I am the oldest sibling in my family.
I go to college and only visit on some weekends, the summer, and at Christmas time.
I have been home all summer, but will be moving into my own apartment in a week.
I feel/know that some of my siblings' bad behavior is my fault, which is why I feel I should do something to change it.
2006-07-20 14:00:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just wanted to add that I don't think all their misbehavior is my fault. I just know I contributed to it some. Also, the talking thing doesn't work, because they rarely listen to what I have to say, unless it's "Wanna play on my phone?" or "I got you a present."
2006-07-20 14:36:02 · update #1
You turned out O.K., didn't you? give them the chance that you had. If they follow your lead this far.............well?
2006-07-20 14:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them stories - real or not real - about friends of yours who behaved in the way you would like your siblings not to do.. Keep it light, though, and don't point out the moral.
Siblings are a blessing and a curse to each other. So you probably have done the best you can, and you are still trying to help. But some people, even people in your family, will never be what you think they ought,. Don't blame yourself, but do use your position to make things better.
2006-07-20 14:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Delora Gloria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being a good example. Show your brother & sister how to behave by being well behaved, well mannered, mature & responsible.
Your siblings bad behavior is not your fault. Everyone is responsible for their own behavior. Your parents are responsible for teaching your siblings good behavior, but you can reinforce it by setting a good example.
2006-07-20 14:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why their behavior is your fault...
The best way is to talk to them and tell them "stories" of people you saw who acted in bad ways but then changed and felt better for it.
That way, you're not directly attacking your siblings and they won't be resentful. Instead, they'll take the examples to heart.
2006-07-20 14:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by FERNANDO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you think the behaviour is your fault but if you want to help you can talk about your own experiences with doing that behavior and straighten up your own act.
2006-07-20 14:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by dixycup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words...Did they see you be bad? If they seen you get away with things, they're going to try harder to get away with more than you did. The only thing you can do is just do good, let them see that.
2006-07-20 14:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they'll see how you act and want to change their ways.. you are the oldest and you do lead by example...
2006-07-20 14:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should lay of that's your parents job to teach them. Let them enjoy life as a teen. Not all teens are perfect little adults.
2006-07-20 14:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice what you preach. They learn from watching you. You can't take all the blame though. They do have minds of thier own.
2006-07-20 14:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by wishorstish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way to make children listen to you is to make them feel that you are proud of then instead of yelling at them . for ex. dont say you cannt have a snack. say . i want you to not be cranky and if you eat that sweet snack it will make you cranky then we cannt have fun togeather.
2006-07-20 14:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by marleneshieldsc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is their behavior your fault? Where are your parents?
2006-07-20 14:03:02 · answer #11 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋