How do you know what you feel is real love? how do you know that person is the one?

Question

Is it natural to have doubts about the person, that you feel you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Answer 1

The most important thing is not if you're attracted physically, but having a connection, that kind of special connection you sometimes feel ... that mysterious compelling click that takes place right there .... where you really feel so warm, safe and comfortable and it just lets you know this person is going to be so right for you in so many ways and you just slide into that sense of having known them for ever as if is was meant to happen, and as if you've always known them, maybe to the point where you picture this person so big and bright in that special place in your mind.

You don't even know why you just have to go deep inside and find all those values that are so important to you but you just naturally link them up with this person such that you find yourself beginning to look through the eyes of attraction ... cause I find when you look through the eyes of attraction, look through the eyes of desire, that's when you can make that connection and really feel that growing bond growing more and more as you begin to imagine being with this person, in that special way that two people can feel so wonderful.

And as you feel that passion growing more and more maybe to a point where you feel yourself just letting go completely as you allow this person to come deep inside releasing all those feelings that have been building and building up inside, you just want to release them in a flood and I find when you do that now. with me I find you just feel so enchanted like you are now under a love spell cast upon you such that you can't control yourself and just find yourself going wild with it, and feeling so powerful a desire for this person where you feel so warm inside, and ready for them to come deep inside you, that you imagine: "mmmm how wonderful it will feel you and me together".

This is a lasting feeling, and if you don't feel it anymore, even when you have known that person for a while and got attached to his plus and cons, probably that guy is not the one...

Answer 2

This is not an easy one to answer and i will do my best. It is not easy to know if the person you are with is the right one as people do change. It all depends on your definition of Real love as no two people see ( Real Love ) as the same thing.

Base on my experience i will say this. Have realistic goals as to what you want in a relationship, and what you are prepared to give in return to the one you love; and make sure your partner understands this.

Lay your cards on the table with your partner and have a ( Prepare for Worse and Hope for the Best Policy). We can't know for sure if the person we love is the real one and it is best to be prudent and look for signs that raise a Red Flag and move from there.

I hope this helps !

Answer 3

You know I think that everyone with a head on their shoulders has got to have some idea of what they’re looking for in a relationship.

Maybe you’ve met guys in the past where you come home from the date or get off the phone and you’re saying ‘Well he seems to have a lot of this, but I don’t know if he’s got enough of that’ or ‘Yeah he has a lot of what I look for but there’s just this one thing about him I don’t like’, and while it might seem natural to evaluate someone like that sometimes, I never do it - at least not with someone I’m really interested in.

Haven’t you ever met a guy who you were just so attracted to everything about him, you could just feel how he satisfied all of your values, and afterwards you weren’t picking him apart with all those questions, you were just imagining everything that would happen the next time you were with him? - A guy where you knew he had something to offer and you would do whatever to be sure it was offered - to you?

You see that’s the kind of person I’m looking for - It’s like, what if you maybe started off meeting this person and you still had that ruler handy, that one you use in your mind to measure guys, ready to measure if he had enough of this or that, but then, as you talked to him longer and as the time passed you were just having so much fun, it’s as if you just started instead to pay attention to those gut intuitions that just said overwhelmingly ‘You want this guy, you want this guy, you want him bad!’

And instead of wasting your attention on measuring, you just felt that growing compulsion building, and now it’s just like all those values you look for just blend together and you see right then that he had what you really value, and you stop your measuring because this guy’s longer than your ruler...

With me, that’s the kind of excitement I look for in a relationship and when the excitement is there, that’s when you feel absolutely compelled to just go for it now.

Answer 4

when you are in love with someone you always think about that person you care about them so much. you feel like you are in heaven. some people might say its infatuation but you know you are in love when you see him/her you want to be with them or tell them how much you love him/her. you will drop everything in a sec if they need you. you will just know that the person is right for you specially when you are holding each other and looking into each other's eyes that's when you know that nothing else matters. and yes sometimes is natural to have doubts but you shouldnt worry specially since your heart will let you know exactly what to do and what you should feel. love is gonna prevail if its meant to be