2yr old out of control need help?

Question

My son now 2 has an anger problem I can't control. He hits kicks thows everything.
he punches his sisters 7 & 8 non stop. We've tried time out (still trying) but he out last me. He's gone 1 hr 25 min running out of his time out spot.Everytime I put him back he comes out kicking and screaming.
We have tried spanking and now he asks to be spanked. He likes it no kidding.
I'm at a major lost as my other 2 never acted this way.
Daycares will no longer aloow him in as he is very mean to the others his age. He is bigger than most at 34pds and 36 inches tall. He bullies anyone he can.

I have been through the terible 2's before, but I have never seen another so nasty..
I have asked the Dr and they tell me "I don't know what to tell you"! Anyone else got a nasty 2yr old that is violent?
He has cracked his 8 yr old sisters head open with a car, Hit is 7 yr old sister with a fly swatter so hard he left welps for 2 days. Bitten his daddy and brought blood.
Anyone please help me!

Answer 1

do you realize you have let a TWO YEAR OLD take over your household. you are a hostage in your own home due to a TWO YEAR OLD. provided he is not mentally handicapped, he did not come programmed that way he has learned to act like that. your reinforcement is askew. you may need professional help. Hell, try Dr Phil...what can it hurt. get him straight now or you may be in for a long hard ride. it will tear your family to pieces if you do not tame him soon.
it just blows my mind that more and more parents cannot handle toddlers. where i am from people call the police to get assistance for an unruly 6-9 year old on a regular basis. i personally would be too embarrassed to let anyone know i was that useless of a parent.
i wish you the best...good luck!

Answer 2

Here in SC we have a thing called babynet they are a testing service for children under the age of three. I think that all states may have a similar program but they test for almost every single thing possible to man. Believe it or not sometimes behavior problems can be associated with inner hear or hearing problems, I know it sounds weird but I know what I am talking about. Also he may need consistency. Do not flip flop with punishments, spanking him all the time will only make him immune, which obivously has already happened. Children with behavior problems are very sensory oriented so when he acts up don't use time ou (it never works) try redirecting which is similar to time out except you are not necessarily calling it that. Just remove him from the situation. It's tough trust me I have been their 10x's over, but most importantly please don't give up. It's gonna get worse before it gets better. Many parents don't like to test their children but I would recommend it.

Answer 3

My first suggestion is to call in Nanny 911 or Super Nanny or get the Nanny 911 book from the Library. They had a child like what you described on one of these shows and you have to be willing to go the distance with the time out spot and keep putting him back no matter how long it takes. No more spanking (since it obviously doesn't stop him). Take away privileges - does he do something that he really likes ie playgrounds, swings, swimming, etc. If so, when he misbehaves take this privilege away from him. When dad gets home, take the sisters and make sure he knows where they are going. Make a chart for all the children. Let them put stickers on the poster for everything good they do throughout the day. Take away stickers. When they get so many they get a prize - whether it be choosing the movie for the night, etc. Make it something that he would want to do. What is his motivator? My oldest girl will do anything for going to the park, swimming, YMCA. She is a gem at helping me. My middle girl's motivator is praise. She likes to be hugged, high-fived, etc. when she does something she doesn't like. When I tell her how disapppinted I am with her she will cry. She also goes to "her" corner when she does something and I tell her to go there. My youngest, loves to be read to. That is her motivator. But I would look for that book. If you can search several libraries for this book, one might have it and you could request it and they will pull it for you and then all you have to do is go in and get it.

Answer 4

First of all, I am so sorry you are going through this.
Maybe try, taking all his toys, and tv and stuff out of him room if he has those.. and see if that will make him more calmer. Maybe take him to a psychologist (that specializes in childrens behaviors and see if that person could tell you something).
Or call Dr. Phill or Super Nanny and see what they can do... Your son might be doing all this because he is angry at something or not getting enough attention from you and your husband. Maybe get him involved in a sport or recreational fun. I know he is 2 but still.
Anyways, good luck and I hope you figure out something soon and why he is acting like this. Again i will hope for the best for you and i hope he out grows this soon.

Answer 5

Something is very wrong, this is not typical 2 year old behavior. My neighbor's son was like this when he was 2-3 years old. he was diagnosed with ADHD. He's 22 now, off of meds, and is working and doing well, with a sweet personality. Call the hospital and ask them to refer you to a specialist. Have him evaluated, don't give up. This isn't good for him or your other children. Good luck, honey.

Answer 6

ok in the initiating you may want to commence IGNORING his undesirable habit except that is risky. He needs to maintain in mind that this habit is only no longer tolerated or perhaps acknowledged. i'm having a similar problems with my infant, and this has been operating. in case you're saying some thing - you want to point IT. do no longer supply in. do no longer compromise till his habit improves. I had to enable my husband so countless the discipline because i'm a softy. and also you may want to get him examined for upload if this does no longer settle on some in a year or 2. Take a deep breath and funky down. do no longer enable him win. you're the mummy and also you're in cost!! do no longer enable him disrupt the kinfolk elementary. If favor be, placed him in a secure position the position he can no longer damage himself or others and enable him take a even as to himself. do no longer well known him till he's calmer. Then convenience him even as he has chilled out somewhat. carry close in there.

Answer 7

I feel for you sis. The comment here that said something like asking for help doesnt mean you are an inefficient parent. Go with what your instincts are telling you.

You think need help? Get it. You are lucky in the USA coz there are organizations that offer free testing. Here in the Philippines it is expensive to test a child.

Oh and fire your pediatrician.

Answer 8

Mama, you need professional help. And I'm not talking Super Nanny--get a counselor and ask for professional parenting help. Your doctor needs to get a life, because a doctor worth his salt would have provided you with more advice (Iook for a new pediatrician!).

There are a couple of books that may help in the meantime (Love and Logic, by Foster Kline and Jim Fay and Kids Are Worth It, by Barbara Colorusso), but unless you are supermom, you won't get through this alone. Please, please, get help, and don't feel that's a failure--the best parents know when to get help. You'll be doing yourself and your family a favor in the long run.

Best of luck.

Answer 9

Try the Quiet Room method.


If you have a spare room (Or a small room that is quite boring), take down EVERYTHING interesting, take out all the furnature except for a small chair or a stool. (I would make sure it's secured to the floor, or tied down).


When he gets bad, take him into the room and lock the door.


Do NOT let him out regardless how loud he howles, screams and pounds.



He may be two, but he is thinks like he's older than he thinks he is. Treat him like this. When he sees how "Big boys" are punished, he's not going to like it.

Answer 10

That boy needs a reality check. Let him know you're in charge. Start taking stuff that he likes away from him. It is common for boy's to be a little more aggressive than girls. If this doesn't work get him tested for ADHD and start a therapy for him. PLZ try everything else b4 u start to give him chill pills i.e Rydolin?spelling