He will say no to EVERYTHING even if you ask him if he wants candy he'll say no and then cry when you don't deliver, he's not bratty or rude at daycare and he's really good with the please and thankyous at home but this no thing is driving me insane! Anybody know any good NO stopping tricks??
2006-07-20 12:11:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'm not a dictator! I'll ask if he wants to wear batman or spiderman or if he wants toast or a banana, he's capable of telling me his wants, if i have two of something he'll pick..he says no to things like when we are reading he'll repeat words like...the...he'll say NO the!!
2006-07-20 12:28:11 · update #1
NO is a new word. He knows it works. Don't let it work anymore.
Use positive reinforcement. When you ask him to finish dinner and he says no, tell him very calmly, "yes, you have to finish dinner, then we will color a nice picture." Allow him to have a little input into dinner choices. Ask him if he would rather have spaghetti or chicken. Don't give him more than 2 choices. Then repeat what he told you. "Ok, Chicken it is. Mommy has to cook it and then we can eat!" He feels included that way.
If you ask him to put his toys away before going to the park, and he says no....tell him "Yes. You need to put your toys away so we can leave for the park." Make it fun for him, using happy voice so he will get excited and want to do it. Show him that mommy is putting her things away too, like washing dishes so you can go to the park.
Kids like to feel involved in family decisions, and he can do that without it being too much trouble...if you give him simple choices.
***I came back this morning and re-read your question and some of the following answers. I'm sorry I misunderstood your question. I think in the case you are describing with reading and he says "no" to a word, you should ignore it the first time. Then tell him, "Please stop, or we will put the book away." Then the second time, don't make it an option. "I told you to stop, and you didn't. It's time to put the book away." And don't give in. Very calmly get up, put the book away, and move on with other things. He will get angry or sad, but just ignore him. Remind him that he was warned, and didn't go by the rules, and that's why you put the book away. He will eventually learn. This is a very trying time, but it is part of his attempt to discover independence. And it does (believe it or not) get better. ****
2006-07-20 12:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One more suggestion for you: try NOT asking him yes/no questions (do you want the candy?) or telling him what to do (eat the candy!). Instead, try giving him a choice---Would you rather eat the candy now or later? Would you like the candy or a banana? The red shirt or the blue shirt? Read two bedtime stories or three bedtime stories? Even a two year old is capable of choosing between A or B. Start training him now to make decisions and he will grow in confidence and independence---which will make YOUR job easier!
2006-07-20 12:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by alwaysright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is starting to realize he has independence. This is the normal for all 2 year olds. I went through these times pretending we were having backwards day. If you try to completely stop this, you will be stopping some of his growth. His mind needs to explore its boundaries just like when he was putting everything within reach in his mouth. You will realize later in life, while in a grocery store or something, when you see a kid who is just a fussing and hollering. You will automatically know he's 3. Thats also a stage of growth. 2 and 3 are when they realize their independence and are testing the boundaries. And for god's sake, don't spank him. You would prefer he learn things other than if you can't make someone behave in the manner you want, you hit them.
2006-07-20 12:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by wzrdsndrgns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no help for "No!" Sorry but I think most children at the age of 2 (Terrible Twos) say "No" more than any other word. Don't worry its just a phase and it will pass.
You could try the copy game. Every time your child says No repeat No several times. Also the rhyming game. When they say no think of every word you can to follow that rhymes with no.
Your child will get mad but they will stop the "No" word.
2006-07-24 02:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by exotic69n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 00:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO is an easy word to say and it gets a reaction from you! He is TWO - struggling for independence -
get ready, it last well into three and four years of age.
Ignore the no - be careful not to set yourself up for him to say no - like asking questions that require a yes or no answer.
2006-07-20 13:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by paisley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter had the same problem tell i stoped telling her on i stared using (not right now, maybe later) and the only time we use the word NO is when we ask if she wants something and we always aks yes or no another thaing to try is promoting the use of more word and try not to get to frazaled or up set he will grow out of it
2006-07-20 17:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by misscb911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ask him a question answerable by yes or no. That is what works here with my son.
You also reinforce good choices with praise and positive words.
2006-07-20 17:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is totally normal. She is figuring out that that word means control. She is learning that she can set boundaries. It is most kids' favorite word at that age.
2006-07-23 00:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every kid likes the word no they will grow out of it and learn new words sorry i couldn't be of more help.
2006-07-20 12:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by Karen N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋