I am in DEEP love with my ex and he has cheated on her 3 times with me and they dont talk for days at a time but he always calls me so can anyone help me?HOw do i get him to leave her or her to leave him?
2006-07-20 13:42:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Manipulation is never OK. It amounts to playing God. And there is no strategy guaranteed to produce the effect of his breaking up with her.
That having been said, if you guys were together sexually before, you should never have broken up in the first place. Instead, you should have decided to make each other top priority in your lives - even higher than Mom and Dad - and made a permanent, exclusive commitment to each other. And that, before getting involved sexually.
You can see for yourself in the way the situation has turned out, in the unwanted complications that have happened, that what I am saying is true. Otherwise you would no doubt not be asking this question.
He is presently in a situation where regardless of which of you he chooses, he is going to have to deal with his bondage to the other of you. And that is humanly impossible. It can only be done with God's help.
He needs to stop sleeping with anyone and discuss the matter with God, put it behind him and start over again with a new life that God wants to and will give him if he asks.
And you, likewise, need to stop sleeping with him (or anyone else for that matter) or suggesting sleeping together (if you have done that), and next time he calls, say something like this to him:
'You know, I've been doing some thinking. What we did created a bond between us which we can't "just break". And I mean, we wouldn't be still sleeping together from time to time if that weren't the case.
'In other words, what should have happened with us is, we should have made that decision to make each other the top priority and make a permanent commitment before we ever got involved that way. This other relationship you have now in principle should never have happened.
'But the fact is that it did. So, I realize that you have created a bond with this other girl too. And the thing is, that these bonds are both so close that in principle nothing should be allowed to interfere with them.
'The bottom line is, I think you need to choose one of us and make that permanent commitment with that one you have chosen. Let me state up front that I am willing to do that with you if that is what you choose.
'And regardless of which one you choose, you need to get God's help in breaking the bond with the other person. If we end up together, I am also willing to seek God together to put the past behind us and start over again.'
May God bless you both and help you to do the right thing, whatever it is.
2006-07-20 13:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything... You could.. but think about how selfish that would be?
Your ex will come around when he wants you back.. Until then, stay out of it.
This reminds me of one of those soap operas' I never watch... why? Because its full of drama.
Last thing I want is drama.
Just leave it alone.. Fighting over guys is stupid.. same for fighting over women. The truth of the matter is..this is why friends with benefits aren't a great idea.. They cause confusion and someone always gets hurt.
I say leave it alone...and go read a book.. Get smart, and invent something useful... Get rich, and get all the men you want. Your man will come crawling back to you then.. But, it'll be too late..
The sad part about that.. is he won't care, and he'll go right back to ****** his *****.. along with another 3 more...
2006-07-20 14:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by stealth_n700ms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He always calls you because he knows that you will always
do him when he calls. If he was in DEEP love with you, then
you wouldn't even be having to ask this question.
In my opinion, you should save yourself this agony and just
cut him out of your life and MOVE ON. If you don't, then you will
always just be the booty call girl!
2006-07-20 14:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by Crosscheck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-20 13:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't he come back to you?? If he won't break up with his girl to come back to you know (but will call you for a bootiecall) Would he come back to you if you broke them up?? Is he just using you?That is a question you need to answer first before you decide to try to get him back.....good luck.
2006-07-20 13:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with him if he's cheating on her. If he cheats on her, he'll cheat on you. Leave him alone and move on with your life.
2006-07-20 13:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u must be trippin', u had ur chance. Is over get a life!
2006-07-20 13:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quite complicated affairs i suppose,settle it once and for all to ease everybody pains & sufferings.
2006-07-20 13:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duh. LIE. or have one of his friends lie pay them to lie, tell him that u seen her somwhere wit another boy kissing him. How else would u do it. Or have one of your friends call her and say that she slept with him she'll leave him then.
2006-07-20 13:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋