How can most men run out on their children and not think twice about it????

Question

It amazes me how some parents can just run out on their children! That child is a part of both mother and father, how can you leave a piece of you behind and just forget it?

Answer 1

That question is a little unfair...women do it too. If a man does it he's a jerk, if a woman does it she's independent. Double standard going on here.

Either way they're selfish and don't want the responsibility.

Answer 2

It's not only men who run out on their children. I've known women who walked away. Biology does not make a parent, it's what is in the heart. When asked why they left, the prevailing answer was fear. They couldn't rise to the challenge of parenthood. They realized it was a lifetime obligation and they did not want to be hampered. When men leave, they often think children belong with the mother. Most courts will grant the mother custody anyway. Some women will leave because they just don't want to be full time mothers. The reasons and circumstances are many. I'm sure the people who walk away are the only ones to understand their own motivations.

Answer 3

You should ask my 'Biological father' that. Or 'idiot' as we now refer to him in our household. My mum and he, split up when i were about 10 years old.

When I were 12, he left me, my sister of 10 and my little brother of 5 without a reason. He just stop calling for visits. He never bothered sending a card. We have seen him driving around in our Town many a-time as he is now working in the Taxi business yet he claims to social services that he has no job and this is just so he doesn't have to pay my mum anything in benefits.

How the hell can one man tear out three loving children out of his life? How could a man do such a thing knowing full well that it could and most probably would impose lasting emotional scars upon his 'precious' children. The children he watched being welcomed into the world. The children he saw Christmas after Christmas - Birthday after Birthday - year after year.

I'll tell you why. It is simple.

He is an utter coward who cannot own up to the fact that he has a responsibilty to care for his children and for once, behave like a free-thinking, caring ADULT.

I hate him now. Apsolutely deteste the guy. I thank my mum so much for all she has done and i swore to her, ' If it weren't for you - I don't know what i'd have done by now. I would honestly rather live in a hostel or out in the streets than sooner live with that sorry excuse for a dad' And that is the truth.

But that's what he wanted. Seperation from his children? A bit of a break from the responsibilty of being a father? Well, that never ceases and in conclusion - it's always going to be a deep regret in his sad, cold and lonely life. And i'm glad.

Answer 4

Idiots who ask questions like this are under the feminist indoctrination that " 'all men' are [insert nasty name here] ".
When feminists do their studies, they 'forget' to include a lot of data when revealing their statistics. For example, the old lie "women only earn £ or $ [insert random double digit here] to a mans' £1 or $1" is fabrication based on misinformation and consealing information pertinent to the study. Such as blanketing women's CHOICE to work part-time vs men's normal full time employment, more hours per week, less sick-time, education and other relevent factors and such like. All these very much important points are simply "forgotten" about, because that might make men look like decent, upstanding citizens.. but feminism can't have that now, can they? Another example; it is 75% of divorces that are iniated by women - not men. In over 70% of contested custody battles, women win.
When a man is the primary carer - judges uses "tradition" to justify handing over the holy grail; children. When the women are the primary carer, it is only fair. Whichever way the man goes, he is almost certainly destined to pay for her boob job or cruise via the Child Scare Agency while she gets to dump the kids in a publicly funded day-care so her days are freed up to spend her government handouts & C$A money on herself without having to substantiate a single penny of her squandering.
Females on average pay less C$A than do their male counterparts for no other reason aside from their genitalia, the C$A refuse to chase females with similar vigour that they do men regardless of circumstance and it's the same when you look at female paedophiles... women get far more lenient treatment than do men.
Look at all sectors of society and you'll see the same pattern: women choose, men pay.

Also, it's been drawn to my attention ( I hadn't noticed prior to someone mentioning it ) how ironic it is that you blanket statement ALL MEN , yet your previous questions condemns people for making blanket assumptions about chubby people... Ahhh now i understand, it's OK when YOU accuse 1/2 the planet of a wrongdoing, but it's NOT ok when someone else makes an assumption on you, right?

Answer 5

I think that's a very unfair statment considering that women run out on thier children aswell. But the another problem is that the some mothers won't let the fathers see the children and use the kid as way of getting back at the fathers. So sometimes it out of thier control!

Answer 6

It is not only men believe me. I was left with my children by their mother. The truth is you can't really just forget your children, they will always be on your mind so where down the line.Now that person more then likely has a mate and that is helping them out but just remember later on when they get older l would bet they would love to have their child around. I find myself wondering now mine are older and spending their time with their mother more and more, it happens now but it sure did not back when she left us. For me my children are part of both of us, we made them!! How and why it happens when it happens is more then likely they had not really thought out so to them they are not hurting the children or themselves.

Answer 7

Most of the time it is immaturity and selfcenteredness. Usually many years later they realize what a mistake it was but by then it is too late. Also, sometimes, the man doesn't love the mother or visa versa and therefore they transpose that dislike to the child who is an extention of that person. Unfair but life is unfair. My father deserted us and as my mother said, he was just uncapable of loving another human being more than himself, not to take it personal (like that is possible). Hope that helps.

Answer 8

Most men?????? Sorry to burst your bubble there kiddo, but its a two way street. My mother ditched out on my father and I when I was 3. He had to work 2 jobs at the same time raise me and go to night school. Its almost sad the number of "single mother" crap you see out there. Show me ONE single father shelter or something like that. It amazes me how some women want to be just as equal as men BUT they still want to be treated like a lesser sex. ie; They want men to pay for the date, they want men to make the first move. How many women gold diggers compaird to men gold diggers...the list goes on.

Yes its true that women make 75cents for a mans $1. BUT men work almost twice as much overtime as women, so of course we are going to get paid more.

To be honest, my wife loves being a stay at home wife. She gets to spend money all day and really all she has to do is clean up a little. Women screwd themselves. The Heart Attack rate has gone up, average life expectancy for a woman has gone down, women are now getting more and more stress related conditions, and now its almost impossible for a young couple to survive unless the wife works.

Now by no means am I a woman hater. I was raised by my father and his 6 sisters. One could argue that I was overcompensated by not having a mother. Its just a little funny to me, double standards go both ways.

Answer 9

Alot of these men are losers out here. I have a 14 year old son and a 9 year old son. Both of their fathers are deadbeats. And the thing that really bothers me is the 14 year old dad is dating a girl with 4-5 kids, and none of them are his, but he is taking care of them! Now how about that? You just take care of yourself. Good luck.

Answer 10

I have an ex who has done that to his 3 kids, in the past 5 yrs he has seen them for about 1 yr in total. Even when our youngest son ended up in hospital 2 yrs ago with a brain tumor and as a result Cancer, he only visited once, and that was to hear the oncologist tell him it is serious and not joke as he had thought. He has told me he only wants to know things if its serious or important,other than that he doesn't want to know.Men like him are heartless, and only think of themselves, and i know that they will get their comupance sooner or later. As a result of his actions, none of our children call him dad,or even want him involved in their lives

Answer 11

What are you talking about? Most men who run out on their children think at least 3 times about it.
You make me sick!