My wife and I have just moved across Canada and are staying with friends. We are having a little vacation from work for about a month. I'm using the time to relax but whenever I try to sit down my wife has some menial chore for me. I don't mind helping but now we're kind of locked into a battle. If I say no to her she flies off the handle. Should I help her with every tiny thing or should she be more independant?
2006-07-20 14:11:04 · 6 answers · asked by ? 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
this is not acceptable it s not fair... she sounds unorganised and a bit demanding
it is not worth fighting about it though
she obviously wants you to help out
tell her in advance that you want to do "whatever" at such and such a time and if she needs hlp with anything to let you know and you will spend however long helping her
once she knows you are dedicating time to helping her she should become less demanding
more often than not they want you to innitiate the helping out instead of her asking all the time
2006-07-20 14:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should take her somewhere nice and talk with her in a positive way and she will understand. Don't say "you do this and that" say it more like "I feel tired and want to relax, if i have a little notice i wouldn't mind doing things for you." Make it about how you feel and not how she makes you feel. She also may need a little more romantic attention
2006-07-20 21:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she does not want you relax. Ask for a list and after your done it is your own time to read nap TV or what ever. Leave and go have coffee and the paper at a diner if need be. But get some time to yourself.
2006-07-20 21:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mommytothreein20months 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should definitely learn the meaning of the word compromise - you each have to give a little in order to make things work - it's what relationships are all about!
2006-07-20 21:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by Angelina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you are allowed to relax.
don't help her but at least don't ask her to do things for you; like bring you water, serve you food, prepare your clothes, etc.
do the things yourself and tell her to do the same.
you can't help some kind of nagging when you're married and spending more time together than usual.
2006-07-20 22:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Nia24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hep her some, negotiate with her. meet half way. let her know she is on vacation too and to chill!
2006-07-20 21:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by lulucakes32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋