thers a girl at school that i like and my really hot neighbor. everytime i talk to either of them i get really nervous and i cant stand it cuz i'm a shy boy. when my parents i ask my parents on how to stop being shy they jst say that i shud just go for it and ask one of them out. i'd prefer my neighbor but i pretty much "die" when in a conversation with her.......
how do i resolve my shyness?!
2006-07-20 13:45:51 · 15 answers · asked by Alucard 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't help you with your shyness, the military made me do the sink or swim method, but as for asking out your neighbor, who says you have to open your mouth to ask her? Set up something special for her as a way of asking. Write her a romantic note, set up a scavenger hunt, where at the end, it is a note asking her out, something where you don't have to actually ask her, you let something else do the talking for you. My ex husband asked me out by just inviting me to the movies with him or to softball games and then emailing me a poem he had written about me. I still have it, after five years of marraige and two years of splitsville, I never got rid of it because it was so sweet the way he asked me out. It was more meaningful than a simple, wanna go out. Boring.
2006-07-20 13:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by sweets 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby steps. Eventually you will grow more comfortable with yourself, and thus more comfortable with others. Generally, shyness is based on a lack of comfort with one's self rather than the thought that others are "better than you" or the fact that a girl is "really hot". From the sounds of things, you're young and still have plenty of life ahead of you.
Now, ask yourself this: When you are talking to your hot neighbour, how does she seem to react to you? Does she remain interested all the time? Smile, laugh, anything like that? If you can answer yes to these questions, then I would say you are probably safe enough to ask her out. If your answer is no, then maybe you should consider another option.
Aside from that, you could try calling her on the phone. Maybe you can be more comfortable over the phone than in person. Give that a shot, see how a conversation goes that way and work up to a date.
You could try the old note in the mailbox thing as well. Just be honest with her if you do this and make sure you let her know that you like her but get a bit uncomfortable around her because you are shy. If you need some advie for this, message me via yahoo and I'll see what I can do for you. If I'm offline, just leave a message on messenger and I'll reply when I see it. I remember what it was like to be a shy boy, so I know how hard it can be for you.
Keep in mind, sometimes girls like the shy, quiet boys.
2006-07-20 20:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by The Doctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stop being shy. She probably already knows that you like her, because that kind of shyness is a sign of love. Just start off talking a lot and then when you get the hang of it, ask her out.
2006-07-20 20:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by sensinger411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I do, get accessories (watch, sunglasses, shirt) that are conversation pieces or that you will get a compliment on. Get yourself some good compliments. That always helps self esteem.
PS neighbors are a tough gig. You see easchother all the time if **** goes wrong, POW theres your neighbor everyday to see. Good luck though
2006-07-20 20:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are right. . . the best way to get over it is to just do it. You will be nervous at first, but it will get easier to talk to her once the conversation starts rolling. You could start by doing something small that you were once shy about to build your confidence.
Good Luck! :)
2006-07-20 20:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to get in the mindset of not caring. If you don't care about the situation at hand it will be a lot eaisier for you. I used to have problems with shyness when I was younger, you will grow out of it eventually. If all else fails, try prozac.
2006-07-20 20:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your right hand and reach down between your front pockets, if you don't feel an "edge" - you are finished.
However, if for any reason you do - ask them both out (on a different day of course). This way even if you're a loser, you double your chances. uhm
2006-07-20 20:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine a lifetime never knowing what might have happened if you talked to either one of them. then say -F- it and go for it. be a secret admirer for a minute if it makes you feel better, that way you have the upper hand you can observe how they react to it. Plus ladies love that sweet stuff.
2006-07-20 20:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by Bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you just gotta talk to them, Even if its a few words or sentences that you say to them. You gotta start somewhere. Just keep it up and you will become more comfortable. Try to get them to laugh. That always eases up tension. You Can Do It!!! ;)
2006-07-20 20:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, ur parents are right, but i totally understand that feeling. its really hard for me to talk to certain guys, i usually make a fool out of myself. its really sad. but, if u dont want to ask her out just yet, just try talking to her more, and when bu do, make sure u guys are sitting
2006-07-20 20:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by sesso*E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋