If there is a God up, there, the God of all religions, if you get me, why didn't he answer my constant prayers

Question

...and give me custody of my daughter, when I could have made a great dad. I love her so much. Now I won't see her again until she's 18. Fathers get no rights, makes me so angry at the law system. I'm so angry at God now, I doubt there is even a God at all, i'm just so angry at him/her if they do exist. I tried so hard but got nothing. Social service just look out for themselves nowadays to and do what they think will be the easiest thing for them. Not what bvest for family and my daughter.

Okay most of you want to know what happened, long story but i'll try to make it short, her mum turned out to be a bad mum, we broke up and my parents i was living with stopped me seeing her and my daughter, and she cut off contact too after a while. Then the social services took my daughter away for neglect. I wanted to be with my daughter every day, I never regret conceiving her, she's wonderful. For some stupid reason, no real excuse except I cuz I didnt get to see her for year (she just turned two) which was not my fault, and as a result i'm unsuitable and I only get to HEAR about how she is once a year. She's in foster care aand will soon be adopted, and I can;t do a thing about it because it was final. Full stop. Everyone who knows me knew i'd be a great dad for her too. I miss her every day. Seems like God doesn't even see my pain.

Answer 1

he doesnt like you deal with it

Answer 2

I think the laws on parenthood and fathers' complete lack of rights really stink and I really sympathise. I know a number of dads going through such horrible difficulties. Hopefully before but at least when she is older I think she will be so close to you.

I'm no Christian, but maybe if God could answer all our prayers life would be boring? Maybe there are other ways (same God, if you like) that you could ask for some spiritual guidance and support. I don't know, just trying, I suppose to help, a lot of people talk about asking their dreams what they should do in difficult situations? I don't know, just an idea.

Answer 3

First of all you don't even know if God is a man or a woman?? I'm sorry for the sufferings you're going through right know, but you have to think for a second and ask yourself if you really deserved what God did by not granting you your daughter. Have you always been a really really good person. Have you always honered God, read the Bible and dedicated time exclusively to Him? People from God don't practice anger... they understand all, and most importantly, they know God has something better planned for them (you). What did you expect. Hey, you never know what can happen in the future, maybe there'll be another trial, just keep praying and practice your faith.

Answer 4

I'm sorry, thats a really sad story, I hardly ever saw my dad when I was growing up so I can go someway to understand what you are feeling.
I promise you, God loves you and he is listening. I know that a lot of the time his decisions don't make sense to us, but we don't know everything He does. God wouldn't give you life and then abandon you, I hope that some time you can come to understand this. It's okay for you to be angry at God, if you are feeling like this he knows anyway so tell him how you are feeling and ask to be comforted.
And don't give up hope on your daughter, when she is older she might want to find you and you may see her again. Something good will come of this, some way down the line.

Answer 5

I'm sorry for your pain. Sometimes God says no, but He does answer all prayers.

I don't know why you didn't get custody of your daughter. I don't know why God would allow it to happen, if that was indeed His will. But here is what I do know:

You can sit and wallow in your grief. You can do nothing and sit back and bemoan your circumstances. Or you can get up and change things. If you see injustice in the Social Services, speak up, change it, go have the law changed or whatever you see the problem to be.

That doesn't appeal to you? Then instead of directing your anger towards God, why not turn it into something useful and determine to meet all of the Social Services criteria so that you can get your daughter back. I know from prior experience with them that nothing is cut-and-dried, things change, circumstances change, people can change, if they are determined hard enough to do so.

It's up to you. Wallow or wake up.

Answer 6

First I would like to say that God loves you.He created us and he knows what is best for us at this present moment.Sometimes we do not always get what we want right when we want it.We don't always understand God's plan either.
My husband had to leave me and my 2 kids for a year to go to war.I did not understand why and I ask God many times.Well, He finally answered my question after about 7 months gone.Now I know why my husband had to go and I thank God everyday for it.He has a plan for you.
Have you ever heard the term, P-U-S-H?It stands for pray until something happens.Continue to pray, anything can happen.The key to prayer is faith, if you believe you shall recieve.

My first question to you is, Are you a Christian?
Are you saved?
Sometimes we tend to call on God only when we are in a predicament, other than that we forget all about him.

My suggestion to you is, really search your heart.God is real...He's all around us.Have you had an experience in Him?
Keep praying and I will be praying for you too!!
God Bless you!

Answer 7

I haven't even read any of the other answers - God my heart goes out to you - Listen, write to your daughter every few months addressed to your own address. Your daughter will look for you when she is older (as a lot of adopted children seem to be doing now), you can then give her every letter you have ever written to her and this will tell her so much. I cannot say I know exactly how you feel, I can only think of my losses but your question pours out your pain. It is bloody terrible that your own flesh and blood is taken by faceless heartless people but use your time to build something for her. When it is her 16th birthday start puting her name out to every missing/adopted site you know of. Put a picture of her out there too.

I don't know what else to say to you - God works in mysterious ways and we don't always understand his logic.

I hope you can find peace - your daughter will find you eventually. I'm sorry

Answer 8

Wow, i cannot imagine how you must feel, I Know that God answers prayers but I also know that htere are some things that God decides not to answer. But more importantly is Judgement day. The Bible says there will be a day of Judgement and all thoughts words and deeds will be brought to light. The Ten Commandments will be Gods standard so lets look at a few to see how you will do.

Have you ever lied (even once--fibs, white lies, etc.)? Ever stolen (anything--the value is irrelevant)? Jesus said, "Whoever looks upon a woman to lust after her, has committed adultery already with her in his heart." Have you ever looked with lust? If you have said "Yes" to these three questions, by your own admission, you are a lying, thieving, adulterer at heart; and we’ve only looked at three of the Ten Commandments.
What a shock! Nothing you’ve ever done is hid from His holy eyes. Will you be innocent or guilty on the Day of Judgment? Listen to your conscience. You know that you will be guilty, and the Bible says that if God judges you according to your sin you could end up in Hell. That’s not God’s will. He provided a way for you and I to be forgiven.
He sent His Son to take our punishment: "God commended His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." He was bruised for our iniquities. Jesus then rose from the dead and defeated death.
Your own so-called “goodness” can’t get you into heaven any more than mine could. Jesus is the only way to Heaven. He is the "Door," the only "mediator." There is salvation in no other name, so pray something like this: "Dear God, I repent of all of my sins (confess them). This day I put my trust in Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. Please forgive me and grant me your gift of everlasting life. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen."

Answer 9

I guess there is more to this than meets the eye. Maybe the people she will be around at school or in the neighborhood are going to help her grow more socially and emotionally. It doesn't mean you wouldn't have been a good father, it just means that something about the people she needs to be around are the best support system for now. It could change in the future. Good luck.

Answer 10

God doesn't always give you what you want...He gives you what you need. God has a plan for everything and He teaches in His plan. He doesn't want to supply you with your daughter because He wants patience to come out of this. Faith is huge in this part because everything always happens for a reason, which is God's reason. Also, the world is full of sin, and God made it that way because of Adam and Eve. Everything cannot go perfectly or as planned or as wanted by any human being. God controls all and His will shall be done, in time. Ask God to give you the strength and patience with him and your daughter, for you shall be reunited with her someday. I shall pray for you and I hope that this helps.

Answer 11

I am sorry for your troubles> Sometimes we dont' understand the way things go..it is hard>but in the end I believe it's all for the best>and one day the faithful will see God's glory> he loves us all...and knows what is best> just like a parent who takes things away from children to protect them> keep praying even in hard times and God will reward your fidelity!! God bless.