but with my no self esteem, and high levels of anxiety, panic attacks, inner chaos, racing thoughts, anger, and plus i get tongue tied alot and clam up and struggle for things to say? she seems to like me, we had a laugh tonight about 80's music, but im scared i might mess it all up with my social awkwardness and get rejected
2006-07-20 13:30:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
we had a laugh on the phone. rejection is such a painful thing, now ive found someone i dont wanna go back to being solitaire, alone
2006-07-20 13:32:29 · update #1
Relax. If you are alive and interact with people, some will invariably reject you. It is OK to be rejected. Learn from your mistakes, let go of what you can't control (such as when the other person is a jerk), and keep trying.
Also, it takes two people to converse. If the other person doesn't do their part, it is not your job to fill the the silence! Be comfortable with silence. Let the other person carry the conversation for a bit. Or, find someone who is comfortable with silence.
Sometimes, "high levels of anxiety, panic attacks, inner chaos, racing thoughts, anger, and plus i get tongue tied alot and clam up and struggle for things to say" is just the way we humans are--sometimes.
Find a good mentor and talk to him about it! Try your pastor, rabbi, or imam.
2006-07-20 13:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by BlahBlahBlah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mind on the good times that you already shared.....keep going ..... share from your heart, say "whew, I feel nervous; how are you feeling?" If she says "why are you nervous?" just say "I like you; I don't want to blow our friendship."
Go slow with a woman; have patience.
Talking about emotions is good. It's real; if you try to be too cool, you won't make connection... Spend small amounts of time together....don't be afraid to say. "I've got to go now..." if you're mood gets too nervous....
She won't be as critical of you as YOU are...cut yourself some slack...
You can practice with a friend or someone you trust or with a pet...just practicing talking.
Hang in there & notice things around you; say : "wow, look at that bird, or sunset, or whatever...What do you think of that?"
People love it if you care about and ASK about their opinions....
it shows you care about what they think....
YOU CAN DO IT....
your goal is just to spend time with her so you can share experiences...
dont take ANY drugs, alcohol, cigarettes...
that will mess it up.
2006-07-20 13:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by bjoybead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe see someone or tell your family doctor about it. I am sure she likes you otherwise she wouldn't let you go to her house. If you can't get yourself to relax see about some anti anxiety medication. Or you could just drink (if you are old enough and you promise not to drive). Be yourself. Sometime stammering is cute because then she knows you think she is hot. You should tell her that.
2006-07-20 13:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by reesecup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant be yourself than you letting those feelings lead you. If you like the girl make an effort. Life is too short dude.
2006-07-20 13:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax and be yourself..apparently she already finds you funny and enjoys you. Your half way there just do as you have been doing you'll do just fine....have a great time...80's music to cool..
2006-07-20 13:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing ventured, nothing gain...just go and enjoy yourself...just be freinds and enjoy the '80s music.
2006-07-20 13:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Shaula 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does cream cheese actual are available in buckets? If it does then you definately understand my answer! i have always had to satisfy someone who may lick cream cheese off of me and who i ought to lick cream cheese off of...
2016-12-02 00:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by ohren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you do some interesting things before Sunday...that way you've got something else to talk about...
2006-07-20 13:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go- Have fun- She must like you just how you are.
2006-07-20 13:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just smoke before you go
2006-07-20 13:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by oxmariah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋