I have been single for many years, not great looking or anything that I know! Have very little money but want to find a woman that I could enjoy and she me. What am I doing wrong if anything? I try the datelines to the bar's but to be honest things don't work for me. 53 yr old and still trying and will not give up regardless but there must be something that will help.
2006-07-20 13:58:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing more off putting than a guy who so desperate he appears overly grateful that you've even bothered to speak to him.
Stop looking and start focusing on what you really have to offer. Make the best out of your appearance. Are you caring, considerate, reliable, honest, able to hold down a job? And what have you done that proves this? Have some confidence that you are a great person with or without a partner and don't try to guess what a women is looking for.
We all like different things in a man. Men have wondered why I, as a relatively good-looking blonde 25 year old don't go for looks, money or status but I like confidence, quirkiness and compassion in men. Yhere will be someone out there looking for what you're offering you just need to offer it.
I agree with the guy before don't offer women your weaknesses, give them your strengths, and it always better to show rather than tell. Just make sure you get out every day and take every opportunity to talk to women, even ones you're not attracted to or are outside your age group. Supermarkets, libraries, work, the park, wherever.
If you find someone don't rush it, play a little cool, start as friends, as real friends (don't just see it to the prelude to a deep and meaningful relationship) and just relax and enjoy the ride.
Hate to say it but you've probably been frightening women away with you're desperation but I really hope it all works out for you.
2006-07-20 14:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by poppyfields 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well for starters STOP with the O woe's is Me CRAP. Don't High light your bad points. Make the MOST of your good ones. NoBody wants a AWWW Poor me person. Avoid the Bars. Keep working the datelines but whatever you do be POSITIVE more self confident. Stop looking at bad dates ect as Failures turn them into Learning experience. Now go out and find that girl shes been waiting as long as you have its about time the two of you meet.
2006-07-20 14:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE YOU!, I know it sounds cheesy... but if you focus more on growing your OWN life, you will attract other people. Take classes and learn knew things, join sports teams or hobby groups, go on singles travel groups, volunteer in your comunity. When you fill your life up with things to make you a better person, you will meet people who respect you for that, and in the meantime, you won't notice as much how lonely you are!!
2006-07-20 14:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're 53 and have no money that's why. Should have saved up all those years and maybe you could have gotten a trophy wife at least. Now you're going to have to settle with whomever will want you.
2006-07-20 14:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by Chris from West LA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest.. go to places you like to go.. and try to meet somebody there because they might like that place to and bam one shared interest.. when you talk to a girl (and since your 53 no offense but she might have kids) talk about her past relationships her hobbies what she does on the weekends and once you find all that out u ask her for a type of date that coincides with her interests..even though you may not like it.. but she will kno that you are willing to try new things and thats a big plus..
pspsps--> be spontaneous.. ask her out for coffee if you get spark and end up doing something else thats more enjoying
2006-07-20 14:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by mariusz360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As they say in my business- Your research is showing. Cool it, man. A desperate guy is a no no. Enjoy the moment and let whatever happens, happen. Mix.
2006-07-20 14:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask around with your buddies...surely some of them know some singles out there waiting for someone just like you!
2006-07-20 14:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are old and broke. Could either of those things be the problem?
Keep on keepin' on dude. I'm sure you will find someone eventually.
2006-07-20 14:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try something like YahooPersonals... Match.com or eharmony. They specialize in helpin you find "the one"...
2006-07-20 14:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by *Shayla* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd f*ck ya, then again I like being screwed by animals
2006-07-20 14:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by nee_lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋