my boyfriend of a year and a half cheated on me a couple months ago and i broke up with him as soon as i found out. but last night i was listening to so me music and he just popped up in my head and i started to cry i cried so much that i cried myself to sleep what can i do to get him out of my head i think that i still love him and it hurts so much to know thati will never be with him ever again please be serious about the answer that you put please.
2006-07-20 12:48:06 · 18 answers · asked by kris42008 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all let me tell you; you did the best thing by breaking up with him. DO NOT CONTACT HIM OR TRY TO GET BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM. You would never be able to trust him and when you are in a relationship you need to be with a guy you can trust. I am glad to hear you began to cry because you know what? That means you are on the road to getting over him. You MUST go through a time where you grieve the loss of him and the relationship. Your feelings are normal. With time the hurt will subside. Don't get me wrong you will see things and hear things that will remind you of him but you will see every time that happens the pain will get less and less. You needed to let this guy go so you could be free when the right guy comes along. Keep your chin up! You deserve better. Remember this guy has shown himself to be untrustworthy and when someone shows you who they are believe them! You will survive him!
2006-07-20 13:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by strawberries 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You truly will never get all the way over him. The best thing to do is keep yourself busy by being with friends/family, shopping or any other activity or hobby. Go out with friends (I wouldn't suggest any men right away). Depending on your age go out and live your life to the fullest. Do things you enjoy perhaps that he didn't. Try and focus on things you didn't like about him and think to yourself could you really have lived like that for the rest of your life? Beings that he cheated on you he most likely would cheat on you again. Imagine maybe sitting in a restaurant or bar and some "babes" come in, would you truly know what he was thinking. I was with someone for 8 years (engaged 4) thought I knew him well but unfortunately I got ill and he needed a break. I thought to myself what if I was married to him would he still need a break when he was to stand by me through sickness and health. Believe me I still think about him now and then and it still is hard but I just remember the rough times and go on with my day. Good Luck. Things definitely will get better I am sure of that. Just give your heart time to heal because you already know what you want in your mind.
2006-07-20 13:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by greekgirl31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying that you are not the first or the last to be in such a situation. You did the right thing to break up with him as you found out that he cheated on you. With Aids and all the nigh mares out there, you don't want to run the risk of catching some thing from him.
I don't know how close you two were for the time you were together. It is normal for you to cry over him and it will take some time to get over him. Right now you are hurt inside and you need to give your self time to heal from your situation.
It is normal for you to still feel in love with him and up to this point is a decision you alone hold the key as were to go from there if to bring him back into your life. You will have sleepless night crying and tossing as well as thoughts starting world war one and two in your head and psyche over him if you don't fight them off.
In as much as you are in pain, it is still better than to be married to him and for him to have cheated on you like that. Just think of the pain and all you have to go through with a divorce.
2006-07-20 13:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt because he betrayed you and you loved him. You will be okay again. I've been through it and I know that this does pass. You will be so over him and on to someone better. It is hard at first and it will probably take months for the pain to lesson.
If you need to cry, it's okay. Afterward, get up and do some thing empowering. listen to something powerful like Gloria Gaynor's I will survive. Get out and hang with your true friends. Go do something special and fun for yourself. Prove to yourself that you will not let this creep keep you down.
2006-07-20 12:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o baby girl, i am so sorry to hear that i know how u really fell. but the only thing i can say is u are very smart and intelligent and u will find the right guy that loves u and respect u. so go out have fun with Ur girls and don't lesson to love songs, no matter what it is, it is going to make u think of him. good luck
2006-07-20 12:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by sweet84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
What you need to do is remember that he cheated on YOU. He should be the one crying. You are better than him. But if you really want to get back together with him, first talk to him and see if he wants to get back together with you. If he does make sure that he knows that you really got hurt when he cheated on you
If you want more advice from me e-mail me at missadvicegiver@yahoo.com
2006-07-20 12:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by advice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he cheated to you thats a diff story...i know it hurt a lot dear but if you will call him and ask him back...who knows if he still wants you or not. maybe he wants you back but he might cheat again....this is all up to you and you know better. your the only person could feel if he really loves you or not. i just wish that what ever decision you make is the right one for you.
2006-07-20 12:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After breakup and listening to some songs that i used to listen when being with him , brings him up in my head too. But, i thought that i don't want to ever get back with him again and i kept those thoughts in my head, i don't regret saying that cause it's better for me.
2006-07-20 12:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm i know wat u mean...break ups hurt..esspecially when the person cheats on u! heres my advice on how to get over him fast and move on...i read this in a magazine once and it reeli helped me..take away anything and everything that reminds you of him..pictures stuffed animals etc etc...also if a sad song comes on the radio or sumthing dont listen to it change the channel(i kno after one of my break ups i was so depressed and rnb lovey songs just made it worse..listen to sum happy tunes)..also cut off all contact with him..dont tlk to him on the fone..or on instant messenger none of that..take him out of ur phone book ur cell basically anything that u mite stumble upon that will remind u of him..i kno it mite be hard to if ur still tlking to him but it must be done..after uve practicly removed all of evidence of him ever being in ur life move on..go to the salon and get ur nails done or get a new haircut or color..sumthin fun to improve ur image and give u a little self confidence..and of course a few nites out with the grls will do the trik..plus just think u have the freedom to hook up with any hottie u want?? i kno break ups are hard but this is wat i used to do when i had a reeli hard break up..hope this helps! take care!!!
2006-07-20 13:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. one thing i have to say is good job for breaking up with him because more times then not the girls always stay with they guy hoping that they will change and end up getting walked all over. what helped me was just getting involved with my friends, going out having a good time, talking to other people...it's easier said then done to get over someone, but time heals all wounds...that's all you can do is just wait it out, when you start feeling sad just think of what he did to make you break up with him in the first place. good luck...
2006-07-20 12:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by whoami? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋