i used to date this guy for 31/2 months and i care alot about him. everything was going great and one day he wanted to slow down and i used the L word too much. then he sent me a text one day sayin that he wanted to be single for right now. and asked me if i was seeing someone i told him i was and then i got my # changed b/c he told me he was seeing someone also so i thought he moved on. and he was still texting me while with her. so i called him up a couple days ago and said i dont want u and i dont need u in my life i am better off with out u. and i hung up before he could say anything. and today i get online and he sent me a offline message saying he wanted to talk to me what is going on? does he still want me in his life? i am trying to move on but if it is sucha problem why wont he let me go? this is what he wanted and i gave him that but y wont he let it go??? please help!!!
2006-07-20 14:21:55 · 17 answers · asked by sexy_catwoman23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Truly if it's not what to you want then you've said your piece to him and you don't have to say anymore. Silence is a killer weapon so when you don't respond, even if he continually does for a little bit, he will get the message. Go in peace. Good luck. :)
2006-07-20 14:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by thoughtsofastranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wanted to break up with you not the other way around. Sometimes people can't accept that they are not in control of a relationship. He probably wants you to keep calling him so he can tell his new girlfriend and friends that you are chasing him. Ignore him and hopefully he will go away. ( I would have panicked if someone kept saying i love you after only 3 1/2 months too.)
2006-07-20 14:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are over acting,,, only in the phone call though. Don't call and say something like that without giving someone a chance to respond, That's childish, (but we've all been there).
No one knows what he wants but it's very common for people to do what he's doing for egotistical reasons. People LOVE it when ex's still have feelings for them>> IT's the ultimate compliment, unless they're a psycho! So just be an adult and talk to him and see what he has to say. Be clear on what you want and express it back to him in a nice, calm way and be on your way. :)
2006-07-20 14:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're the one who messed up this whole relationship. you don't tell someone you love them when you've only been together for 3 months, no wonder he left you! and you are the one who called him, he didn't call you. i assuming that he doesn't want you in his life. he only messaged you because calling someone and ranting is a random thing to do. he probably just wanted to see if you were alright. get over yourself, he's with someone else.
2006-07-20 14:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, maybe he wants to just be friends and likes you as a person but doesnt think that you qualify for that person that will fulfill his needs for a really serious relationships.. atleast if he wants one.. some guys like myself like to keep they're ex's friends because you can still talk to them about anything because you know alot about them and earned their trust
2006-07-20 14:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by mariusz360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you took things WAY too fast. Dating for three and a half months and you already said Love? That's retarded.
2006-07-20 14:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by arya_littlefinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has moved on then he just wants you as a friend some people like keeping exs as friends.. but i dont think he is trying to get back with you
2006-07-20 14:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by jackie84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. You deserve better. Go get 'em! Good Luck!
2006-07-20 14:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by sisterof_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still wants you so it's important that you ignore him from now on. Don't bother talking to him or trying to justify yourself.
2006-07-20 14:25:02 · answer #9 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love is hard to distinguish between the range of emotions we feel. move the relationship to email if you can
2006-07-20 14:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by AntiDisEstablishmentTarianism 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋