tasteless.
Buy a book on wedding etiquette.
2006-07-20 14:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Dave 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately not...after standing around in an uncomfortable evening gown and shoes and sweating like a pig during the ceremony, it's time for your attendants to have a break! And, maybe I'm selfish, but I don't even like serving food at my relatives' weddings. It doesn't allow you to visit! At my cousin's wedding, I was too busy running back and forth to the kitchen keeping the punch bowl filled to enjoy the reception. I don't think she even said "thank you" either!
2006-07-20 14:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by doggiemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your attendants are NOT your slaves..they are there to help you with your wedding...not serve dinner. Your MIL obviously has no grace or taste for that much. Sorry if I sound snotty...but sheesh! Expecting attendants to serve at the rehearsal dinner? I've never of anything more cruel, and insensitive.
2006-07-20 14:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Crazy Bch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO
the dinner is a sort of thank for those in the wedding party. NO way expect them to serve.
At my wedding I had a group of my mother's friends who served graciously . We gave them all a little gift and a card.
2006-07-20 14:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not!!
The reason for a rehearsal dinner is to say thank you to the bridal party for assisting you with your wedding. This is a time for them to relax, and bond together before the big day. They absolutely should NOT be servants at the rehearsal dinner, have it catered, or just pick a nice restaurant.
2006-07-20 16:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Paradise Weddings & Travel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't. You think enough of them to ask that they stand up with you then you ask them to SERVE you and the guests at your reception? If this is a catered event you should also have servers who work for the catering company. I don't think you should ask other friends or family members, they're also there to celebrate your marriage, not to work.
2006-07-20 14:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jill S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! the rehearsal dinner if for you to give thanks to friends and family for helping you with your wedding. You should either have it at a restaurant where they can be served or make it a buffet affair. And don't forget it is customary for the bride and groom to give their attendants a small token of appreciation.
2006-07-20 14:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serve? As in like waitresses? They are doing you a favor by being attendants, it costs them a lot of time and money, and you want them to WAIT on you, to? Good luck, Princess.
2006-07-20 14:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so because they are 'honored attendants',NOT,your servants. Either hire people or ask some relatives if they would be willing to do you the "big favor" of helping you.
2006-07-20 14:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they want to, but I would use family members not involved in the wedding. That way, they feel like they are helping too.
2006-07-20 14:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the reason that these people are chosen to be in your court is to attend to the bride not the guest. you chose these people to be in your wedding because you trust them and they are your support group through out the whole thing. if you ask them to be servants, i think you might offend someone.
2006-07-20 14:35:02 · answer #11 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋