For women only... would you date a guy who has been with quite a few women?

Question

I am a pretty decent guy. I am educated (MBA), I have a career (Financial Analyst), young (25), not that bad looking (I was just rated a 7, 9 if you are drunk) and somewhat well traveled (England, Germany, France). Since I know that today's world in filled with jerks and weirdos, I consider myself not that bad of a catch. However, I have been with quite a few women (between 40 and 45 no joke). I am now in a stage of my life where I would like to settle down in a serious relationship. However when I meet someone and start talking about our past... they think I am lying or they think I just want sex from them either way I am not taken as boyfriend material.
Therefore would you date someone like me, or should I just keep my mouth shut when they ask how many women I have been with?

By the way I am very much into safe sex... I am constantly getting tested for STD's. In fact I just got my results last week and I am as clean as it gets.

Answer 1

ya why not i mean who cares it is not like that is going to affect your relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Well Eric, I am glad you have decided you want a serious relationship. I think girls just feel intimidated when they hear you have been with so many women. For me I know if you were my boyfriend I would be worried about the bedroom; you know wondering if you are comparing me to all those other girls you were with and this would make me feel insecure. I would be worried about whether or not I was pleasing you. Do not let the girl know early on in the relationship how many women you have been with. Don't lie; if the subject comes up just tell her it is not important.The thing you need to do is make sure the girl you are with knows how special she is to you. Make her feel like you would want no one else. If a girl feels secure in a relationship her insecurities will fade away and the number of women you slept with will not be an issue. Congrats on wanting a "real" relationship!

Answer 3

Mr Pretty Decent Guy - Would I be correct in assuming you think you are God's gift to women. And cannot not fathom why these little female creatures are not taking you seriously. You are not yet ready to be serious. You need to mature from the boasting aspect of your conquessses.
When you are asked about your past conquesses..Could you not simply say..... "I am no virgin. Anyway, that's in the past.
I am with you now. I don't want to know how many you have been with if any. I am interested in our relationship". How about that for a woman to feel special. Try this one. Good luck.

Answer 4

People make misstakes and bad decisons. As long as you were safe and get tested for STDs regularly- there is nothing to worry about. If a girl cant respect you for who you are FORGET HER!!! I would avoid telling someone too soon in the relationship, if in the first few dates someone needs to know how many girls you have been with then its not headed down a path to long-term commitment anyways. Its a persoanl decision and you should wait until you can trust someone before telling them the truth. But beware- what will you say if your girl says shes been with 40 guys???
Ignore the ignorant bitches who called you a whore. I know men who have been with many more women than you!

Answer 5

honesty is very important in a relationship.. some women don't like that you were with so many.. but another way of looking at it is to see it as a greater experience reguarding women. that's not a small number.. and since you seem smart i would say you'd know how to make and keep your girl happy... don't lie and don't just ignore them when they ask.. everyone wants an honest person for a partner. but heck yea i would totally date you.. learn a trick or two lol.. keep smiling and don't give up hope if you're a nice guy.. you'll find the one for you sometime just live your life and enjoy it.

Answer 6

I think you have to be honest about that if someone asks. How can you ever have a trusting relationship if someone lies to you?

I think this is important because of all the STD's - you might be the greatest catch in the world - but I would never want to be with someone that had been with that many people...and I would leave immediately if I found out they had lied about how many they had been with.

Man whore = not attractive - no matter how physically and intellectually attractive they are (why I have so many hot guy FRIENDS).

Answer 7

First I wouldn't mind being with a guy that had a long list before me if I knew that he loved and wanted to be serious about me and trust and communications was there no problem what is history is history now if you brag about and tell people over and over again then I would just consider you a brag My ex was well off he was a stockbroker doing really good for himself but bragged about to much women love men that are simple and have a good personality also if you do have alot of money don't tell them cause then you get those gold diggers I left cause to me money is not everything and I prefer lover over money Soo GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

First off, go to a doctor, get some blood tests and then go again in 6 months, you have been way to 'busy' and you should be concerned with your health.

In the meantime, why don't you have a non-sexual relationship with someone. Yes that is possible. Find someone you love and care about, and treat her with respect. Let her know you want a serious relationship and you are willing to let the relationship grow into a stable one. Let her know that sex is something that you want in a relationship where there is real love.

And let your past stay in your past. I have been with my SO for about 11 years now, we did not have sex for the 1st year in our relationship. He has never asked me about my past and I have never asked him. We both know we both have a past and there is nothing we can do to change it. We are both concerned with the here and now and our tomorrows together. Neither of us have any communicable diseases and we love each other.

Answer 9

When you find the right person, you'll both realize that it doesn't really matter what happened in the past. There are plenty of bed-hoppers in our culture, and some of them do manage to sustain meaningful, functional, long-term relationships. However, since you sound ready to move beyond that stage of your life, I would make sure that you really want to be with someone before you have sex with them. This will prove to any potential girlfriends that you really have changed, and that you're serious about wanting a relationship with her. Good Luck!

Answer 10

People make misstakes and bad decisons. As long as you were safe and get tested for STDs regularly- there is nothing to worry about. If a girl cant respect you for who you are FORGET HER!!! I would avoid telling someone too soon in the relationship, if in the first few dates someone needs to know how many girls you have been with then its not headed down a path to long-term commitment anyways. Its a persoanl decision and you should wait until you can trust someone before telling them the truth. But beware- what will you say if your girl says shes been with 40 guys???

Answer 11

We all have had our share of people we have slept with. I never tell the person I'm dating how people I slept with. I also don't ask them. There past is there past. Hell your 25 and you had to test the waters, a little to much but who's counting. So as long as your clean then I would just lie about it if they really want to know.a number. I know you shouldn't lie but sometimes you just need to. Just keep your story straight. What are they going to do start tracking them all down lol