Have you ever witnessed your mother being beat by your dad? Do you respect her if she puts up with it?

Answer 1

my fiancees mother stayed with a horrible man that beat her, abused her verbally, and did other things that he went to jail for, she stayed with him for her two children, and when they were grown up, she finally divorced him. i dont know how she could have done it, i know i dont have that much strength, but i do admire her for it. she loved her children enough to be abused for 20 years. i respect her, i hate her ex husband, and nothing could ever make me show im respect. my mother was beaten by my father, and most of the time she took it to protect me from his anger. she was sent to the hospital many times with broken bones, bruises, even internal bleeding once. she did all this to keep him from beating on me, and even though she didnt always keep him from it, shell always be my hero for trying. it was years before she could leave him, and we ran for years while he hired investigators to follow us, accused her of hurting me in court, and sent threatening letters. did she deserve it? no. did i? no. do i love her for everything she went through? yes.

Answer 2

I know I have. Most of that happened when I was younger. Now as I've grown older, I can actually speak out about it and even help her and not be a bystander like I was before. Nowadays, it never really happens. I think that is because my dad now really cares for my mom over the 16 years they've been together.

When my mom would get beat, I kind of had this respect for her for being able to put up with it. On the other hand, I felt like she was kind of being weak and letting herself become easily controlled. I was still young and could not really match up with my dad's physical strength nor his anger.

Even though my mom can still recall those painful memories, I can tell that my parents really do love each other. It's probably because of me and my other kajillion siblings I have--as in we're probably what's keeping them together.

Answer 3

no, thank god. And the fact that any woman puts up with it is due to fear and insecurity. Most women in that situation (actually, ALL women) are there because deep down, they feel they deserve it. It stems from deep insecurites that go way back into childhood. If it didn't stem from childhood (either from their mother getting beat or abuse as a child) then as an adult, they would be horrified if anyone laid a hand on them and it would be over in seconds.

For example, I've never attracted that type of man because I exude confidence and any man who beats would know that if they tried that with me, they'd be casterated in a matter of seconds and then hung by their toe nails. So these types of men seek women out who have a low self esteem. It's a self perpetuating cycle that can only be broken with serious counseling or therapy,

Maybe find someone you trust very much to talk to your mom about getting couseling. If she does, all else will fall into place including her self esteem which will allow her to go find a job and not be financially dependent on anyone.

Answer 4

No... I have never witnessed such a thing. In regards to your question about respecting her for putting up with it, you need to understand that your Mother's self esteem is so low that she doesn't leave. She probably feels like she deserves this. She can't help how she feels.

What she needs is help. She needs love and support from you, and if you can get her to a battered women's shelter, they can help her figure things out.

If you're too young to do this, call the police or someone that you trust to help you and your Mom. You can go with her too. I'm pretty sure that all battered women's shelters take kids too. Good luck.... and don't be ashamed of your Mom.

Answer 5

no i have not,
but to respect your mother or not is not the question, that should be asked.

You might ask: what can you do to help your mother if she is beaten by your dad, and what is the problem, and what can i (YOU) a family member do to be supportive, and protective, and help both parents with anger issues,

If you do any research on abuse, you will find that there is no instant answer. only that it usually does not stop by itself,

There are many groups/chats/shelters, articles/hotlines etc to find out what can you do as a family member to avoid, and find solutions for this,

Sometimes the person abused has such low self esteem, they feel llthey deserve it, or caused it, NO ONE MAN OR WOOMAN OR CHILD DESERVES TO BE BEATEN UP.. (IF THE BEATER IS A BULLY, IT WOOULD BE NICE TO HAVE SOMEONE TAKE HIM FOR A RIDE AND BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF HIM) but that does not make either party who is arguing right or wrong,

physical violence does not solve anything, it just hurts, and send us back to the cave man ages..

Last but not least, love and coomfort your mother, call the police if your dad starts beating her, he should be arrested, cool off, and get therapy..

Answer 6

Hun she is your mother, no matter what you still should respect her and love her, if you are living there then you need to get out and get help for you and her, she may not except it at first but if you are not there then you need to still report the abuse and well unfortunatly it is her choice. But she might also feel trapped unable to leave and maybe in some way she feels staying there is her way of protecting you. I know cause i watched my mother get beaten and i went through the same thing. She loves you and will do anything for you even forgive if you report the abuse.

Answer 7

That is a very tricky question.
You should always respect your mother unless you have a very good reason not to.
A mother can have several reasons for not leaving an abusive husband.
I saw these things when i was very young and was grown before i really ever understood.
She can have a very low self esteam,be very scared for her or her childrens safety,or she may not want to take the children away from the father that they love,...even if he does treat her like crap.
A good mother always puts her children first and only wants what makes them happy,...even if she is not.

Answer 8

Respect is something earned through various actions. I can respect someone's work ethic, but loathe their sloppiness at work all in the same minute. Though there are several issues going on that are contributing to your mom's allowance of the abuse, it would be unwise to guess as why she stays. It is perfectly acceptable to respect one's actions 90% of the time and disrespect them the other 10%. I respect my mom's intelligence and, yet, can't stand her unemployment. Your real concern should be for her safety and health. Get help from someone you trust as soon as you can.

Answer 9

I personally didnt witness my mom being beaten by my dad, however, my brother did as a child. I witnessed the verbal and emotional abuse he(dad) threw at her and me.

Honestly? I think my brother and I both initially as children felt our mom was the "underdog" and felt sorry for her and tried to protect her. As we grew into adulthood, I think we both lost some respect for her. It manifested in different ways for my brother and I ..he showed lack of respect towards women in general. I had a general distrust of women. I saw women as "less capable" , even less valuable than men.

If you are dealing with this..no matter your age..I suggest you seek assistance from a school councelor or pastor, etc... in dealing with the aftermath of what you are witnessing. I am still dealing with the effects of my childhood (I am 39). My brother (rest his soul) dealt with the effects and wrestled with his emotions about his childhood until his death of cancer 10 months ago. Seek help.

Best wishes!

Answer 10

yes i have and you respect your mother she's probably putting up with it for you. the person you don't respect is your dad and that's no lie. no woman could do anything in this world so wrong to get beat for it. i would call the cops on him right now. **** that ****.