Here's the deal..33yrs old and my neighbor who is single/ good looking and probably way out of my league..lives above me and I'm dying to just ask him out for a drink but i cant get up the nerve. What's my deal guys...why am i so chickens***! I feel like Im back in high school or something....could it be:
* i've been in relationships that resulted in my bf cheating on me?
* my looks/ weight
* he's white and im black ( doesnt matter to me, but it may matter to him...HELLLLLPPPP
2006-07-20 13:00:24 · 16 answers · asked by ladytina30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not ask him over for a home cooked meal first. Remember, Grandma always said "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" (the way to control his head is through another way) I'm a man, and mama and grandma were right. Food does work. Few men can resist a home cooked meal. Hey,... good food, a bottle of wine, candle light, good converstion, soft music in the background,.. and.....who knows? Try to time it so you meet him getting the mail, or in the hall, the laundry etc. Tell him how it's hard to cook for yourself (I assume you're alone) how you always make too much etc. Get on the subject of favourite foods and dinner and go from there.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-20 14:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People of both genders can be shy at any age. Sorry about the cheating b/fs - it does happen to all of us - at least once. If you don't like the way you look, and your weight, why not start walking and eating healthily? Maybe get a new hair cut, or change your makeup or glasses. I don't think the black and white thing matters to any intelligent people any more - just hope that this guy is not a jerk that way.
Good luck in opening the next chapter of your life!
2006-07-20 13:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a combination of everything you stated, but more than likely it is just that you really like the guy and you fear rejection.
You feel as though he has all the power and has the capability of crushing your ego, ergo your life with one simple word, "no". You feel that you will be embarrassed beyond belief if he not only rejects you, but ridicules you by laughing at how you could DARE to think that HE would even consider going out with the likes of puny you.
Hey. . . Now you know how all of us guys constantly feel and what we have to constantly face every day.
Just be brave and start talking to him. The worst thing that could happen is that he says, "no" --- and then you move on to the next guy.
Good Luck, most guys (I for one) would be honored and flattered to have a girl ask me out.
2006-07-20 13:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past issues may not have anything to do with your shyness. Sometimes people are just shy. Yes, it's normal. Who knows? Maybe your neighbor is also shy and waiting for you to make the first move.
My husband is extremely shy. If I hadn't made any effort to ask him out, he never would have. If I hadn't done this, we wouldn't be married now. Give it a shot! You have nothing to lose.
2006-07-20 13:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is perfectly normal 4 a 33yr old lady 2 B shy.
Im 22 & half the time Im nervous when I meet new people that I dont know or when other people introduce me 2 them.
4 example, my cousin introduce me 2 a gay guy & I didnt know how 2 react around him, so I was nervous around him.
2006-07-20 13:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be fear of repeating the past
It could be fear of rejection..
if you want to find out.. you'll have to bite the bullett and ask him..
could be he's to shy to ask you..
if your weight or color is a problem for him.. then it's HIS problem.. leave him be..
You can't teach an old dog New tricks
2006-07-20 13:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by helpme1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self-esteem is probably shot from your past experiences with men! Don't say he is out of your league!
Just ask him out! You never know!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-20 13:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by loudy_foudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not going to lose anything by asking him !! GO FOR IT ,,and forget about those reasons its only keeps u from going after what u want which my turn out to be the best thing ever happend to u ,, Its ur chance ..TAKE IT
2006-07-20 13:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Nicholet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness doesn't have an age, lifes' experiences are the source. now ask him out!
2006-07-20 13:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry! I cant help! But.. You could...
-Lose weight
-Go on a MAJOR shopping spree!
-or be yourself and ask him out
Your choice
2006-07-20 13:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋