He always calls me really late (1,2, & 3) in the morning. This is either after he gets off work or after he's been to the club, or when he is done chillin wit his homeboys. Is he just a busy person or does he put me as last on his list? Like if he has nothing to do then he calls me?
2006-07-20 13:04:44 · 14 answers · asked by judyju2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
judy, is this the man or type of man you want to be married to???? if every thing else is good with him and no other redflags then you can control it. simply talk with him (communication is a must in any relationship) inform him what you think is the latest someone should call ( our mom/dad always said 9 for a reason) and would be a perfect time, any how tell him after that youll turn the ringer off although it may drive you crazy, do it . if you have any chance of controlling his bad behavior you must say what you mean and stick to it i will be willing to bet either you will lose him or he'll change and if your affraid to loose him think of this if he wont change that little thing for you then he isnt a man in love with you and do you really think he is worthy of your time. whats next marriage? if he can treat you like this then he can cheat and do you really think you can change that if you cant change the phoning habbits?? good luck ( women can train any man, if she learns how to be a trainer)
2006-07-20 13:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this is a problem, if he works nights, then perhaps this is totally normal, I have a funny feeling that this more about him going out and then calling you when he is done, drunk or ready for some action. If so, here is my two cents worth:
If you are not worth him making time for during hours that allow you to have quality time with each other then he is not the right person for you.
Look into the mirror and realize that you are worth much much more, don't allow yourself to settle for being someone's booty call (if no sex is involved then why can't he make plans with you during the day, go for a walk, perhaps talk when the sun is up)
Demand better and you will get better, you show people how you want to be treated, set the bar high, expect respect and you will eventually find someone who shower you with it.
2006-07-20 20:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by peacein 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes ofcourse u r his last option ,,
if u want to be sure then do as i told u ,,, when he calls late night don't unswer and when he ask u the next day why u didn't unswer ? tell him that u was sleep but u realy wanted to talk with him then ask him to call u much sooner .. if he did then he is realy a busy guy & u r not his last choise ,,,
but,,
if he keeps calling u late at night or he stopped calling at all ,,then u r his last choise ... and u then must leave him & dump him for good & search for another guy that value u & treat u good ..
it'll be hard ,,but its the right thing to do ,,
its better to know now ,,, don't waste ur time with someone puts u in the bottom of his list ..right ?
goodluck ;)
2006-07-20 20:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nicholet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel a man is putting you last you don't need him find someone that haves time for you. Don't put him in your life because you need to come first and what he's doing not taken you to the club. He should be taking you out to eat shopping and a lot of places because that is a real man. A real man will put you first in a relationship.
2006-07-20 20:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sunlite/Sunrise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't answer the call! Let him call at a decent time not that late.You are being taken advantage of and as long as u answer hes going to keep doing it and u fall for it hook,line and sinker.
2006-07-20 20:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by very concerned55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be a late night person. Give him a chance.
2006-07-20 20:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way down on his list. He has no respect for you. Dump the guy. B
2006-07-20 20:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl i feel you my boyfriend is similar to yours. He probably is thinking about you all the time. but he just don't want to show it cause he tryin to act all hard. he probably feels that he can call you when he feels like it. you should talk to him about it.
2006-07-20 20:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that your thier when he wants you, are only a convince. Give it up you know you deserve better!
2006-07-20 20:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lill" Bit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry... sweetie... it sounds like your last on his list..... !!! Move on to the next one..... this one has his priorities all mixed up ...
2006-07-20 20:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋